What's this all about?

[all is not lost]

I recently had a brief but wonderful "thing" with a man. I can't call it a relationship since it was only a matter of weeks - and then he had to move overseas for grad school. My feelings for him were very very intense, i fell in love within that short period and I'm definitely grown enough to know the difference between love and lust/infatuation. We'd agreed to stay in touch while he was at grad school. He left about 3 weeks ago.

 

In my first email to him I decided to be daring and tell him how I felt (the vibes I'd got from him suggested he felt the same way.) But then I messed up the email. I wrote:

 

"PS, this is something I'd be too shy to tell you in person but"

 

And then I cut it off there by mistake, instead of typing the rest, which should have been 'I've really fallen for you' or words to that effect.

 

Anyhow, he sent me an email back that said

 

"....and the most important bit remains as unsaid as in your email...."

 

I know what I was trying to say.

 

But what might HE have been trying to convey in his reply??

[kymberann]

That you left out the important part!

 

Send another email with a brief explanation and then tell him the important part!

[glittergurl]

^^ seriously!

No hidden meaning, it is what it is. You left the most important part out lol

[whichwayisup]

Just put it out there! Write him another email and tell him how you feel.

[sfsassy]

I recently had a brief but wonderful "thing" with a man. I can't call it a relationship since it was only a matter of weeks - and then he had to move overseas for grad school. My feelings for him were very very intense, i fell in love within that short period and I'm definitely grown enough to know the difference between love and lust/infatuation. We'd agreed to stay in touch while he was at grad school. He left about 3 weeks ago.

 

In my first email to him I decided to be daring and tell him how I felt (the vibes I'd got from him suggested he felt the same way.) But then I messed up the email. I wrote:

 

"PS, this is something I'd be too shy to tell you in person but"

 

And then I cut it off there by mistake, instead of typing the rest, which should have been 'I've really fallen for you' or words to that effect.

 

Anyhow, he sent me an email back that said

 

"....and the most important bit remains as unsaid as in your email...."

 

I know what I was trying to say.

 

But what might HE have been trying to convey in his reply??

 

Lol, I know this is a serious question, but it is a bit of a funny situation. Yes, write a separate note. I told one of my exes I liked him as more than as a buddy through email. There was no long distance thing, just was very shy. (and I got strong vibes from him.) I would suggest to you and other people, that if you take this route. you dont do it as a PS but just a whole note on its own. A PS is an afterthought, and something like this isn't really an afterthought, and if he didn't feel for you as you felt for him, it would matter.

[melodymatters]

No, hold up !!! I disagree ! The mistake you made was heaven sent, and you should NOT write him a long, thought out missive spilling your heart ( and guts)

 

It was a nice lead in to open discussion, but still it was just a "three week thing" thus far, and in the written world, I have found better to write too little than too much.

 

Send a note ( when it's your turn to reply) that is flirtatious, but not showing all your cards.

 

Let him show his hand first.....

[Trialbyfire]

"PS, this is something I'd be too shy to tell you in person but"

Too funny. Such an unintentional tease.

 

I agree with MM, do send him a flirty email and see how he responds.

[OpenBook]

No, hold up !!! I disagree ! The mistake you made was heaven sent, and you should NOT write him a long, thought out missive spilling your heart ( and guts)

 

It was a nice lead in to open discussion, but still it was just a "three week thing" thus far, and in the written world, I have found better to write too little than too much.

 

Send a note ( when it's your turn to reply) that is flirtatious, but not showing all your cards.

 

Let him show his hand first.....

 

I wholeheartedly agree with this approach. It has only been three weeks. He really doesn't know you that well. For you to share too much at this juncture would be weird for him. Men are different animals from women. They want what they can't have, and they love the chase. Let him!!

[Treptow]

I have to completely disagree with what everyone's said so far. As a man, I can tell you that it is glaringly obvious what you meant in your email. Although you did not actually utter the words it is really obvious that you are trying to say either I love you or I'm in love with you or , at least, I really really like you. Plus, if it wasn't blatantly clear, your man would have said something like "so what were you trying to say?" in his reply back to you.

 

So if I received such an email from a woman, here's what I'd do. If the email came from a woman I was not interested in, I wouldn't even reference that mystery comment in my reply at all. I hate to admit this, but I also might not reply to her at all. However, if I felt the same way about the woman, then I'd send a response very typical to the one your man sent to you. Notice that he refers to that PS part as "the most important bit" and he says "remains unsaid." What he's doing is admitting that he feels the same way you do and he's acknowledging that while neither of you has actually come out and SAID it yet, you both feel the same way about each other.

 

Believe me, if a man didn't feel very strongly about a woman he would NOT have sent the reply that you have gotten from your guy. Men who aren't interested tend to run at the first hint of a woman talking about the L word and so on.

[latefragment]

i wholeheartedly agree with treptow (and i'm not a guy!). i think he's trying to say 'I love you too' - that's what was "unsaid" that he is reciprocating. my opinion.