cocomae Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 well, I'm in a non-passion married life. My husband never initiate or desire to have sex with me...ever, we've been married for two years. I guess we have different sex drive. Then came, this guy who I used to date, he came back from Iraq for R&R, we get together and one thing let to another. We've an amazing mind blowing sex. Lately, he start to flake on me. No call, no show. What is this mean?
PoshPrincess Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 well, I'm in a non-passion married life. My husband never initiate or desire to have sex with me...ever, we've been married for two years. I guess we have different sex drive. Then came, this guy who I used to date, he came back from Iraq for R&R, we get together and one thing let to another. We've an amazing mind blowing sex. Lately, he start to flake on me. No call, no show. What is this mean? I'm sorry to say this, but maybe to him it was 'just sex' and he has got what he wanted. On the other hand maybe he doesn't want the complication of being involved with a MW. First and foremost, he's a man. Remember that!
Woggle Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I think it was just sex for him. Quite a few men view cheating wives as easy and drama free lays and that is probably how he views you. No smart guy is going to get involved with a MW.
frannie Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 well, I'm in a non-passion married life. My husband never initiate or desire to have sex with me...ever, we've been married for two years. I guess we have different sex drive. Then came, this guy who I used to date, he came back from Iraq for R&R, we get together and one thing let to another. We've an amazing mind blowing sex. Lately, he start to flake on me. No call, no show. What is this mean? Is he single, married..? Did you have much of a relationship apart from the sex? Not all men are interested in being someone's sex toy... or am I kidding here Did you ask him..?
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Why did he flake? Could be any number of reasons. Perhaps he just wanted sex. Maybe he does like you, but figured your being married made it more trouble than it was worth. Either way, he's not your knight in shining armor to save you from your marriage. Perhaps he picked up on your need for that, and that could have been part of it too. A good deal of men may be perfectly happy taking sex from a woman who cheats on her husband, but not too many are interested in taking on a cheating wife for their own. One thing is fairly clear. You've only been married two years, and I don't see any indication that its going to get better since you solve your marital problems by cheating - so perhaps its best to cut your losses, get a divorce and work on trying to put your life back together.
OpenBook Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I think it was just sex for him. Quite a few men view cheating wives as easy and drama free lays and that is probably how he views you. No smart guy is going to get involved with a MW. Easy and drama-free lays?? Isn't that what ALL men want? Whatever they want, men certainly have a different take on things than women do. I've given up trying to figure them out. All I can do is observe their behavior, and go from there. And to the OP, this happens often - men back away when it gets too intense. But you've got bigger problems than him. Nobody should have to live in a sexless marriage.
Woggle Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Many men do want a commited relationship but only with a certain type of woman. Their are women that are just for screwing and messing around with and there are women that you commit to and persue something deeper with. Married women should always be in the former category and I don't think men should be messing around with married women in the first place at all. This guy might like the sex but he knows that in a few years he will only find himself in the same position her husband is in because if she cheated with him she will cheat on him. I don't condone sleeping around with married women but at least this guy is smart about it. Only poor suckers who want to be a knight in shining armor fall for a married woman.
TogetherForever Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 P T D D ! But really, What does it mean? It means nothing.
PoshPrincess Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Easy and drama-free lays?? Isn't that what ALL men want? Do you know, I seriously did think that was all men wanted until I had a fling with someone last year. We were both single but I made it clear that I was only after 'friends with benefits' as I was still getting over MM at the time (I didn't tell him the bit about MM though). Anyway, he made it quite clear that he was not happy with that situation and I never saw or heard from him again!
Author cocomae Posted September 27, 2007 Author Posted September 27, 2007 well, after he flake on me. I didn't call him and he didn't cal me. It has been a week now. I somehow made up my mind not to contact him or try to find explanation. I just feel sorry that we've known each other for more than four years and it has to end this way. But it's better to cut him loose right?
halfarock Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Easy and drama-free lays?? Isn't that what ALL men want? Actually there are some of us men who really like hanging out with women.
Woggle Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Actually there are some of us men who really like hanging out with women. I very much agree but like I said before there are certain women that play certain positions in a man's life. Men tend to compartmentalize more than women do when it comes to relationships.
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