eziranec Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 My fellow brothers, Recently I broke up with my girlfriend and she has tried more than a hundred things to make it up to me. Ultimately, she decided on sexual acitivites to manipulate me into loving her anymore. And here is the retaliation: Before you make arrangements to see her, make sure you take care of your sexual urges with master....(or whichiever way). This way, her sexual offers won't affect you at all. What do you all think?
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 I think its a really good idea and quite considerate, that way you wont hurt her by using her just for sex when she's obviously trying to get back together with you and still emotionally vulnerable. Good on ya.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Huh? I'm confused... Why are you still in contact with her knowing that she wants back but you don't? If she's trying to manipulate you and you're expecting it/see through her tactics, why not ignore it? Even better, stay away from her. She's obviously hurting so staying in contact only keeps her on a string.
alwayshurt Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 No offense but I think it is really pathetic. You broke up with this girl becuase evidently you don't love her anymore or whatever you reasons are. She might as well hurt you and now she is trying to make it up becuase she loves you. I am not saying tha you have to take her back or being a doormat. But retaliation is a very cruel and immature way to punish somebody. Whatever it is she is still a human being with feelings. bear in mind that she is going thru a lot of emotional stress. Why don't you just avoid seing her and let her heal from the breakup? By doing what you said you make things worse for her. Put yourself in her shoes for 1 min and see how you'd feel. By not seing her, you would already punish this person but at least you will maintain your dignity as human being.
Author eziranec Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 How can I not see her? She knows where I work, she knows where I live, she has all my phone number/email contact. She knows my school schedule. She always finds some way of finding me. Honestly, I dont want to see and talk to her, but it is way beyond my control to not have her see me. You expect me to move, change my phone numbers, change my work, change my school schedule ... all so I control her not to her herself by not being available in society? How in the world can I possibly NOT make myself available for her to ever see me? All she has to do is come to the school library and search for me and just sit until I get annoyed and talk to her. How can I avoid this?
blueladybird Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 lol....did u she cheat on you or what?? tell me why you dont want to see her so much and i will give u a BIG tip that wud work..lol.
Author eziranec Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 She's not a very happy person to be with, she's depressed half the time and she dont really know how to make me happy.
Author eziranec Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 She's not a very happy person to be with, she's depressed half the time and she dont really know how to make me happy.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 How can I not see her? She knows where I work, she knows where I live, she has all my phone number/email contact. She knows my school schedule. She always finds some way of finding me. Honestly, I dont want to see and talk to her, but it is way beyond my control to not have her see me. You expect me to move, change my phone numbers, change my work, change my school schedule ... all so I control her not to her herself by not being available in society? How in the world can I possibly NOT make myself available for her to ever see me? All she has to do is come to the school library and search for me and just sit until I get annoyed and talk to her. How can I avoid this? You control your actions. You decide how to avoid or ignore her. Why not tell her to stop stalking you? If she happens to go to the same school, the library is open to all other students. You only need to take action when she approaches you directly.
Spinderella Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 So she is depressed, and confused, and hurting from the break up, and though for her own sake she shouldnt be trying to be physical with you, she is hoping that you will want her back. Dont you think it is a bit cruel to be stringing her along by being physical with her, even if its her making the first moves? If you know what you want, and it sounds like you do, then be a decent person and dont take what you can get from someone in a vulnerable frame of mind.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Oh, lest I forget, just call block her on your phone and don't respond to text messages.
paddypencil Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 this is from a womans point of view: we will try everything to make it up to th one we love, dont listen to it and don't take s*** for one minute. its the oldest trick in the book, us women think we can put on a low top and make ourselves look great and seduce him, itsnot fair&ye men should stand up for yourselves!!
birdie Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 yeah! you men stand up to yourselves! don't let women charm you too much with their lowcut tops and sexuality. so unfair
Trialbyfire Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Absolutely. Don't be lettin' those wimmins victimize you with their offers of sex.
TogetherForever Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Just tell her to stalk someone else. That is the best advice I've heard all day. ;)TF
SunnyLady Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 I feel a little sympathy for this girl. I can''t believe some of the hurtful comments i'm reading on here. "Tell her to stalk someone else". Come on...put your self in her shoes for a minute. This girl, as unappealing as she was to you probably had her reasons...regardless it dsnt change the fact that she is emotionally tied to you. Why do you choose to use the term "manipulate?". You say you called it off due to several reasons, she didnt cheat on you or anything so basically the split was your doing right? You should be aware of how desperate women become when rejected. I'm not taking sides with her inspite of my female gender but i do think you need to take into consideration that her "maniupualtion" in your own words, may simply be her attempt to keep you attached in a vid to win you back. You stated it clearly yourself, surely that dsnt make her evil? Talk to her, break it down to her as gently as possible that things cannot work out for whatever reason and that it would be in your best interest (and hers as well) if you refrained from contact for now. You say she keeps stalking you, well i'm sure if you had a heart to herat discussion she would calm down maybe? Except she is THAT stalkerish. In that case, well i' not sure what you shd do. You seem upset though...as though she did something wrong to you? Why are your feelinsg towards her so harsh? She was once your girlfriend wasnt she? Anyway i hope it all goes well. Just exercise some patience with her. Women can be very soft atimes. Its not manipulation, she is simply longing for you.
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