AlwaysLost Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 So I have been dating this guy for a month and have spent a lot of time together and maybe a little too much last week. So I last saw him Monday morning and I said goodbye. He didnt call all week and normally he would at least text message something to let me know he is thinking of me. Finally after 4 days of no contact I texted him and said, "so are you going to clue me in or do I have to guess as to why you disappeared" he responded many hrs later to say, "I'm sorry I didnt mean to be absent, I am just trying to get thru the week. If it is any consolation I just got killed in poker (Karma)" WTF????? I am thoughly confused. Does anyone have any insight as to what happened and should i even talk to this guy anymore? I get the feeling he is playing games . . . .
tanbark813 Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 It's most likely one of the following: 1. He was just busy; maybe something serious came up. 2. He's flakey. 3. He might have thought you spent too much time together also and was playing it cool so as not to scare you away. 4. He lost interest. I think your text message was a little pushy though. If neither of you initiated contact all week, didn't you both disappear?
Author AlwaysLost Posted September 28, 2007 Author Posted September 28, 2007 tanbark, maybe you are right that i was too pushy. Any clue what i should do now, I havent responded to his text yet
tanbark813 Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 tanbark, maybe you are right that i was too pushy. Any clue what i should do now, I havent responded to his text yet Well he apologized so you could just reply with something like, "No worries. What are we doing this weekend? ;)"
reboot Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 Uhmmmm.... a month is an awful short time to be expecting much of anything. I seriously doubt he feels a commitment to any particular text messaging schedule quite this soon....
Ohio_isforLovers Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 WOMEN- They dont make sense to me
Trialbyfire Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 I would say he's playing games...and...he's not in the same space as you are. Back off and give him as much space as he can stomach.
Road Rage Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 AwaysLost I can certainly see why you used that name. You will be always be lost if you don`t get one simple point. You do not put the cart before the horse. He is just not that into you. It is that simple. you cannot sqeeze blood out of a turnip but that is what you are seeking to do. In life, you really don`t have to thorw yourself out there like you were married to this guy to figure that out. But then, that is the subject of another book.
Author AlwaysLost Posted September 28, 2007 Author Posted September 28, 2007 Road Rage . . . ouch. Just cause he didnt call and i said where'd u go, I am now trying to get blood out of a turnip??? A little over exagerated dont u think. He may be interested or he may not and only time will tell. i will take one peice of advice u gave though, you are right i can not put the cart before the horse. I will go on about my lovely life as usual and if something flies great, if not there are a bizillion other fish in the sea.
maynard Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 i dont know the situation, so keep that in mind, but i would say he has lost some interest. 90% of guys are pretty obvious creatures. when interested, we show it. when we're not, we dont your best bet is to not chase him whether you still want him or not
Road Rage Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 If there are another bazillion fish in the sea you should cetainly be seeking them out and not wasting time with this guy. You should not have to sit around and wait to be important in his life. As has been said before...why make someone a priority in your life that only sees you as an accessory?
Author AlwaysLost Posted September 28, 2007 Author Posted September 28, 2007 I have already started the process of seeking out the other fish in the sea - so dont u worry your pretty little head about me, Road Rage. I was jsut trying to figure out what was flying cause honestly men and women think, speak and act different. Just wanted a second opinion. Most likely he has lost interst, fine.
amaysngrace Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 If it is any consolation I just got killed in poker (Karma)" Killed in poker? Meaning Poke Her? I think he was getting laid. Unless you were his lay but now it's killed cause you killed his buzz for you by being uptight. Either that or he was really playing poker.
fray718 Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 I agree your text sounded too pushy. Next time if a guy disappears, at most just send him a text saying 'hey, how have u been?' or something like that.
Road Rage Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 Women deserve better and can get it by demanding it. No woman has to sit there and put up with that kind of crap. After all, there are a bazillion fish in the sea;)
reboot Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 Women deserve better and can get it by demanding it. No woman has to sit there and put up with that kind of crap. After all, there are a bazillion fish in the sea;) What crap? They've been seeing each other for a month for pity's sake. I dunno about guys now, but back when I was young and dating, a month was barely enough time to know what kind of food she liked, much less have her make demands on my time. Puh-lease.
shadowplay Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 What crap? They've been seeing each other for a month for pity's sake. I dunno about guys now, but back when I was young and dating, a month was barely enough time to know what kind of food she liked, much less have her make demands on my time. Puh-lease. I disagree. She said they've been spending a lot of time together. The decent thing to do would be for him to maintain some contact over the course of the week. If he's no longer interested, then the decent thing would be for him to tell her that instead of keeping her guessing. I agree that her text was too pushy, though.
Author AlwaysLost Posted September 28, 2007 Author Posted September 28, 2007 Wait a min, lets get smthg straight, I did not make ANY demands on his time. I asked what happened to him b/c he was much different the past 3 weeks. Texted, called and took me out a bunch. maybe he got busy maybe he lost interest. i took tanbarks advice and texted him saying "ok, no worries, how was your week?" he replied, fine but very busy, how was yours. Basically it is very generic texting and I am going to put the ball in his court. I am not going to get personal and ask what he is doing this weekend. If he wants to see me he knows where to find me. In the meantime, i already have a new one calling . . . and as they say best way to get over one is to find another
reboot Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 And all I'm saying is a month is too soon to know the answer to your questions. Maybe he was really busy at work or something? And after only a month he may not have felt obligated to tell you this. Life is short, but not THAT short.
Timberlane Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I would say he's playing games...and...he's not in the same space as you are. Back off and give him as much space as he can stomach. Yep. Having to force myself to do the same thing with a girl I've started seeing. Despite seemingly ridiculously good times together, I get the abrupt "I gotta go" hang up tonight while I was trying to catch up about some death in her family. Fortunately, she is not an "exclusive engagement." I think I'll keep looking out for someone that at least has some manners.
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