borntorun Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I apologize in advance for this topics length... This girl is my cousin's friend since high school. I have been told for years that she likes me but i have never seen anything to suggest that she does (though I can be a little slow). I asked her out about 3-4 years ago after my brothers wedding and she blew me off. fast forward to now: I have been hanging out with my cousin and her friend for the past few months occasionally going to the bar. For the past 3-4-5 weeks she has been text messaging me frequently. Usually the text message is "goodnight" about two weeks ago i was at the bar with my buddy on a sat night when she texts me and asks me where im at. I tell har and ask her if shes with my cousin and tell them to join me and my buddy . she says she is not with my cousin but it is too far to come out (which it was). The next Wednesday i get a txt message at 1130 pm, again asking what i was doing. I said nothing. She told me to come out to a bar. I assumed her and my cousin were out. I get to the bar and this girl is there along with her friend and her friends boyfriend. no cousin. We sit at the bar and she starts drinking my beer and starts touching my leg. Eventually she asks me i f i want to come over her house. jokingly i say sure. fast forward a few minutes she sits on my lap and asks me if i want to come over again. I say yes ill come ovwer. I pay my tab, we walk out to the parking lot she goes to her car and I to mine and again she asks what Im doing. I said if im invited ill come over. I follow her to her house. She changes clothes and sits on the couch with a blanket. We watch tv for awhile and ahe starts coming closer to me. I put my arm around her and we sit. Finally she lays down on the couch and grabs my arm and tells me to "come here". We start making out. This continues for maybe 10 minutes and she state to take off my belt. I did not willingly take it any further than thiis nor did she (I was "unprepared" ). As things start to slow down we end up laying together on her couch. I asked if she wanted me to go as she stressed many times that she had to work the next day. She said no. She fell asleep on the couch as i lay there, very uncomfortably (she was laying on my arm and it fell asleep) at about 4:40 am she wakes up after tossong and turning. I told her i know she was uncomfortable and she nodded. Again I offered to leave and she nodded. I collected myself and she walked me to the door. We kissed i left. I texted her the next day to see how she felt and said she was tired and sick. The next night she again texted Goodnight. Friday I didnt hear from her all day. I sent her a goodnight friday night. Saturday, i texted her to see what she was up to that night. She said she was going to PA w/ tosee some friends, (this was confirmed ) But she offered nio more info than that. That night she texted me to let me know that she loved PA and shed like to move there. That is the last time I have heard from her. Can anyone help me make sense out of this? I know her last boyfriend hurt her (cheating I think) and I also know that she is out of my league (at least i think so) and we are complete opposites (which she knows)
Aintayankee Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Interesting, but you are right to not press further than she wants to take it. Don't text her much. There's no need. Maybe you could get around to asking her if she feels the same way about you as 3-4 years ago when she rejected you; it should be an interesting answer. If you don't hear from her too regularly, then it is like beating a dead horse for you to keep pursing, you did that already, and she left you hanging since then, so as of now, you have no obligation to keep a steady contact. Let her do whatever, you did what you thought you should, and that is good. It is suspicious, but maybe she is acting from something subconcious, and not necessarily trying to play games with you, just being a random chick sounds like.
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