Menzer Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 I mean, wouldn't you like if the roles were switched?! : ) Guys will keep trying to get with a girl they think is pretty, they don't give up! : P Wouldn't you like that? Not really.. I am loyal to only one girl at time.. Lucky to my girl..
Ocean-Blue Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Most guys I know don't like being pursued. They'd much rather be the chaser (I think it all comes down to evolution and biology). But once you start dating...I know guys like to be the prey at times. Really, I find that the male-female dynamic (prior to marriage anyway) is all about mind f@ckng people (and the chase is all about this). So once boy gets girl, boy wants girl to chase him. But too much chasing and boy gets indifferent. Too little chasing and boy begings to worry she's losing interest - at which point the chase begins all over again. This shiet can get tiring sometimes, really. Me, personally, if I really like a guy, I make it so that he pursues me. I'm not much of a chaser (well I'm not obvious about it). It's all about making them THINK they are chasing you.
Trialbyfire Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 As per my sig...born to run... That is all.
shadowplay Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 It's all about making them THINK they are chasing you. Yes, that's the key. I've gotten fairly good at it. Boys can be pretty dense.
Ocean-Blue Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Yes, that's the key. I've gotten fairly good at it. Boys can be pretty dense. It keeps things alive and exciting. It's funny...how so many relationships follow this pattern. All my girlfriends bit@h at the fact that their once super amorous bf (who used to call her all the time, text her, send sweet little love notes via email) can now barely muster the energy to last longer than 10 minutes on the phone (I exaggerate of course, but you get the idea). Oh why oh why do boys drop the ball after the initial chase? Why do they compel us to play hard ball to get them back on their toes. We've talked this to death and come to the following conclusion: boys are dumb poo heads!
tanbark813 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Me, personally, if I really like a guy, I make it so that he pursues me. I'm not much of a chaser (well I'm not obvious about it). It's all about making them THINK they are chasing you. Yes, that's the key. I've gotten fairly good at it. Boys can be pretty dense. So what do you do to make them think they're chasing you?
oppath Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 If I feel like I have to chase a girl I stop calling. I want them to be busy and have to pencil me in between other activities, but if I call, I want them to act like they desire to see me. Reward my efforts, and I'll call again. If it feels like a chase, see you later. Why is it so polarized? "Don't be too available. Make him chase you." Well, if I am attracted to you, it means you have some things going on in your life, so you can't be too available to being with. It's not too much to email me after the third date saying "thanks, I had fun last night." If you want me to chase, you'd better let the light go green before you go through the intersection and you'd better be looking behind you to show me you are enjoying it.
shadowplay Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 So what do you do to make them think they're chasing you? I think Oppath described it best. We give them a green light at the intersection while continuing ahead of them. We give them just enough encouragement while being coy and retaining a tiny bit of distance/unavailability. That way they think there's a good chance we like them but they're never entirely sure.
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