Nomad Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 There is a bartender who works at a bar not too far from where I live. I've been in there a few times by myself when it's not crowded and had a couple of pleasant conversations with her. I think she's fairly cute, and thought about asking her out (if I could work up the nerve to do it, that is). What's the consensus here? Is it a good idea to ask out bartenders? Or is this a social no-no? (I'm not implying that she's romantically interested in me merely because she and I talked a few times: I'm aware it's part of bartenders' jobs to talk to customers).
Aintayankee Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 That I don't know. Never been to new england.
glittergurl Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Do you know if she has a boyfriend or not? If you don't, then I would definitely try to find out first. I don't see anything wrong with asking a bartender out. I was a waitress once and dated a customer no problem lol
Author Nomad Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 I don't actually know if she has a bf. It hasn't come up, and I wasn't disposed to ask (probably because I want to think of her as being eligible so as to not spoil it). Her having a bf is probably the least of my considerations, though. I've asked out other girls who had bf's unbeknownst to me, and it's not big deal.
GracelessWomenCom Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 There is a bartender who works at a bar not too far from where I live. I've been in there a few times by myself when it's not crowded and had a couple of pleasant conversations with her. I think she's fairly cute, and thought about asking her out (if I could work up the nerve to do it, that is). What's the consensus here? Is it a good idea to ask out bartenders? Or is this a social no-no? (I'm not implying that she's romantically interested in me merely because she and I talked a few times: I'm aware it's part of bartenders' jobs to talk to customers). if she's a bartender, chances are she gets hit on more than you can imagine. if ur looking for just a lay and not hoping for any kind of relationship, then go for it. i personally wouldn't, but its up to you if u want to embarrass yourself.
amaysngrace Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 This reminds me of that song "she made us drinks to drink we drunk 'em got drunk" Oh yeah, it's called Bartender. I like that song. Except they played it to death. I would ask her out if you want to. The worst she can say is no. And then you'd be no worse off than you are now. Cause you have no her now and you'll have no her then. So do it. And if she says no then find a new place to hang out. No worries.
Author Nomad Posted October 3, 2007 Author Posted October 3, 2007 I realize this probably isn't a strikingly original post but does anybody maybe have some more feedback on this? Personal stories of the same?
reboot Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 Is there something wrong with bartenders? We all need love, and I suspect they're no different.
Author Nomad Posted October 3, 2007 Author Posted October 3, 2007 Is there something wrong with bartenders? We all need love, and I suspect they're no different. Nothing's wrong with them at all (at least not that I know of ), I'm just wondering if it's a social faux pas to ask one out.
reboot Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 Dont you think they go out, date, get married, have kids? My gosh man, if you're attracted to her, ask her out!
directx Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 Hmmmm. She probably gets asked out EVERY night, especially by drunk guys that struck out all night. So I would think you would need a little twist. Maybe see her as soon as her shift starts and before it gets crowded and be clever like "Hey! I came here early so you know I'm not drunk yet! Would you be interested...blah blah blah" I dunno. Just a thought.
Author Nomad Posted October 3, 2007 Author Posted October 3, 2007 Hmmmm. She probably gets asked out EVERY night, especially by drunk guys that struck out all night. So I would think you would need a little twist. It's actually not that kind of bar. It's a sort of quiet, local, bar/restaurant deal. It's not as if it's always packed w/ college kids or anything. She IS cute, but I wouldn't say she's HOT...maybe she does occasionally get hit on or asked out, but it's probably not an everyday occurrence for her. How that fact would influence me isn't immediately obvious: if she gets hit on all of the time, she'll be more used to it, and it won't be as awkward, but on the other hand, she'll dismiss me as one amongst many. I don't know...I'm probably making too much of this and over-thinking it. I would have thought that by my mid-twenties I could ask out a woman without experiencing sheer terror, but I guess that's my lot in life.
Timberlane Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 Sure. Ask her out early in her shift and way before you yourself get drunk. Tell her you'd like to get to know her and sorry to bother her at work, but that's the only place you see her.
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