sweetbutcheeky Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 For those of you following my threads you know I have been dating a guy who seemed too good to be true, but at the same time I haven't been able to figure out how I feel about him. Anyway tonight we went out and almost everything annoyed me about him and he isn't the same as he used to me. When we started going out he didn't mention a thing about coming to pick me up then going out. Now he has started asking me to take the streetcar and subway to meet him where he lives so he doesn't have to do as much driving. (he isn't that far away, but is saying now how much driving it is ...) He will come here but there isn't much to do at night (beside a movie theater but movies suck right now) so since he won't drive far tonight we ended up walking around then driving around then made it a early night cause there was no where to go and I think I was glad to just end the night. Almost every date he asks me what days I work, it's the same days every week and every time he asks me since we met! Stop asking me! Same goes for when the house will be finished to have ppl over, the floor isn't started and it wasn't the last 5 times you asked me, stop asking!!! I just don't care about the plus side to him anymore, I don't want to kiss him and where I was curious about what sex would be like with him, now glad I never did and can't see myself wanting to.
glittergurl Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Well then I guess your decision is made lol It sounds like an obvious choice to me.
whichwayisup Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 It sounds like whatever it was between you two isn't there anymore. Fact that he used the gas is too expensive line - THAT IS BULLCRAP! Someone who really is into someone else doesn't go saying shi.t like that. Take afew days off and think about what you're looking for with this guy. Is HE worth it? Forget about what he may feel for you...What do you feel for him?
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 Well then I guess your decision is made lol It sounds like an obvious choice to me. There were little things that annoyed me but I blew them off, looked at the good things, started warming up to him, thinking about what bra and panties I was going to wear and giving little things (chocolate from work or something I found to help him fix his glasses). But tonight it was like a wake up, all the annoying things were so loud and the change of not picking me up for a few times now just got too much and going out and not doing anything because he didn't want to drive anywhere and then going home just pissed me off. It sounds like whatever it was between you two isn't there anymore. Fact that he used the gas is too expensive line - THAT IS BULLCRAP! Someone who really is into someone else doesn't go saying shi.t like that. Take afew days off and think about what you're looking for with this guy. Is HE worth it? Forget about what he may feel for you...What do you feel for him? I understand it makes sense I take the transit to save time so we have more time together, but it went from that to him just being lazy ... He didn't use the gas line, he used the "it's a lot of driving" line. Thing is I don't think it's that he isn't into me cause he called me 3-4 times yesterday and made sure that we had a date for Monday (would have been tomorrow if I wasn't busy). But I don't want to I just agreed at the time, but will tell him no.
SoHotZanzibar Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Find someone else that will be worthy of you. i never found the distance a bother to meet someone i liked
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Waiting is always a good thing. Sooner or later they relax from their best behaviour and you get to see the real man under the wrappings. Sometimes that man is amazing, other times...well...it's why dating before a relationship is a good thing...
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 I never found the distance a bother to meet someone i liked We are both downtown Toronto, he is 15-20 mins away with good traffic (30 max with bad traffic)
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 Waiting is always a good thing. Sooner or later they relax from their best behaviour and you get to see the real man under the wrappings. Sometimes that man is amazing, other times...well...it's why dating before a relationship is a good thing... So true ... Problem is this is the only situation that happens to me, I have never found the amazing man ....
SoHotZanzibar Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 We are both downtown Toronto, he is 15-20 mins away with good traffic (30 max with bad traffic) To me, that's ridiculous. I used to drive 50 minutes every visit for one girl. I never wanted her to drive out (and it wasnt because m place was a mess). It was just, for me, a nice gesture. Plus I liked the time I had in my car and i would think of ways I could impress her, make her happy, laugh, etc. And the ride home back I did much thinking about the date as well. I actually think its a healthy distance, especially in such a beautiful city. Again, he shouldnt make it such a bother. but thats just me
glittergurl Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 I agree. 20 or 30 min is actually a very nice distance.
AriaIncognito Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Sounds to me like your mind is made up. And that's ok. You don't have to be afraid of something not working out with someone. Heck, if all our relationships on here were working out, there'd be no site
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 Literally went from "It's only a half out to drive to where you live" to "It's a lot of driving" He didn't say he wouldn't drive to see me, just wouldn't drive anywhere once here (isn't anything to do right in my area at night) and won't drive to pick me up anymore and go to him place then drive me home. Will drive me home but wants me to street car and then subway up to him.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 Sounds to me like your mind is made up. And that's ok. You don't have to be afraid of something not working out with someone. Heck, if all our relationships on here were working out, there'd be no site Yes I have but am left really frustrated. And have to figure out what to do with him ...
