Dawg88 Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 I've been on this forum for 8 weeks now, ever since my ex GF dumped me. I've been reading some posts from people who have recently been dumped, and I think to myself, "how pathetic!" Here's someone who just got dumped, in some cases for another person, and all he/she keeps saying is how much he/she wants to be friends with the ex. So, I went back and read some of my first posts, and guess what, I was just as pathetic, maybe even more pathetic. I suppose we all feel the same way at first. But now, after listening to so many great perspectives (thanks CaliGuy and all), I can see the evolution in this whole process. I've come such a long way in such a short time, and so will you. It's only been two months for me, and I never thought I would feel this way or say this, but I don't want my ex back, even if she begged me, because how could I ever trust her again, and I definitely wouldn't ever want to be friends with her at all. Remember people, friendship is built on trust. How can you have a true friendhip with your ex when he/she already broke that bond, hurt you badly, and already proved to you that he/she doesn't care to be with you. Keep in mind, wise people before us have said that you can count on one hand your true friends, and I can guarantee you that there is no place for your ex on that hand. True friends are supposed to be there for you in time of need. Your ex wasn't, so move on...and go back and read your first posts on this forum, and you will realize how much you have healed already.
Spinderella Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 A good post. Theres always some amount of mistrust at the end of a relationship, which is why reconcilliation seldom works.
carrotgirl Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Thank you for the excellent post. I know I will read and consider it many, many times. Carrot
Geoffrey Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 told me I was the only ex she had whom she could not be friends with - our feelings simply ran too deep for that. It's been almost two years since I've seen/talked to her....just imagine how good you will feel after THAT amount of time!!! I FEEL GREAT!!!
Double D Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Thanks for the post. Will read my first post. I so agree with you and slowly coming to terms with the fact I dont (really) want her in my life and neither does she. It was a pretty mutral break-up albeit she wanted it more than me but totally realised we had played our relationship out. But keep thinking what would I do if she came back and told me she loved me. Now that would give me a moment to pause.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 When people are motivated to move on, they will. If you mull, dwell and obsess, the only person you're hurting is yourself.
gdguy07 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Thanks for the excellent post you are so right in what you say. I have just deleted my ex from my mobile because it was always me initiating first contact with her,she would respond but your right how can you seriously call this a true friendship. My ex i think just wants her cake & eat it too or does she catch up because she has a guilty concience from what she did to me,her way of saying sorry maybe, im not sure. Ive had enough of the pain,hurt,lies & games with her & the dramas with her boyfriend whenever we catch up. Even though i always felt really good around her & miss her company i keep telling myself i deserve heaps better than that & i will find someone more worthy one day. Dont hang on to rubbish throw it out !
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