finallyhappyme Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 I have always snooped through this website and never found a reason to really post until today. Straight to the point I want to tell my highschool sweetheart that I love him. Here's the scoop: We met in highschool when I was 15 and he was 16. We tried dating but I came from a strict home and he needed to party so we never really worked out. He came in and out of my life for a couple of years until I gave up and told myself I needed to let him go and if he's meant for me he will come find me when he's ready. I left and moved on as did he. I moved on to a great guy and dated him for 4 years. And then my sweetheart showed up out of the blue. He said after I left for good he couldn't stop thinking about me. He would wake up in cold sweats after dreaming about me. From then he knew he loved me and wanted to be with me. This put me in a tough spot because I had already moved on and the guy I was with really loved me. So we went back and fourth, meeting up at night, late night calls, and I was back to when we were 15 again. I would go to dinner with him and then not call him for weeks at a time because I just couldn't believe everything I had always wanted to hear he was actually telling me. And I really didnt want to hurt my boyfriend at the time. So we stayed friends at my request for about two years, and we were there for each other through really rough times. Even though I had a bf he still was there for me and never left my side. Finally he got tired of waiting and one day when I fought with my bf and called him to vent he told me he couldn't do it anymore. He said he had to move on and I had to let him go. At first I said I understood and went my own way. But I couldn't deal. Soon I became sick, the fights with my bf intensified, I couldn't eat and I was suffering big time depression. I was messing up at work and was even being really mean to the people I loved. I was not myself at all. I really did not know what was wrong with me until I realized it was him. I loved him and I needed him. I couldn't live without him. I left my boyfriend because I really didn't love him and stayed alone for a few months. I finally called my HS sweetheart and told him my bf and I had broken up and My HS sweetheart and I are now talking as friends again. He told me he still feels exactly the same about me and in the time he tried to forget me and move on, he couldn't. So we are sort of dating right now but Since I have realized that I love him I have been wanting to scream it from the roof tops! I have never told him I loved him and I really want to make it something special and memorable. I want to suprise him and come up with something creative but I'm not very good at those things and he is. So that's where I need the help. I don't want to make it too corny lol but memorable. Any Ideas? :love:
roxy_1980 Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Personally, from what you're written here, you don't love him. You are infatuated by the memories of the relationship that could never be at that time because of your parents. It's kinda funny when we're told we cannot have something that we want it even more. After your parents were no longer an issue, he was a flake and now that he's not flaking out on you, you jump and are completely willing to drop things for him (i.e. cheating (or almost) on your bf). You said it was like you were 15 again....that's a bad thing. You are both very different people than you were back then, but you both seem to be ignoring that. You are reacting to your perspection of the who you think he is (i.e. the person he was when he was 16), rather than the person he really is. This relationship seems toxic to me. Like an emotional regression back to highschool.
kymberann Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I don't think she is asking for the R to be analyzed at this point. Sounds like she has gone through a lot to get to this point anyways. If it is toxic it will manifest itself when it needs to! Maybe she is infatuated with the past, but it does not mean there can't be a future with this guy!
Author finallyhappyme Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 roxy_1980...Have you ever seen the notebook? lol Imagine she had taken your advice..but all joking aside Thank you for your response. That actually had crossed my mind in the begining Which is why I took time away from him to analyze everything and I am 100% sure. I don't think I have ever been so sure in my life. And it's exactly the opposite of what you said. I DIDN'T want to give him a chance BECAUSE I still saw him as that 15 year old and couldn't get past it. Until we started hanging out as friends and I realized that the person he is TODAY is everything I have ever wanted in a man. Now that explained..I really need some cute ideas? I was thinking of renting a nice suite and spending a romantic weekend with him. Then waking up at nightor early morning and writing ' I Love You' on the mirror in the bathroom so that when he got up to wash his face he could read it? What do you think? I like it but I don't LOVE the idea Help!
nellstar Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Nice story! Very sweet. Well what I did once was I wrote on a A4 size card - "I love you and you're stuck with me!" - took a pic of me holding it in a sexy outfit... He replied "I love the idea of being stuck with you!!!" - he has it on his comp wallpaper. Might not be what you're looking for but might give you some more ideas...
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