sb129 Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 What does RSHP mean? And TBF mentioned SOP a few pages back, what does that mean?
sb129 Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 I'll lay it out then. Firstly, I hope you don't have a massive list of expectations for him. If so, you will be SOL. Sorry, SOL... what is SOL?
Author LoveLace Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 RSHP...I was too lazy to type out relationship
Ariadne Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 LL, You need a strong man that is going to make you cut the crap. Someone that is not going to put up with it and make you shut up. Most guys are going to go running though, not an easy task. There are some good things about you if you can get past that. Ariadne
Author LoveLace Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 Let the p*ssys run I don't care nor have the time or energy to care anymore. He can choose giving me the chance to change my annoying little habits, other than that any guy should be lucky to have me and if he doesn't know that, his problem not mine.
Ariadne Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Well, any guy should be lucky to have me and if he doesn't know that, his problem not mine. I woudn't go that far. You can be a piece of work. But definitely you need a strong guy. You'll pester any other guy away. Ariadne
Ariadne Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Hi, Are you guys kissing and making up? I call them as I see them sb. You are the ones that were having a problem with it. Ariadne
Author LoveLace Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 Just spoke with Jenny, the girl I met Marty through. She said "I'm sorry but he's not a man. A real man would call you." He's being a p*ssy! But we've still had plans for me to visit him next weekend. Why should I assume the plans are off just because we haven't talked in 2 measly days? Jenny and I agreed I should give it till tomorrow or Sunday...then leave him a voice message (assuming he won't answer the phone)... (In a nice friendly tone of course).."Wanted to let you know might not get down there until Saturday, cuz I might be going out with the girls Friday night. Let me know what time is best for me to arrive".....the point of this would be to let him know I don't give 2 sh*ts that he hasn't called...cuz our plans for next weekend have not been broken. So if he's that big of p*ssy he still won't call me back. Then I'll wait until next Friday and call..."I'll be down there sometime tomorrow!"....he will think "I haven't called this chick in a week and she's still coming here...what a psycho"....however, I won't really be showing up. Having fun with it is much better than being p*ssed off...
Trialbyfire Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 LL, do you really want to play these games? Does it make you feel better? Wouldn't you rather go or stay?
Ariadne Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Oh, And you need to grow some personality too: --- a plan... (In a nice friendly tone of course) "Wanted to let you know might not get down there until Saturday, cuz I might be going out with the girls Friday night. Let me know what time is best for me to arrive"..... the point of this would be to let him know I don't give 2 sh*ts ---- No need for that. Btw, the guy has already turned into jerk mode, he lost respect for you. Ariadne
Author LoveLace Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 Well, I woudn't go that far. You can be a piece of work. Can't we all?...especially you from what I'm hearing...Marty's a piece of work himself... One thing you were right about ariadne....there is some of the story I haven't told...a pretty personal thing about Marty...no actually I posted it once...anyhow the story about how he was sooo depressed about his wife that he tried to kill himself (well, sat in car turned on in the garage)...his parents rushed him to the ER, he was put into a psych ward, the labeled him psychotic, etc, he tells the story like oh poor little me and I know what it's like, and I was hooked on drugs, wah wah wah....and you know what, he's Attention-hungry like hell when he's with me. He whines if he's not getting enough. For someone who's been through so much apparently, he sure isn't being understanding or considering I'm going through stuff too, I've been through stuff too, I'm not much different than he is, but he's treating this as though I am. You would think he'd be more understanding of someone else's odd behavior.
shadowplay Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Great job with the NC, Lovelace! Keep it up! I don't think you should leave him that message. Just assume your plans are off if you don't hear back from him. You're right...he's not being a man and he needs to put up some effort if he wants to keep you. I predict that he'll cave in a few days, but by then you won't really care and you can decide whether you want to keep him in a more sober fashion. Feels pretty empowering, doesn't it? Kind of like breaking an addiction.
Author LoveLace Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 Yea Shadowplay feels good. Also, from the way he described it to me...one reason he got soo depressed was because his wife didn't give him enough attention anymore... so it's okay for him to be needy...but it's NOT ok if I am...that's B.S. Suddenly it's becoming much easier to not give a sh*t.
Ariadne Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Hi, Question. Was your father absent? Alcoholic? Had addictions? Just curious. Ariadne
Author LoveLace Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 Hi, Question. Was your father absent? Alcoholic? Had addictions? Just curious. Ariadne My father is a very successful, responsible, cool, wonderful man, that I'm very close to....BUT...he left my mom and I when I was 14, for another woman, who he's married to now. But he was never just NOT a part of my life; however I wouldn't rule out my abandonment issues coming from the experience.
Ariadne Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Ah, So that explains why you pester guys so much and call a million times, where are you etc. I thought he was alcoholic and had some sort of dependency too, because the roomate you liked was into coke, and this one passed out on alcohol and valium. Well, not easy to find the right partner. I just went and found this: Maybe my past relationships haven't worked out because, even though I think I'm doing a good thing by hiding emotions in order not to scare a guy, perhaps it's really just a sign that I'm scared to death of loving and trusting someone. I have called you phony before because you are not true to yourself (hiding emotions, pretend everything is ok when it's not, etc). People can see through that, some might not, but that's not the partner you want. Ariadne
Author LoveLace Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 No my dad drinks sometimes but he's never had an addiction in his life. Cigarettes for like 4 years, but that's it. I am actually used to being quite spoiled by him, so it could be that my expectations of men are too high? Then again, my dad left when I was younger...so whatever spoiling he's done, it's all been from a far so to speak. I just talked to Jenny again, and she said I might as well send his sh*t back (I have a few things of his) and call it a day. And the reason I don't just keep or throw his sh*t out is because I'm not like his Ex-wife, who took possession of all his things without returning any of it. I'm cooler than that.
Author LoveLace Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 And I don't know why he bothered to start and have a text conversation with me 2 nights ago if he's done with me...
Ariadne Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Hi, I am actually used to being quite spoiled by him, so it could be that my expectations of men are too high? No, that would explain why you are demanding. Cingy and demanding at the same time. That guy wanted mommy, when he saw the nagging/pushing/complaining side he didn't like. My take anyway, I don't know the guy. And I don't know why he bothered to start and have a text conversation with me 2 nights ago if he's done with me... He probably misses you somewhat. He was used to talking. Ariadne
shadowplay Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 And I don't know why he bothered to start and have a text conversation with me 2 nights ago if he's done with me... he started the text convo? i thought you did? Don't send his stuff back yet. What of his do you have exactly? Sending his stuff back is a form of contact and could be seen as a cry for attention...also it seems too spiteful somehow. Just keep up the NC for a few more days. Don't lose your cool.
soulseeker Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 You never can tell why people do what they do LL. So dont even bother trying to figure out why he texted you two days ago. I'm sure he's a good person, but it really seems like he has some serious $hit going on right now, emotionally. Best to move on, I think. It shouldnt require this much analysis. Dont you want to be with someone who makes it crystal clear they want to be with you? Dont waste any more energy on him. I would not go to see him this weekend, or even initiate contact with him again, or reply to a half-a$$ed text.
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