Woggle Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Tell her to accept you for who you are or find somebody else. Never change for a woman. There is nothing at all wrong with video games and they are a good stress reliever. Some women just can't stand that you have any hobby of your own and feel that they have to compete with it. My ex had a problem with my record collection and claimed that I loved them more than I loved her.
wwjd Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Those who do think that those who haven't "grown out of it" are still stuck in a fantasy world of make believe. videogames are a hobby like any other, and to think that someone should not be playing them just because they are over 18, is just judgmental. That said, I wouldn't be turned off by a guy who plays video games, as long as his time spent towards it is reasonable, and he's got other hobbies and forms of entertainment to occupy himself with.i agree with you here. if someone doesn't enjoy a hobby of yours, whether it be playing videogames or anything else, that doesn't mean you should give it up entirely, but you should try to compromise. this can be easily achieved by still playing your games and inviting her to play with you every now and then. if she doesn't want to, you should play for a short while until you can find a good save point (since they are usually pretty together in most games) and then do something else you both enjoy. Regardless of what you're doing - cooking, playing guitar, painting, whatever hobby it is - continuing to do it when you have a guest over who you know has no interest in that hobby is rude. not necessarily. it would be rude is he knew she was coming over and decided to turn on the 360, only to continue playing when she got to his place. dropping by unannounced and expecting him to drop whatever he is doing and pay attention solely to her is what's rude, imo. again, if this happens, greet her, ask her how she is, blah blah blah, and then tell her if she can give you a few minutes while you finish what you were in the middle of--whether it be the alien level or otherwise. she should understand and not nag or belittle you for doing so. as an example, my exbf used to be really into computers. while PC and techy stuff doesn't bother me, per se, i am not well-versed in it, so hearing someone go on and on about it can be annoying after some time. anyway, every now and then, when i'd drop by his house unexpectedly, i'd usually find him sitting in a pool of gadgets, which meant that i'd have to wait a little before we got into other things. what i would do is just, well, hang around for some few minutes until he'd finish. since this was not all of the time and since i knew i hadn't mentioned i'd be coming over, it didn't bother me. in truth, just because someone understands or enjoys something that i don't, it doesn't mean i have to bitch about it, like a lot of girls do. anyway, you should try to compromise with her, but it she's unwilling, then LB is right in that it's best to end things, not because she doesn't like videogames, but because she isn't willing to compromise on something that is important to you.
monkey00 Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 I think what you should do to settle the score is to duel her in deathmatch Anyway I think the majority of people who dont play games or have no interest in games often view game playing as an unproductive waste of time. I lost interest in games when I was in h.s., so I cant really say much on your behalf. While I have to admit the halo franchise is great you should have your own time to enjoy it, and since she does live down the hall she should also be fair to you not to be needy - perhaps she should be doing her own things or hang out with her friends.
uniqueone Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 Does she own a horse and carriage? Does she shun electricity? Welcome to the 21st century! The Video game Industry is very soon going to be worth more $$$ than Hollywood!!! Movies as we know them will continue to give way to video games until the two media's merge in some way! Movies and TV will have to become more interactive to survive. Let her know she is behind the times! I think I've played one once........
uniqueone Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 So, I have been dating a girl whom I am kind of into. She's 25, I am 30. We have both been to college, right now she isn't working but I have been working in my field for many years. So I like my XBOX 360. Halo 3 just came out. I usually play xbox 3 or 4 times a week but lately it has been a few hours almost everyday. I take care of my other business, go to work, clean my apartment, pay my bills... etc. So this girl i am dating has been saying things like "everytime I come over you are playing video games." Keep in mind she lives a few doors down and it's not like we have dates planned when she comes over. I also don't watch hardly any TV. She has also said stuff like - "you are 30 years old, you shouldn't be playing video games.". I feel like she looks down on me for it. I see it as a hobby, and I usually only play a few times a week. Her and I still go out on dates and do things together. I have told her that it is just a hobby and it is usually something I do when I have friends over to have fun. She makes me feel childish for doing something that I enjoy. How can I convince her that it's a normal and constructive thing to do. There are so many other things I could be doing like going to bars, strip clubs, drugs, etc..... I have met many girls who like video games even more than I do..... Why do women hate it when I enjoy time killin on Halo 3??? What can I do? Something else I just thought about.... she doesn't seem to have many hobbies herself. She has like an insane amount of purses which is fine by me, if that's her thing. You just have different interests/outlooks and this will probably be something that will come between you two too much. It's weird to think that video games will decide a relationship or not, but I think it's more a matter of how each of you views video games that is what's important. She sees them as time wasters and you don't. It will irritate her, and her being irritated about it will irritate you. Resentment will ensure. Resentment ends relationships. Personally, I wouldn't care to date someone who plays video games. Then again, I don't care to date those who watch much tv either. Fortunately, those in my age group don't usually play video games so I don't run across that in the people I meet so it's not a problem. I think though you just have to accept that it irritates her, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't play them anymore. That just means you two aren't right for each other.
