She can't stop flirting Why

[Hopefullmmmm8]

[COLOR=black]Hi people [/COLOR]

[COLOR=black]I have been in a relationship for only 5 months, i have come to love this lady very much, but she always displays flirtatious behaviour but really only when she's had a few drinks, back ground is she has been in the same relationship for 23 yrs she is 41 now, it appears that relationship was based mostly on sex, apparently 3 times a day at times plus other sexual favours, this used to make her feel loved, although it was mostly instigated by her partner, some what over the top if you ask me, he has left her now and is seeing another woman, she was devastated and needed anti depressants for quite a while, i have helped her through this time as well, telling her he does still love her, as he acts cold to her, but because now she is with me and he knows i have had sex with her he can no longer look her in the eye, he still has quite allot of control over her, she is affected if he says things to upset her regarding the kids or anything really, which i can understand but obviously I don't like it, i feel she still looks up to him, she says she wouldn't go back, but i am not so sure, she is also an adopted child, no longer talks to the mother who raised her, just because she never rang her when she went into hospital to have a baby, she said she would ring her mum when she did but she didn’t, just a stubborn stand off, she has 3 daughters, she is rather naive in my opinion. she was always faithful.[/COLOR]

[COLOR=black]Anyway she is still very atractive to other men even hot, she is rather sensual and oozes sexappeal she is blond she dresses in low tops with breast promidently displayed and short black skirts, well her ex has the girls every other weekend, so normally on the Friday night she has a feeling of being footloose and fancy free and so begins the evening with a drink or two and a joint, speaks about her concerns for the week with me usually regarding her ex in some way, trying to come to grips with this and that, then we will go out for a quiet meal, where she hardly eats and talks about getting really pissed one night together and how happy she is with me and how i “so have her” she says she does love me on occasion ,I do believe her, but in another way because of the way she acts when we are out i do wonder, [/COLOR]

[COLOR=black]Well this is the sort of thing that happens, we were at a friends house she was sitting on my lap and when a particular guy walked up towards us on a couple of occasions she would just at the right time open her legs as if to just move so he would get an eye full, also she would lean on his legs when she had to get something off the kitchen bench even though she could of easily of reached from another place where he was not, another time in a pub a guy was touching her ass she mentioned this to me but didn't pull away, i pulled her away from him, he then leaned against a post where her drink was, she went to get her drink and had to leaned over at least another foot and pressed against his arm as if to say it’s ok carry on, it's like to me "What are you doing why are you doing that for”, she admitted that she used to do that sort of thing when she was with her ex so he thought she was attractive when other men would pay her attention, i told her i didn't like it at all and hoped she would change, another time we went out to see an old friend of hers who had just broken up with his wife, she was drunk again and hugging and kissing him on the cheek and cuddling him, which i don't mind as they are old friends and it is in the open not secretive, well she was sitting on a stool and i was talking to her closely, i noticed that her skirt was very high and her friend was getting an eye full, she was talking to me about **** stuff just so she could get off on him having a look, i eventually pulled away and stood up straight and mentioned isn't your dress a bit short, Ohh she says I’ll pull it down, another time we went out with a supposed mate of mine who made comments of going away for the weekend with some of his friends directed towards her, the he said and you can bring him if you like, i didn't really appreciate that comment from him, first time he had ever met her a deliberate flirt if you ask me, she ended up having a couple of drinks that afternoon, we were getting back into the car she was in the back seat and he was getting in the front passenger seat and just like a mechanism had gone off in her head as soon as his ass touched the seat she leans over the passenger seat and starts rummaging around the glove box hovering all over him, then to top it off she just has to push her self off his leg to get back into her seat, to me that is like a return of a flirt "Yes i do like you" it's like she gets a buzz out of it, she denies this, it's apparently all in my head, then the other night which really just topped it off, again we went out for dinner, she's pissed and stoned, feeling happy, we go to a local pub, she sits on a bar stool facing away from a group of guys, she stands up and faces them and pulls me close and we start to dance, she pulls my head to her shoulder, probably so she can eye these guys up, she then swings me around and a starts dancing with her ass swaying and grinding, i noticed these guys leaning and looking at her ass, i run my hand down her dress and blow me down her skirt is now high enough to display the bottom of her bum cheeks, i pull back and say your ass is showing, she goes ohh I’ll pull it down, then she says "Maybe I’m like this I never had guys take any notice of me before" i am just disgusted, not again I think after all we have talked about, how can i take her out and be proud of her, how can i let her go on a girls night out and fully trust her, i need and want to be with a lady, she is acting more like a tramp, i left her for the 2nd time that night, she now says ohh my skirt just rode up, even though she lowered it apparently and she wears it to work I’m sure it doesn't ride up then, oh yer she also seems to have this stumble back thing going on, normally when there is another male behind her, there are other similar instances also but hey i think you got the picture, thing is she won't admit that she does anything wrong when she has sobered up, it is all in my mind and my insecurities she tells her mates about what happened her version of course and they all go “hah that’s ridiculous” it is upsetting as we do have a close relationship apart from what happens above, i love her and have hoped she would change as she knows that sort of thing piss's me off, but she hasn't, I have taken all my stuff and felt relatively good about my decision to leave her, she has never said I want you to come back she has just said it will take her a while to get over me and when I asked for something I left there she said she would drop it at her friends because if she saw me she would have to cuddle me and that would have to be the end one way or another, I txt back “thankyou and just so you know I still love you” she did not reply, i would still like it to work it out but am i flogging a dead horse wasting my time, she is my best friend and i miss her.[/COLOR]

