pinochleprincess Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Don't get me wrong this A was great for 4 years and still was good but he don't realize to end the A would be in our best intrest. Do anyone agree? If you have no problems with being labeled a hooker, no...there is absolutely no reason to end this. Easy money, no strings attached. Why are you even CONSIDERING ending this? Suddenly you have issues putting out to a married man? Why end it? You can do what you want...he goes home to his wife...you get money...he gets what he wants....what's the problem? For Pete's sake woman...you aren't given permission to end a relationship...you just do it. Oy.
Author ladybug63 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 You do/did have the choice to say no. It isn't right to take his money considering he isn't YOUR HUSBAND. You don't live with him, you don't share expenses with him, you don't have children with him....It's just so inappropriate...Though I know you can't see that. My question to you and anyone else, would the A had been condoned if it was w/o benefits? Remember it has been 4 years. It's an issue because I get $ that's a problem? Let me emphasize this when that MM leave I still can/will survive. It's like the response to my question has just done a 360 and no one is answering my question they are looking at the money issue and just forgot all about my question. If someone gave you $ would you return it? Does that make me a bad person because of what is transpiring? One post was saying after 4 years I wasted my time and I allowed them to know what was really going on with 4 years of this A.
reboot Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 So what's the question then? Is it ok to end the affair?
Author ladybug63 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 If he came to you, asking for 2,000 bucks, would you gladly hand it over to him? And, we're not talking about him having to pay you back. How would you feel? You know what WWIU, to be totally honest I would be more than elated to do that without reservations. And that is being truly honest.
Author ladybug63 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 Empathy... Something you are lacking. Your opinon which truly doesn't matter.
TogetherForever Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 My question to you and anyone else, would the A had been condoned if it was w/o benefits? Remember it has been 4 years. It's an issue because I get $ that's a problem? Let me emphasize this when that MM leave I still can/will survive. It's like the response to my question has just done a 360 and no one is answering my question they are looking at the money issue and just forgot all about my question. If someone gave you $ would you return it? Does that make me a bad person because of what is transpiring? One post was saying after 4 years I wasted my time and I allowed them to know what was really going on with 4 years of this A. Would your affair be condoned if it was w/o benefits? NO. TF
Author ladybug63 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 So why even start, or continue with the A. You lead us to believe that you are in it for the money. I agree that is a good idea to end the A, and that it is an even better idea to never start one. Why don't you read my thread and you will answer you own question.
Author ladybug63 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 If you have no problems with being labeled a hooker, no...there is absolutely no reason to end this. Easy money, no strings attached. Why are you even CONSIDERING ending this? Suddenly you have issues putting out to a married man? Why end it? You can do what you want...he goes home to his wife...you get money...he gets what he wants....what's the problem? For Pete's sake woman...you aren't given permission to end a relationship...you just do it. Oy. I wouldn't say hooker I'm with one man, I would call it smart woman look at some women just putting out and getting nothing but heartache. I don't have all that drama. Call it what you want but I get benefits.
whichwayisup Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Are you guys reading my thread from the beginning, I said I want to end the A so why do I have to go through all these stipulations? My question was do anyone agree. I'm not in love I promise you that. Then end it. What is stopping you? You can't be 'just' friends with him. Let him go work things out with his wife, focus ONLY on her. If you stay his friend, it's an emotional affair.
Author ladybug63 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 Well... He is giving you money, and lots of it. It is not his money but both his wife's money. So you are stealing a number of different recourse from this women. An important part of being human is something called empathy, your behavior as well as MM's show you have very little of this. That is why you are also partly to blame, and rightfully so.[/quote Would you feel that way if it were you?
Author ladybug63 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 Then end it. What is stopping you? You can't be 'just' friends with him. Let him go work things out with his wife, focus ONLY on her. If you stay his friend, it's an emotional affair. WWIU, I am going to put an end to this for me. This I am doing for ME. I believe you have followed my thread from the very beginning so you know my story. But I feel it would be best for me to sumbit closure here. Yes, I will put an end to this A.
pinochleprincess Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I wouldn't say hooker I'm with one man, I would call it smart woman look at some women just putting out and getting nothing but heartache. I don't have all that drama. Call it what you want but I get benefits. Hooker doesn't equate to slut. slut=many hooker=money Don't confuse what I said. Just because you are resourceful doesn't mean you are smart. Don't confuse that either.
Author ladybug63 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 Hooker doesn't equate to slut. slut=many hooker=money Don't confuse what I said. Just because you are resourceful doesn't mean you are smart. Don't confuse that either. What would you call those that have a's not only a' R also and get nothing?
Author ladybug63 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 Empathy... Something you are lacking. Are you angry that I have this going on? I mean what? Seems to me that you are.
pinochleprincess Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 How is what I would consider them relevant to your original question? Are you seeking help...looking for feedback...wanting peoples opinions OR are you just looking for an excuse to argue?
Author ladybug63 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 How is what I would consider them relevant to your original question? Are you seeking help...looking for feedback...wanting peoples opinions OR are you just looking for an excuse to argue? You said in your first reply no one probably agree with me. So what were you referring to?
lovelorcet Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Well... He is giving you money, and lots of it. It is not his money but both his wife's money. So you are stealing a number of different recourse from this women. An important part of being human is something called empathy, your behavior as well as MM's show you have very little of this. That is why you are also partly to blame, and rightfully so.[/quote Would you feel that way if it were you? I would not find myself in such a situation as my moral's on many levels would not allow me.
Curmudgeon Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 My question to you and anyone else, would the A had been condoned if it was w/o benefits? You are obviously going to grasp at any straw you can to justify immoral behavior and your continuation of it over the course of four years. The direct answer to your question is a resounding, "No!" You were consistently taking something away from another that should never have been offered or given to you. You cannot justify that no matter how hard you try. Bottom line: You and those like you are thieves. It's just that simple. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to parse that!
Curmudgeon Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Are you angry that I have this going on? I mean what? Seems to me that you are. But by all means keep trying to justify it in your own mind. It won't fly elsewhere!
whichwayisup Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 WWIU, I am going to put an end to this for me. This I am doing for ME. I believe you have followed my thread from the very beginning so you know my story. But I feel it would be best for me to sumbit closure here. Yes, I will put an end to this A. How long will it take for you to get the closure you think you need from him? IF you're going to actually end it, do it soon. Just don't be too disappointed if you don't get the type of closure you're expecting from him...In most circumstances, affairs or not, closure has to come within...So, don't get your hopes up that he is going to give you a nice long goodbye for your closure. Put a time frame on this and make yourself accountable...You don't want to be in the position you're in right now, in another month or two.
Author ladybug63 Posted October 2, 2007 Author Posted October 2, 2007 How long will it take for you to get the closure you think you need from him? IF you're going to actually end it, do it soon. Just don't be too disappointed if you don't get the type of closure you're expecting from him...In most circumstances, affairs or not, closure has to come within...So, don't get your hopes up that he is going to give you a nice long goodbye for your closure. Put a time frame on this and make yourself accountable...You don't want to be in the position you're in right now, in another month or two. Exactly right
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