hopeforlove243 Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I posted on this forum last weekend (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t130584/) and decided to go NC with my ex-bf. Well, things did not go as I planned, he got sick this week, and me, still love him deeply, went to visit him 3 times, took care of him. Now, he is good, and I told him I want NC, he insists that he wants to be friends, and he said I am more than friends, we have so many things in common, and he likes to hang out with me as friends. I told him it is too hard for me to handle, cause I have feeling for him, and I wouldn't be able to find another guy for myself if I hang out with him. Still, he insists to be friends. What does he want from me? do you think he still want me back as girlfriend someday? He said I gave him too much pressure for getting married, he wants to take it slow, but after two years dating, I can't be downgrade from girlfriend back to friend, can't I? Besides, I know he is seeing other woman, even though he insists that they are just friends. I would appreciated for all the suggestions. Thanks.
Author hopeforlove243 Posted September 29, 2007 Author Posted September 29, 2007 Any suggestions? Thanks in advance.
norajane Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 He never wants to get married, he wants to date other women, and he wants to be 'friends' with you. He's treating you pretty badly since he knows you love him and want to marry him - how does he expect you to cheerfully be his friend while he dates other women? Stick to NC. You'll be better off getting away from him and giving yourself a chance to heal. Then you'll have an opportunity to be with someone who DOES want to marry you. Don't waste any more time on him.
Trialbyfire Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 You can only be friends when all feelings, positive or negative are gone. In looking at your situation, you want him back. Steer clear of him, stay away. If you agree to his friendship, he gets what he wants from you and you get nothing except the pain of being on a string. Why draw out this pain?
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