BLOU Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Hi I am new here my first post. I have a bf and started an affair with a mm about a year and a half ago I know I'M CRAZY. We talked about the situation and agreed at the beginning it was just sex and fun and no attachment's. We only had sexual relations twice the entire time but saw each other an average of twice a week through work. The other day he tells me that he's falling for me but agreement in mind I laughed it off. I have now noticed when he hugs me he says gosh I love you two and three times. We talked about love and things and he tells me that he lusts for me because he can't love me. Now I can't get him to return my calls. I am confused was he trying to tell me he was in love with me but indirectly and when I reacted by laughing did I hurt his feelings or is he just really good at playing me? When I sit back and think his actions would leave me to believe he loved me as well. I do care for him a whole lot possibly love him but tried to keep my end of the deal so never said how i felt.
whichwayisup Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Yes, he was playing you. Not using you in the sense of being mean and malcious, he used you because he is selfish and you filled a need of his, made him feel good. Just like he filled a need inside you, a selfish one. Can I ask? What about your boyfriend. Don't you think it's really unfair and cruel what you're doing to him? If you don't love him, break up with him because he deserves a woman who won't cheat on him.
kymberann Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Now I can't get him to return my calls. I am confused was he trying to tell me he was in love with me but indirectly and when I reacted by laughing did I hurt his feelings Why would you care now after there was an agreement with no atachments? Get out while you have a way out!
child_of_isis Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Maybe his wife found out and insisted on no contact for him to be able to stay in the marriage.
ICallsEmAsISeesEm Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 It simply sounds as though he's come to his senses and realizes he was acting like a 16 year old teenager whose hormones are out of whack.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 He signed up for discreet, easy, free sex. He didn't sign up for falling in love and leaving his family. He got to close for comfort, and backed off before the point of no return came into sight. It happens like that pretty often really. The MM will only stay for as long as he is comfortable staying, and for as long as it does not pose any perceived threat to his status quo. If OW makes him uncomfortable, or his own feelings make him uncomfortable he'll leave.
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