Owl Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I wanna add to that... Have you read any of the threads here??? Do you not get that there is NO RECOVERY AT ALL possible while you are still seeing OM IN ANY FASHION AT ALL? You changed jobs and went with him... What you NEED to do in order to get over him, get past all of this...is to go NO CONTACT WITH HIM FOR LIFE. There is no surprise to me at all that you're feeling what you're feeling right now. Your marriage stands no chance...YOU stand no chance...of recovering while you're still involved in ANY fashion with OM. You still see him, you still want him...what did you expect to happen if you remained in contact with him??? Seriously...you need to go to a marriage counselor who understands how to heal a marriage from infidelity. You need to tell your H the truth about what's gone on. Anything less than that, and you are going to remain right where you're at forever.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 What the hell am I supposed to do??? I can't even go see the shrink anymore because I've recently changed jobs (he - the OM - moved to a different job and offered to take me with him, and I accepted) and the new insurance isnt starting for another few months. Have you told your husband about your feelings for the OM? Your ruining your marriage just to pine away for some imaginary man! The OM you have in your head doesn't exist. I can tell by the way your describing your thought processes. See here is what bothers me the most. What I'm reading into your situation is this... Your playing the fence. You use your H for security purposes, while trying to gauge the situation with the OM. So, why? Why did you choose your husband when asked? Do you think that perhaps, in reality you chose the OM instead?
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