How can yu tell if a girl likes if you... but you only talk onlie and on the phone

[Green]

yea, it works in theory. but when you literally risk your grades for her by staying up all night talking yo her, you cant just forget. i dont care that im 18. i dont care about other girls in my classes. i just plain dont care. she is the only girl for me right now and nobody telling me to just forget her, is going to make it all better. ive put so much into this relationship that to just forget... is like giving up in what you believe in. i have and will continue to put 1000000% to her until the day when she says, "no, i dont like you like that" and until that time, she will get more than 10000000% effort to her and building this relationship to the next level.

 

What Ive told you works in theory and in practice. The most important thing that other girl in this thread told you is not to get your hopes up to much yet because she may really just think of you as a friend and soon start telling you about some new guy she has been kissing. You should care about other girls, if instead of focusing all your energy on a girl who things never really got started with, and instead go on adventures, be social and date other girls you'll actually make yourself more attractive to this specific girl, that is if you even care any more. And I never told you to give up on her, I merely said put her on the back burner for now and try to heat things up when the time comes that you can be togather again. you have a 100000000000000.999% chance of failure with this girl if you continue the way I think you are and you do things like risk your grades just to chat with her at her convienence. Find the confidence to be yourself, and man to man here, feel your testosterone dont puss out on me here ... Im trying to save you from some missery... you do what I tell you and you;ll have better chances of getting this girl... you have to be brave enough to risk losing her to get her... its the only way

[billyhilly1212]

k first off im sorry. i was really mad last night. and i really dont risk my grades and stuff like that, i just said that to get some kind of comment about it. but its so hard to try and date here because every girl i meet i compare to her, and they arent half the person she is. and i mean i dont want to "settle" for something less then her. and how is it going to make things better with her if i date other people? wouldnt that send the wrng message? another thing, when i told her that i liked her she kinda said stuff like in a week you wont like me anymore. i do that to people. but this is also right after the cheating and breakup. and if i do date other girls it will just cement that point and there might not be a chance to go back, if that makes sense?

[Green]

k first off im sorry. i was really mad last night. and i really dont risk my grades and stuff like that, i just said that to get some kind of comment about it. but its so hard to try and date here because every girl i meet i compare to her, and they arent half the person she is. and i mean i dont want to "settle" for something less then her. and how is it going to make things better with her if i date other people? wouldnt that send the wrng message? another thing, when i told her that i liked her she kinda said stuff like in a week you wont like me anymore. i do that to people. but this is also right after the cheating and breakup. and if i do date other girls it will just cement that point and there might not be a chance to go back, if that makes sense?

 

Know this you go chatty Kathy on the phone with this girl from now till when ever it is you can see her again your chances of getting a kiss are going to be zero. Your lying to yourself and me if your saying there are no girls you find pretty that you wouldnt mind getting to know, and most importantly touch and kiss. You need to change your state of mind, you cant focus in on one girl like this when you really have nothing at this point. Read an Anthony Robbins book or something, my point is gain the confidence to make that inner voice in your head say "this girl is lucky to be talking to me, and other girls are going to like me too I have options" Then go out make friends, go to parties, join clubs, attend events, make friends with guys, girls, and when you like a girl be touchy, you dont have to ask them out just maybe to hang out, heck if your always in a group just tell them you need to tell them something take em to the corner of the party and kiss them, when you kiss a girl or tell them you want to kiss them you risk getting a No gross blah blah blah, but if you get a maybe, an I dont know, or if you had just kissed them and they liked it and you start making out your in.... the problem is you cant really get to romantic over the phone so you really need to follow my advice and go after other girls you wont lose her because of it... and if you decide you dont like her any more even better because logisticaly shes no good for u, but unless you start dating other girls you will remain in this desperate state of mind which will lose her and also not allow you to get over her

[billyhilly1212]

so getting a gf here is going to make her like me more? is that what your saying? cuz that makes absolutely no sense at all

[Green]

so getting a gf here is going to make her like me more? is that what your saying? cuz that makes absolutely no sense at all

 

Tell me who would you respect more as a person. Some one with no life who just basicaly was predictable to the point of knowing theyd do anything you asked of them OR some one who is interesting and has adventures, romances, and the confidence to be themselves and isnt worried about doing every little thing just the way someone wants but instead does things their way... well .... It makes perfect sense, you turn yourself into the bitch of a girl who your not even in a relationship with and its like that old saying why buy the cow cause the sour milk is free. Dating other girls will also give you prospective. Right now you feel that your not going to be able to find girls who you like and that will like you back other then this one girl... its a very self hating defeatest / stalkerish attitude........ Just do what im telling you please... Im not telling you to specificaly rub it in her face that your dating other girls, or to lie about it if she asks, just say it confidently like she has no reason to care yeah i am... just stop focusing your life on these calls from this girl, get a life, live it, just get involved with whats going around you, its great advice take it, and stop focusing on these calls and taking them when ever she feels like talking

[glittergurl]

I don't completely agree with KMT but I do see the logic in it, and I somewhat agree with some points.

 

Yes, a guy who gets interest from other girls is more attractive in my oppinion. It means other girls find him sexy, so I got myself a good looking piece there which could be a keeper. The danger of losing a guy over a bunch of other girls who want him too, suddenly makes the whole thing much more interesting, and attractive. I remember that one guy I used to kind of like ... the minute I noticed other girls were trying to ask him out, my feelings went crazy for him.

 

However, I don't know if hooking up with random chicks, kissing them and whatever will solve it all. But I do agree that going out to see a movie with a few different girls might be a good change for you, and really, there's no big deal about that, even if you still like that other girl. You can at least mention those movie dates to her in a casual way.

 

I also think what KMT is trying to say is that it really can't hurt for you to get some experience in the girl department first. Experience will make you more grounded, you'll be able to keep it cool in more situations and you won't be reading so much between the lines anymore. Because really, what matters is the action, and well, you've got none of that going on right now.

 

Phone calls will not make a girl fall for you; I completely agree with that too. And the main thing you will have to act upon is those times when you're back in your home time and get to see her face to face.

[billyhilly1212]

i dont live my life for her to call me, but when she does do i just say yea sorry i dont want to talk so bye. no im going to talkt o her when she wants to talk to me. and not whenever she wants, but if im up and she's up then why is it not okay to talk to her? and being a bitch? sorry for liking a girl, and wanting to take it to the next level. sorry for working hard for it. maybe im not like you. i cant just gt any girl i want. i have to work for these kind of things. mine and her relationdhip has grown so much and thats because i have to work to get girls to like me. im not a guy that girls usually like like that. so working hard at it is the only thing i can do.

[Green]

you just have a really bad attitude going into this entire thing, and your wrong girls will go out with you and talk to you and even fall for you so stop defeating yourself. And no im not saying you need to hang up on her for the sake of hanging up on her, just get a life have things you do, tv shows, friends, girls close by and you wont always have time to just talk... please stop questioning and just follow my advice its the only way ull get anywhere

[billyhilly1212]

see glittergurl... thats advice i can use. you put it in a way that doesnt make me feel basically like **** for what im doing. and i will make a move when i do see her. and i know that talking on the phone wont make her fall for me but like for now thats all i got

[billyhilly1212]

we always talk at like 2 in the morning, so all of my friends and stuff im not hanging out with. im doing homework and there is nothing else to do so we talk. i dont get how thats a bad thing.

[Green]

Ive given you all I can for now, Id be glad to help you more once you start doing what Ive told you.