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I've known this guy for 2 years. we've always been friends but there's always been a little bit more than that. But we're both shy and nothing had really ever came of it. The past couple of parties we started haning out and flirting alot. He's suggested that we should hang out sometime. When nothing came from that, i asked him out. We had a really great date. near the end of the night he admitted how much he liked me. a week later i hadn't heard from him so i messaged him to ask him out again for later that week, he never responded. its now been 2&1/2 weeks since our date and i haven't heard from him. He is quite busy, but...

 

is it just me? i don't get it. We've know each other forever, we were still interested, and the date didn't go badly. why no response?

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You know Anya, I will never understand guys like that. You have already initiated contact a few times. I would personally be frustrated and leave the next call up to him.

 

There is nothing worse than always being the one to make a call. It's not attractive and it's frustrating, so don't even get there.

 

He's already said he likes you a lot. I am guessing it's safe to assume he will eventually call you if you show no sign of life for a while. The question is how long it will take him and how patient you are willing to be. Whatever the case, don't sit there and wait for the phone to ring; you'll get fed up in no time. Keep yourself busy and whatever happens happens :)

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It may not be intentional. If he's shy, he just doesn't call your because thats not the way he is. Maybe he is letting you bury him and move on to the next guy, cause he doesn't know if it is true and will last. Maybe just not much care or confidence. He might be wondering if he would keep you happy or is mature enough in his head to satisfy you enough for you to stay with him. Maybe he doesn't know what to do to keep you.

 

He is the way he is, and it ain't his fault. Things happened in his life, and he was raised in a certain way, so he just isn't like all those other yankees.

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You know, I'm sort of going through the same thing with a guy I've know for 1 and 1/2 years. I don't get it at all! Everyone is different though, and every guy has a different way of dealing with things.

 

Personally, if you guys are really friends, I don't see a problem with calling him!

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I've known this guy for 2 years. we've always been friends but there's always been a little bit more than that. But we're both shy and nothing had really ever came of it. The past couple of parties we started haning out and flirting alot. He's suggested that we should hang out sometime. When nothing came from that, i asked him out. We had a really great date. near the end of the night he admitted how much he liked me. a week later i hadn't heard from him so i messaged him to ask him out again for later that week, he never responded. its now been 2&1/2 weeks since our date and i haven't heard from him. He is quite busy, but...

 

is it just me? i don't get it. We've know each other forever, we were still interested, and the date didn't go badly. why no response?

 

Simple answer, someone who says they think THAT highly of you wouldn't wait over 2 weeks to make contact in a day and age where there are so many means available of doing so. Especially someone whom you've thought as acting like more than a friend, they would be all over the opportunity to taking it to the next level.

 

But in this case if you've known each other for a long time and are still able to maintain that friendship beyond what happened that may be good rather than have nothing as a result of a relationship with high potential to go sour from him being a deadbeat.

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