alwayshurt Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Hi all, a few week ago I posted a message in the breakup forum. I won't annoy you with the same post, but for you to know, the last time we went out I was a little cold to her because of previous events. She said many times she loved me and she was upset to me being distant. We did kiss that night but i told her I wanted to be friend until she had sort out her situation (she is about to get a divorce). I repeat that in an email I sent to her right after we met in the building we work (In that occasion she barely spoke to me). In the email I said there was no reason to be stranger to me now that there was the possibility to be good friends. She replied to my email saying she was sorry for her behaviour and that after that night spent together with me she did not know what she was to me. She also said she asked her husband to leave the apt and that she was sad and did not want to see anybody and to forgive her for everything. At the point I started NC. After 3 dayes she called me and she was telling me her plan of moving out from the apt she lives with her husband when i received a phone call and I said that I had to take it and will call her later. She sai don't call me I am going out I will call you. She never did. I saw her 3 days ago and had the impression she was trying to avoid me. I stopped her and it appeared to me she was very nervous and excited at the same time and her face was all red. I asked her how she was doing, she said ok. I asked her if she was trying to hide from me she said no. At the point I asked her to call me but she never did. It has been 1 week NC except this time we met. I have no idea what she is thinking. She could have gone back to her husband, met somebody else, got tired of me or just be upset at me. No matter what the truth is, there has not been any closure and I was thinking to be the first to break the NC and send her this message below. ________________________________________________________ Hi her name I have been having feelings that you don't want to talk to me anymore. It's sad and I don't understand why but if that's how you feel I will respect it. I just hope it is because something "good" happened to you and no because I said or did something wrong. However, I wish you all the best life can give and that you will be treated like a princess....you deserve it. I will miss you. my name P.S. you said that after last night we spent together you didn't know what you are to me anymore. Well, I never knew what I was to you but I can tell that you are everything...that is what you are to me! ____________________________________________________________ I would like to know if it is too emotional, if I should just avoid it and wait if she contact me or it is ok to make the step since I was the one who started to be distant and ask her to be friend. Would you give me some advice. Thanks.
carrotgirl Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 ________________________________________________________ Hi her name I have been having feelings that you don't want to talk to me anymore. It's sad and I don't understand why but if that's how you feel I will respect it. I just hope it is because something "good" happened to you and no because I said or did something wrong. However, I wish you all the best life can give and that you will be treated like a princess....you deserve it. I will miss you. my name P.S. you said that after last night we spent together you didn't know what you are to me anymore. Well, I never knew what I was to you but I can tell that you are everything...that is what you are to me! ____________________________________________________________ I would like to know if it is too emotional, if I should just avoid it and wait if she contact me or it is ok to make the step since I was the one who started to be distant and ask her to be friend. Would you give me some advice. Thanks. AH, it's not your intent I'm sure, but this note strikes me as taking, not giving. Remember, you're dealing with a woman who has some very mixed up emotions right now. I think if you want to be a friend and spend time with this woman, the grown up thing to do is to act like a friend, not a paramour, phone her and ask her if she cares to meet you for a movie or a cup of a coffee or something else that is LOW pressure. If she says yes, great. If she says no, give it a month or two and try again if you're still interested in being friends with her. Personally, I don't date anyone who isn't in the friends zone first. Carrot
Recommended Posts