jade6147 Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 my bf broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. i have been doing the nc thing. i found out that he has been driving by my house and he wants to still visit with my kids but does not want to hang out with me if he has no feelings for me anymore why is he doing this? also i had to tell him not to see the kids anymore or talk to me and he was very upset saying how much he will miss the kids but he never wanted to spend time with them when we were together so why now. anyway i feel bad for the taking the kids away from him but it was killing me seeing him i want apologize to him should i write him a letter even when i am trying the nc thing?
Bosiell Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Jade I personally do not see why you have anything to apologize for? He split up with you. He knew the consequences, one being he would not see your kids anymore, or at least for quite a while until things had settled down. You say he never spent much time with them anyway. So not sure I believe his story about missing them. He could simply be missing the life he had, regardless of our he now feels for you, he could be having trouble moving on from you and the life he had. I dont think you should be feeling bad for taking the kids away, he walked away from them remember. If it hurts too much to see him, which is understandable, then you are right with your actions, you have to put yourself first and be strong. When you are feeling calmer, then you may consider letting him see them if you are sure thats what he really wants. Just my opinion of course Jade. Dont apologise and keep with the NC. good luck.
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