maynard Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 ok, this subject may have been beaten to death, but this thread can be specific to me or in general for anyone else curious. i'd love here any and all input my brief story is that i have been with my girlfriend on and off for a little over 6 months. we are best friends. we have had 2 cooling off periods because she wasnt ready to commit. she was in a long term relationship that wrecked her as of now, we have been together again for about 6-7 weeks and are committed to each other im getting to the point where i want to say "i love you." we have kinda said it, but not in a direct, serious way how do i know she loves me? i think she does. the signs are there to me. she compromises for me all the time, lets me take the lead. she came with me and sat for 3 hours at the local sports bare with me to watch my football team and has gone to some baseball games when she has zero interest in sports. basically, whatever i need or want to do, she is there to do it with me. she is always telling me she misses me...sometimes calling a few minutes after we part to say so she sent a text admitting to falling in love she is always talking about our future, even marriage naturally (i think), im a little nervous about the "i love you" return. the other day, she was saying how her last relationship must not have been true love because of how her boyfriend hurt her are these solid clues that she loves me or should i wait for her to say it. i dont think at all it is too early to say it. we know each other very well and have committed to each other. but i think she is a little afraid to say to me and afraid of the return the truth is that i dont think i can take her not returning the "i love you" what about general signs that a girl is in love?
Poboy Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 6 to 7 months is fast but you know , if you really love her and you see all the signs to go ahead with saying the three words , do it. but if you are not at that point , don't do it. i think you are not at the point so let the relationship grow and when the time is right , you know what to do. same for her , she will say it when it feels right. but a lot of time women wont say it and wait for you to do it first so you have to take the lead.
Trialbyfire Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 she sent a text admitting to falling in love I'm going to poke a little fun at you again. This is from a guy who signals chicks with their eyes for dates, and gets them? In all seriousness, until you're certain of your feelings, there's no need to express anything to anyone. If you're only concerned about the level of her investment, the above seems pretty straight-forward, but if you're still uncertain, think about why it matters. If you care about someone, express it.
Author maynard Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 thanks for the replies and yes trial, i am a good eye reader, lol so yesterday we were enjoying a great day together and i just blurted it out. it was kind of a compulsion...not that i dont mean it of course. thankfully, she returned it. always feels good, doesnt it, lol? she said it to me again today while we were hanging out, so there is no doubt on my end of whether she said it without meaning it....im such a worrier, lol i really dont think we are moving too fast. i think the fact that we were best friends before we dated helps in that regard
gsusisking Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 ]what about general signs that a girl is in love?[/b] Well, we do it a lot through our actions. Like if your kissing us, we'll hold you closer, like with me, I'll put his hand on my heart (it may sound cheesy, I know!) or I'll pull him in closer, I won't just make-out to make-out, I'll kiss his check or his forehead (i.e. show more affection). I'll hold his hand really strongly, not like the 'faint' way I did when we first meant. Also, listen to what we say, if a girl is saying she misses you, that is a VERY good indication b/c we're hella scared to say it to you guys too!! So we'll use other phrases, such as "I miss(ed) you." You say she sent you a text admitting to falling in love? Thats also a sure fire hint!!!!!!! Any time a future with you is brought up, it's a pretty sure sign she's in love, think about it, would you want to speak about a future let alone HAVE a future with someone YOU didn't love?
stillafool Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Most women wait for the guy to say it first. We don't like to take the lead on that because it can scare the hell out of some guys.
Trialbyfire Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 It doesn't only scare the hell out of some guys...I must admit it scares the hell outta' me.
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