gsusisking Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 I mean, wouldn't you like if the roles were switched?! : ) Guys will keep trying to get with a girl they think is pretty, they don't give up! : P Wouldn't you like that?
CaliGuy Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 If I am interested in them, yes. If not, no...
Krytie TV Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 Actually I would say no, and I'll tell you why. If a girl is relatively aggressive in getting my attention, it won't take much of it to attract me if I like her. If I haven't been wooed after 2 or 3 attempts, it means I'm not interested. If I'm not interested, it makes me very uncomfortable to have someone continue to pursue me. I like to let people down easy, and pursuit in the face of disinterest forces a "confrontation" of the issue so to speak. And again, that makes me uncomfortable. However, within the context of a relationship, yes, I like to be pursued past the 1 week mark.
oppath Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 After 3 dates, I want the woman to pursue me too. If I like her, after 1 date, I love it when they email saying "thanks, I had a great time." If a girl is pursuing me and I am not interested, I'll be honest: "I like you and enjoy spending time with you, but I don't feel we are the right people for each other." If they reply "but I don't want anything serious (it has happened a lot)" I still turn them down, saying "that's cool, but if we hang out in a dating context, that means holding hands, kissing, etc, and I wouldn't be comfortable doing those things with you because it wouldn't feel authentic." That typically blows their mind as they can't understand why a guy would turn them down. The reason: I don't believe them.
Ariadne Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Do guys like persistent girls? Do you like to be persued? Guys in general tend to say yes, that they love to be pursued... But then, they want a supermodel like Pamela Anderson and no less to be after them. Usually when they are pursued is by someone they don't find attractive at all. Ariadne
tanbark813 Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I like aggressive girls. Like Fairuza Balk's character in The Waterboy. Mmmm, come to Tanny...
CaliGuy Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Do guys like persistent girls? Do you like to be persued? Guys in general tend to say yes, that they love to be pursued... But then, they want a supermodel like Pamela Anderson and no less to be after them. Usually when they are pursued is by someone they don't find attractive at all. Ariadne And this phenomenon is exclusive to men only?
uniqueone Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Men often say they like to be pursued. This I think is due to the fact that it's an ego boost. This doesn't mean they'll want a relationship with that girl, however. Rarely do you see a successful, committed relationship that began with a woman pursuing the man. Women can show signs of interest, but shouldn't pursue. That might sound "old fashioned" but I don't look at it as if there an "old" and a "new" fashion. I think there's what works and what doesn't work---and I've seen enough to know that pursuing men does not work. It might work in the short-term, but doesn't in the long-term. Being persisitant might get you the guy......but I doubt you'll end up KEEPING the guy. It's JUST the way things are.
Ariadne Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Hey, And this phenomenon is exclusive to men only? Dunno. I don't get pursued by guys that I don't want, because I won't even give them a chance. So, I just don't get pursued by anyone Grats on the gf. Ariadne
analyseThis Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Some guys will like it; some guys wont take to it. Depends on the guy. If hes a person with a proper head on his shoulder and not just out to get an ego boost cause hes insecure then he will like it and take to it. If hes one of those ego boys vying for attention then the girl is wasting her time.
maynard Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 i never pursue or chase. i will make my interest clear, but never chase. that way i prevent games being played on me
daZed&confUsed005 Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 as a guy, i am ok if a girl approaches me..mainly because i can't tell if a girl is just being friendly or actually showing interest..so yea to avoid any confusion i rather be pursued than misinterpreting the signs..
Trialbyfire Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 i never pursue or chase. i will make my interest clear, but never chase. that way i prevent games being played on me So what do you do? Signal the chick with your eyes for a date?
maynard Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 So what do you do? Signal the chick with your eyes for a date? lol. well ive never really approached a stranger for a date. all of my GFs have been met through friends and group settings i doesnt mean i will never initiate something, but its rare. i will flirt and be playful, but never chase...either through interactions or telephone/texting communication its not that i play games. i never flake out or lead girls on (well nothing that is hurtful) i've found that a girl who is genuinely interested will call, text and invite me to do something first. and if we hang out, a girl who truly likes you wont wait to call you for more than a day or so after. generally, i will try to match the what the girl gives me even into a relationship like the one im in now. i didnt tell her i missed her until she said it first. i didnt call her "baby" until she said it first of course, now that we are serious its a little different, but im mindful of only giving her what she gives me...not in a strict sense of course its a bit of a problem now because i want to tell her i love her and she hasnt said it yet, lol. im positive she is waiting for me to say it first, which sucks for me haha. i have a thread on that right now with no responses, lol i know it may sound like im being kinda of a jerk, but thats not the case at all. see, i've had problems with neediness in the past and i have realized how to avoid that crap
Green Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Girls chase me all the time, literaly, theyre waving at me, calling me over, adding me online in the social networking sites. One of the super hot chicks i had a hot relations with messaged me out of the blue asking me out..... In the end though theres always a point where a man has to be man and tame her beast... Ive never had a girl do all the work like just kiss me, then say lets have sex and undress me and jump on me... IM sure it may happen some where other then porns but must be rare with even semi attractive wo mans
lovelorcet Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Ive never had a girl do all the work like just kiss me, then say lets have sex and undress me and jump on me... I have had that a few times... But no I don't like to be pressured. I like a girl to show clear interest and motivation but I do not like being pressured. Like someone already said. It is a great ego boost but does not mean I would want a relationship with that person. If I really like/want a woman then I carefully pursue her. Every woman is different and enjoys something different. Some jump right up and ask to go for a ride on my Monster (Ducati that is ) and others want a half a year of playful flirting.