SoHotZanzibar Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 Maybe get a Wii and see if she likes the more casual games. I would get a game where you can co-op on the same side and be silly. Or maybe a DDR? Make it clear that you like it to relax and vent a bit. I just think she feels isolated a bit. Does she hate board games too? Maybe she is just really boring.
uniqueone Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 Maybe get a Wii and see if she likes the more casual games. I would get a game where you can co-op on the same side and be silly. Or maybe a DDR? Make it clear that you like it to relax and vent a bit. I just think she feels isolated a bit. Does she hate board games too? Maybe she is just really boring. That IS a joke, right?
johan Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 Next time she brings it up tell her to shut the hell up and go get you a beer. She won't mention it ever again. Also, after she says something, you could just stare at her without saying anything for as long as she can stand it. Again: subject closed.
Ohio_isforLovers Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 Maybe get a Wii and see if she likes the more casual games. I would get a game where you can co-op on the same side and be silly. Or maybe a DDR? Make it clear that you like it to relax and vent a bit. I just think she feels isolated a bit. Does she hate board games too? Maybe she is just really boring. THe wii? Board Games? LOL Personally PS3 is the way to go!
Replicant Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 She makes me feel childish for doing something that I enjoy. How can I convince her that it's a normal and constructive thing to do. There are so many other things I could be doing like going to bars, strip clubs, drugs, etc..... You shouldn't have to explain or convince anything other than that you enjoy doing such, if she's into you and it sounds like you are making obvious time for her in your life then.... Nothing is wrong here. How you spend your down time and hobbies should be respected not belittled in comparison of what she thinks. Like others have said there are some things typical for 'battle of the sexes' where as women on average own like 20 pairs of shoes. Which is just a moderate shoe'o'holic. Some of which shoes were probably just worn once (but it's fine). Who cares right? Yet a guy spending the same amount of $$$ owning a 50+" LCD TV is just ridiculous thought or expense! You should not have to change your life to suit her outlooks, but rather mesh the two and respect one another's interests. She needs to get a life of her own so, if you were playing video games, poker, or just guys night of beer, wings and hockey...whatever! she's not grumbling about how unproductive it is!
EnigmaVariation Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Yeah, I could look for a girl gamer but that's not the only quality I am looking for in a woman! I don't want someone just like me, that would be boring! I would disagree that looking for someone just like you would be boring. In fact, I believe that the more interests/hobbies that two people share in common, the more likely their relationship is to stand the test of time. My divorce will be final in a couple of weeks after 17 years of a failed marriage. I was just with someone that I didn't have anything in common with and over the years, we grew so far apart that it was beyond repair. Sure, I was idealistic to think in the beginning that we could "find things in common" or "start new hobbies together" etc. but then you think about the hobbies/interests that you really enjoy and wonder why you didn't check more closely during the dating stage if the other person shared the same interests/hobbies. Don't get me wrong, there will always be compromises that need to be made. I'm not advocating being selfish or anything like that. But when you compromise and give up something you really enjoy, that just seems to me to be changing a bit of who you are. There is nothing wrong with playing video games at any age and it doesn't reflect upon you poorly as a person in any way. I'm old enough to have played the original Pong when it first was released and I still enjoy playing and beta testing games today. I'm a gamer/computer geek/Star Wars fan girl and I am definitely being more careful this time around. I want my next guy to have as much in common as possible with me so that we can spend lots of time together doing the things we both already enjoy. I want the next relationship to have a strong friendship as a foundation. I would recommend that you consider finding someone that likes the same things that you do as well. Best of luck to you.
uniqueone Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 I'm old enough to have played the original Pong when it first was released and I still enjoy playing and beta testing games today. I played Pong too.....and it was the last game that I played......
EnigmaVariation Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 I played Pong too.....and it was the last game that I played...... Pong was a great game during its time, followed next by the Atari games. Ah, the memories... Gaming today is far more complex and requires more analytical skills than the games of days gone by. But then again, that is why gaming is one of my chosen hobbies. I hope everyone is able to find a hobby they truly enjoy as well as someone to enjoy it with.
uniqueone Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Pong was a great game during its time, followed next by the Atari games. Ah, the memories... Gaming today is far more complex and requires more analytical skills than the games of days gone by. But then again, that is why gaming is one of my chosen hobbies. I hope everyone is able to find a hobby they truly enjoy as well as someone to enjoy it with. My parents actually bought us a knock-off version of it instead of the real thing. We thought it was really cool when you moved the bars really close together and made the little ball trapped between them. Didn't take much to entertain us back then now, did it?
EnigmaVariation Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 My parents actually bought us a knock-off version of it instead of the real thing. We thought it was really cool when you moved the bars really close together and made the little ball trapped between them. Didn't take much to entertain us back then now, did it? My parents got us the real thing although looking at it when I was older, it sure didn't look like much at all. It was really something back then though. And yes, I remember getting the ball stuck if you left the two bars close to each other, lol. My Dad had that, our original Atari system, and his Commodore 64 computer for quite a while at their old house. I remember playing Oregon Trail on the Commodore and thinking that was pretty amazing. Wow, how things have changed over time. And apologies to the original poster for the off topic-ness of my recent posts in this thread, although it is at least on the subject of video games.
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