Author pandagirl Posted October 6, 2007 Author Posted October 6, 2007 Well, for myself, I was just honestly young, stupid, going through growing pains, and really emotionally immature. Now, that I'm older, I wouldn't do that to anyone. Uniqueone, I really admire your honesty and integrity in handling your situations! Also, I was complaining to one of my guy friends about my recent situation, and his response was great: "he's obviously got issues of his own. he's an idiot. NEXT!" fray718: if you like the guy, give him a chance! go into the situation with no expectations, it's what you're afraid of what *could* happen that is holding you back. "ppl should realize that it's not always about YOU. Sometimes it really IS the other person and his/her insecurities/fears, etc. " i think it's is 99% always the other person in these kind of situations.
fray718 Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 uniqueone.....this is actually kinda funny cuz after I posted that up there I went to do some studying then kept thinking bout that guy and how bad I felt and actually started drafting an email to send to him to explain why i cancelled.... pandagirl....yea i know what u mean, and the thing is, the reason why I was SO SCARED was BECAUSE of how great he seemed. If he was just meh, I prob would have met with him and not be that scared. Gosh I'm in a real dilemma here cuz after I cancelled he emailed me back saying we can reschedule and that he's very flexible and again he added some cute and sweet remarks in his email. Ugh, when I'm not ready is when I actually meet the nice and sweet guys...
uniqueone Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 uniqueone.....this is actually kinda funny cuz after I posted that up there I went to do some studying then kept thinking bout that guy and how bad I felt and actually started drafting an email to send to him to explain why i cancelled.... Do it! More people should do this! And I think the same thing about breakups too. Too many people just walk away in silence. People tend to think it's more dignified. BS! People should say what they want to say. Why do so many people fear that? I mean c'mon....we have email now. You don't even have to face a person anymore. How simple is THAT? To me anyway....silence is STUPID. If you don't communicate, you could be missing out on so much that you're not even aware of.
Blackberry Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 hmm..well i just posted in another thread how i almost never initiate conversations and dont pursue. but if im interested i ALWAYS call back as soon as i can if i just made out with a girl i liked, i would not leave her hanging You don't pursue? So are you gay?
uniqueone Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 Well, for myself, I was just honestly young, stupid, going through growing pains, and really emotionally immature. Now, that I'm older, I wouldn't do that to anyone. Uniqueone, I really admire your honesty and integrity in handling your situations! Thanks Pandagirl. I wasn't always this way. I've gotten bold in my old age.
fray718 Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 Do it! More people should do this! And I think the same thing about breakups too. Too many people just walk away in silence. People tend to think it's more dignified. BS! People should say what they want to say. Why do so many people fear that? I mean c'mon....we have email now. You don't even have to face a person anymore. How simple is THAT? To me anyway....silence is STUPID. If you don't communicate, you could be missing out on so much that you're not even aware of. I agree with you. I was debating about whether I should do this or not as I'm also afraid of the other person emailing me back with mean words, but you are right. I should do what is the dignified thing to do. Thanks for your encouragement. I'll email the guy
uniqueone Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 I agree with you. I was debating about whether I should do this or not as I'm also afraid of the other person emailing me back with mean words, I guarantee you that they won't! Think about people who've done that to you and how you'd react if they sent you an email explaining things. And if you DO get the rare one that responds with mean words......well then you can just tell yourself......"man, they're really effed up....glad I didn't go out with them......"
Author pandagirl Posted October 6, 2007 Author Posted October 6, 2007 Yeah, man. I wish the guy who never called me back after our "great date" would have just been honest with me and told me the truth. He totally owed me that, especially since we've known each other for a long time. "the reason why I was SO SCARED was BECAUSE of how great he seemed. If he was just meh, I prob would have met with him and not be that scared." I can tend to be this way, too. Don't feel alone in your frustration!
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