Poboy Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 girls chasing persistently after guys ... thats a new one
Green Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I have had that a few times... But no I don't like to be pressured. I like a girl to show clear interest and motivation but I do not like being pressured. Like someone already said. It is a great ego boost but does not mean I would want a relationship with that person. If I really like/want a woman then I carefully pursue her. Every woman is different and enjoys something different. Some jump right up and ask to go for a ride on my Monster (Ducati that is ) and others want a half a year of playful flirting. Youve had an attractive girl do all the work a few times... I really doubt it... Your telling me you didnt pay for anything like a movie... She basicaly said come over to my place and started stripping naked with out even having to rub her the right way... I dont count a girl coyly walking up and saying hi, or even if a girl comes up and says heres my number call me as doing all the work........ All the work means if theres dinner they pay...... if theres sex they intiated it all .... and they have to be hot which my standards may be higher then most... because yes ugly women have tried with me
lovelorcet Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Sure! it has happened to me a few times. Not to sound arrogant but I am a highly educated man almost a nerd maybe and I would say my looks are ok. I have lots of charisma, am humorous and I am a really caring guy. But the thing is I work with a lot of women, have lots of female friends, and we have a lot of female students (I think it is a biosciences thing) coming through my institute all the time. So here is an example of what I think is going on. I go out with a few female coworkers and guess what, they also have more female friends. So we hang out and when someone asks my coworker "who is that guy" they may say that's this really great guy from work. Or, when at work it is obvious that I get along very well with my female coworkers; other women pick-up on that really fast. Plus, I am an American living in Germany and I speak German fluently but I still have my cute little accent (that they never seem to be able to pin down). Being able to joke around and flirt in a foreign language takes a lot of knowledge of the language and culture, and that impresses a lot of chicks. So my point is, at least for me, it pays off to be highly respected by your female environment and to be seen as a "high value" total package. A mature woman will know that is worth a lot and in my experience put a lot of effort into pursuing.
monkey00 Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I don't know about persistence, but I've had women offer me their #'s, ask me for coffee, and pretend that they don't know the way to the train station (so I can show them the way). Though the last one I wound up dating for several months. If I'm interested in a girl I probably wouldn't mind at all, but if I'm not it doesn't matter. Too much persistence is no good either. A girl has to let me do my job too as a guy, because if I'm interested I'll definitely keep the ball rolling.
Green Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Sure! it has happened to me a few times. Not to sound arrogant but I am a highly educated man almost a nerd maybe and I would say my looks are ok. I have lots of charisma, am humorous and I am a really caring guy. But the thing is I work with a lot of women, have lots of female friends, and we have a lot of female students (I think it is a biosciences thing) coming through my institute all the time. So here is an example of what I think is going on. I go out with a few female coworkers and guess what, they also have more female friends. So we hang out and when someone asks my coworker "who is that guy" they may say that's this really great guy from work. Or, when at work it is obvious that I get along very well with my female coworkers; other women pick-up on that really fast. Plus, I am an American living in Germany and I speak German fluently but I still have my cute little accent (that they never seem to be able to pin down). Being able to joke around and flirt in a foreign language takes a lot of knowledge of the language and culture, and that impresses a lot of chicks. So my point is, at least for me, it pays off to be highly respected by your female environment and to be seen as a "high value" total package. A mature woman will know that is worth a lot and in my experience put a lot of effort into pursuing. I find it hard to believe you live in such a sexd environment but if its true you should throw the invite out to the Horniest Man Alive
lovelorcet Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I think we are talking about completely different women here. I have the feeling you are chasing the blonde with the boob job and I am flirting with the cute med student.
Trialbyfire Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I sometimes wonder if guys feel that any woman that gives attention to them, has a romantic or sexual interest. I hope not. On the flip side, perhaps this type of attitude transposition is based on personal opinion, that guys aren't interested in women for friends or casual acquaintances. So sad.
lovelorcet Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 On the flip side, perhaps this type of attitude transposition is based on personal opinion, that guys aren't interested in women for friends or casual acquaintances. So sad. As I have said I have many female friends who I would never think of pursuing in any sexual way. I think that is why I get along so well with them. I give them the feeling that I value them as a friend and they can let their guard down a bit and not have to worry about me making a move at some point.
Green Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I think we are talking about completely different women here. I have the feeling you are chasing the blonde with the boob job and I am flirting with the cute med student. Wow you really are shallow arnt you trying to make me out for an equal oportunist. I look for one thing atraction. Ive been with the local new girl, to the depresed law student, to a dentist. For me smarter girls are acualy easier to get because they have greater attention spands. a busty blonde would be nice though. I get the feeling a game on an entirely different level then you do, women are more then thier proffesion These days I dont even care to find out what they do its quite unimportant to me
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