 

[COLOR=black]Thanks for any insight[/COLOR]

[COLOR=black]Cheers.[/COLOR]

[Hopefullmmmm8]

Hopefullmmmm8;

Hi people

I have been in a relationship for only 5 months, i have come to love this lady very much, but she always displays flirtatious behaviour but really only when she's had a few drinks, she is very atractive to other men even hot, she is rather sensual and oozes sexappeal she is blond, dresses in low tops with breast promidently displayed with short black skirts, she begins the evening with a drink or two and a joint, we were at a friends house she was sitting on my lap and she would open her legs when a guy walked upto us so he would get n eye full,another time in a pub a guy was touching her ass, she mentioned this to me but didn't pull away, i pulled her away from him, he then leaned against a post where her drink was, she went to get her drink and had to leaned over at least another foot and pressed against his arm as if to say "it’s ok carry on", it's like to me "What are you doing why are you doing that for”, she admitted that she used to do that sort of thing when she was with her ex so he thought she was attractive when other men would pay her attention, i told her i didn't like it at all and hoped she would change, another time she was drunk again and hugging and kissing an old friend on the cheek and cuddling him, which i don't mind as they are old friends,well she was sitting on a stool and i was talking to her closely, i noticed that her skirt was very high and her friend was getting an eye full up her skirt, she was talking to me about s*** stuff just so she could get off on him having a look up her skirt, i pulled away and stood up straight and mentioned our dress a bit short, "Ohh she says I’ll pull it down", another time she ended up having a couple of drinks one afternoon, we were getting back into her car and she was in the back seat and my mate was getting in the front passenger seat and just like a mechanism had gone off in her head, as soon as his ass touched the seat she springs up leans over my mate and starts rummaging around the glove box, hovering all over him, then to top it off she just has to push her self off his leg to get back into her seat, to me that is a flirt it's like she gets a buzz out of it, then the other night which really just topped it off, again we went out for dinner, she's pissed and stoned, feeling happy, we go to a local pub, she sits on a bar stool facing away from a group of guys, she stands up and faces them and pulls me close and we start to dance, she pulls my head to her shoulder, she then swings me around and a starts dancing with her ass swaying and grinding, i noticed these guys leaning and looking at her ass, i run my hand down her dress and blow me down her skirt is now high enough to display the bottom of her bum cheeks, i pull back and say your ass is showing, she goes "ohh I’ll pull it down", then she says "Maybe I’m like this I never had guys take any notice of me before" i am just disgusted, not again I think, i need and want to be with a lady, she is acting more like a tramp, she seems to also have this stumble back thing going on, only when there is another male behind her. i would still like it to work out but would she change.

[Chrome Barracuda]

This woman seems highly toxic and very immature and childish why would you even deal with her?!?!

 

And try putting spaces in your paragraphs!!!

[Blurple]

It sounds like to me she has low self esteem. Woman like that even in a relationship always need to feel the extra attention from other men it makes them feel good and still wanted... which usually ends up to cheating let her know what her problems are.. I would leave her i had the same problem.

 

If she doesnt understand that what she is doing is gross. then i dont know.. you def can do better man.. tell her to stop or ur out to be a biotch about it