sfsassy Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 So my guy "friend" and I had lunch yesterday, and I babbled about my ex, who, let's just say wasn't that nice. I didn't go into all the gory details, but he must think I'm neurotic now. And when he would bring it to the here and now like "but you are ready for something now?" and "you like dvd watching with a guy". I totally ddn't take the bait, and he probably wishes I would get a clue! I didn't even realize what his commets might have indicated until I was in bed . I'm an idiot! Plus he sat there a long time, just letting me just like babble. Plus I didn't check my email before seeing him, and I missed an email where he was semi flirting with me. Also, I'm getting an honor, and even though he will have to leave work early, he is coming, bringing one of his coworkers that I know (an older lesbian, so way no competition, lol) I haven't seen her in years, and went to their offices for a minute, and he stayed while we talked! He is so excited to meet my family, friends, and colleagues. I gave him a small gift, and he said "I will cherish this". Here is my plan. I'm leaving on a business trip next Saturday, until Wednesday. I think I might write him Friday late, and then I can read his response on my trip, and if it is not positive, then I will have so much to distract me, that I can get my head in a good place bbefore responding back. Thoughts? Also should I try to make amends for my ex faux pas?
Author sfsassy Posted September 29, 2007 Author Posted September 29, 2007 PS The awards ceremony is Thursday, and I don't want awkwardness before then!
Author sfsassy Posted September 29, 2007 Author Posted September 29, 2007 Sorry for the multiple posts,. but one more idea would be to have my one friend, who can be quite blunt, ask him what is up in terms of his feelings. I'm going to observe him ith people at the event, to see if there is any differences in interactions.
popey Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 sounds like you're over-reacting. Am I understanding correctly that thus far, you are just friends? no dates and no sex, but you are interested in more? if so, send a playfull flirty email back. show him a nice dose of attention at the award thing ie: some convo, eye contact and smiles and tell him you are really glad he's there. (don't over do it though.) If he responds positively, and continues to act flirty but does not come out and make a move or ask you out. Maybe send him one breif email while you're away telling him the place is cool, or something about what's going on there (not sure if its work or pleasure). And maybe say that when you get back you'll have lunch or hit happy hour and tell him about it.
popey Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 oh, and of course, just don't talk about the ex anymore unless he asks.
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