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 The sooner you're upfront about what you feel, the better. The last thing you want to do is to string someone along. You and I seem to be on a parallel track lately. A couple of days ago, I just stopped dating a man I've been dating, for the last six weeks or so. For awhile now, he knew he wasn't doing it for me but still wanted to keep dating so I agreed. He's a great guy, everything anyone could ever ask for and more, and someone I should have been all over. I know it was me. As a matter of fact, my big sis told me I was retarded and she would be right.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 The sooner you're upfront about what you feel, the better. The last thing you want to do is to string someone along. You and I seem to be on a parallel track lately. A couple of days ago, I just stopped dating a man I've been dating, for the last six weeks or so. For awhile now, he knew he wasn't doing it for me but still wanted to keep dating so I agreed. He's a great guy, everything anyone could ever ask for and more, and someone I should have been all over. I know it was me. As a matter of fact, my big sis told me I was retarded and she would be right. Definatly being on a parallel track and looking for a different kind of man. (than the usual) Sorry to hear it didn't work out, I guess Should being the word of the day. Should be all over him and he should be want I was looking for, but just wasn't.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Hey, no sympathy is necessary. He wasn't led on and I didn't feel it was honest to keep going. It's better this way for both of us. He's such a catch that I'm thinking about setting him up with a friend of mine, having them casually meet at a dinner party. Once again, my big sis told me that was a retarded idea. She's good at telling me I'm retarded and she's usually right.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 Hey, no sympathy is necessary. He wasn't led on and I didn't feel it was honest to keep going. It's better this way for both of us. He's such a catch that I'm thinking about setting him up with a friend of mine, having them casually meet at a dinner party. Once again, my big sis told me that was a retarded idea. She's good at telling me I'm retarded and she's usually right. What are big sisters for? Just meant too bad it didn't work out for you or for both of us, because we deserve it!
Touche Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 The sooner you're upfront about what you feel, the better. The last thing you want to do is to string someone along. You and I seem to be on a parallel track lately. A couple of days ago, I just stopped dating a man I've been dating, for the last six weeks or so. For awhile now, he knew he wasn't doing it for me but still wanted to keep dating so I agreed. He's a great guy, everything anyone could ever ask for and more, and someone I should have been all over. I know it was me. As a matter of fact, my big sis told me I was retarded and she would be right. That's one smart as hell sister there! You should really listen to her. We all get to a point eventually..well most of us anyway, where we tire of the challenge and the games that come with a man who is just too much work. We get to a point where we get turned on by a man who puts us first. Who doesn't make us play games. Who puts his heart on the line. A man who "gets" us. A man who cherishes us. A man who isn't so full of his own insecurities that he can't appreciate us Goddesses. In other words...a man with whom you can build a life and a family with.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 What are big sisters for? Just meant too bad it didn't work out for you or for both of us, because we deserve it! Haha...she's one of a kind. Agreed, although for me, I'm in no mood for anything serious. Maybe I'll go back to the no-strings guys I was seeing after my separation. Fun. Better yet, be alone for awhile and get myself back to a state where I do feel like committing to someone. Who knows, this period might last forever, which in my eyes right now, seems like a good thing.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 That's one smart as hell sister there! You should really listen to her. We all get to a point eventually..well most of us anyway, where we tire of the challenge and the games that come with a man who is just too much work. We get to a point where we get turned on by a man who puts us first. Who doesn't make us play games. Who puts his heart on the line. A man who "gets" us. A man who cherishes us. A man who isn't so full of his own insecurities that he can't appreciate us Goddesses. In other words...a man with whom you can build a life and a family with. Yes, she tells me that everyday...big sis. No doubt I will get to that point. Drama boys are exhausting.
Touche Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 I have a funny feeling that this sister of yours is really one of a kind! You'll get to the right place and with the right person when you're ready lil' sis. I have no doubt about that. LYLAS!
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 ((big sis)) What would I do without you?
underpants Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 We all get to a point eventually..well most of us anyway, where we tire of the challenge and the games that come with a man who is just too much work. We get to a point where we get turned on by a man who puts us first. Who doesn't make us play games. Who puts his heart on the line. A man who "gets" us. A man who cherishes us. A man who isn't so full of his own insecurities that he can't appreciate us Goddesses. In other words...a man with whom you can build a life and a family with. This should also be a bumper sticker...although...I might not have enough vehicle? Well said Touche.... It goes both ways. That wise lion had my first bumber sticker endorsement. ....said the anti social middle child.
Krytie TV Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 I just don't care about the plus side to him anymore, I don't want to kiss him and where I was curious about what sex would be like with him, now glad I never did and can't see myself wanting to. This is a refreshing post Cheeky. I've been reading them for a while, and I say good for you. You deserve a good guy. They exist, but only to the one who pays attention. Hold out for a goodun... don't settle.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 We get to a point where we get turned on by a man who puts us first. Who doesn't make us play games. Who puts his heart on the line. A man who "gets" us. A man who cherishes us. A man who isn't so full of his own insecurities that he can't appreciate us Goddesses. In other words...a man with whom you can build a life and a family with. That has always the kind of man I have been attracted to. Problem is they act like him to start off and it wears off and find out they aren't even close. (Even to the point where I was engaged and he left and turned into a completely different person 3 weeks before the wedding) Finding the man above is the problem. This is a refreshing post Cheeky. I've been reading them for a while, and I say good for you. You deserve a good guy. They exist, but only to the one who pays attention. Hold out for a goodun... don't settle. Thank you very much. I know I deserve him too.
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