sweetbutcheeky Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Anyone have some great date activity ideas? The guy I am seeing and I have gone to dinner, movies, beach/boardwalk, live beach music show, relaxing at his place. We are going to to to the theater, but that is in a month or so (We Will Rock You - Queen Music). But are running low on ideas, I'm sure everyone here should have some great ideas!
Aintayankee Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Try going for a hike when it is a nice warm day out. You will be relaxed from the exercise, and when you get to the top of the hill/mountain or whatever, someplace shady, you can sit/lie down together and start making out, or go all the way........if there is a big enough stream, you can go swimming/skinny dipping.
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I added things that you could also do during the day, for the entire day, on weekends: Pool, bowling, rent a boat/seadoos/jetski/waterskiing/tubing, skydiving, fishing, any live pro-sports game, rock climbing, white-water rafting, mountain biking, picnic, horseback riding, tennis, golf, bars, clubs, pubs, opera, ballet, symphony, concerts and comedy clubs.
lazer1743 Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Comedy clubs are great, it gets you both in a great mood from all the laughing!
crosswordfiend Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 nuit blanche... all night contemporary art festival. it's this saturday in toronto.
peace_pipe Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Sounds like you have done a lot already. Maybe you are pressuring yourself a bit too much to make every date "special and perfect". What are you going to do 6 months from now when the relationship loses some of its initial excitement? Have you tried chicken and sex? I highly recommend it.
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Each date should be fun, not sitting in front of a TV...
peace_pipe Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Each date should be fun, not sitting in front of a TV... Hmm HIGH MAINTENANCE? You've been out on a lot of dates already and they all seemed to be pretty cool. I think that you are placing too much emphasis on this. If a girl can't sit at home with me and watch TV and be cool with that, then I would consider her high maintenance and out she goes. I have other things going on in my life other than planning out every detail of an upcoming date. If two people sincerely enjoy each other, it should be enough fun just spending time together, without planning out every detail of a "date".
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Hmm HIGH MAINTENANCE? You've been out on a lot of dates already and they all seemed to be pretty cool. I think that you are placing too much emphasis on this. If a girl can't sit at home with me and watch TV and be cool with that, then I would consider her high maintenance and out she goes. I have other things going on in my life other than planning out every detail of an upcoming date. If two people sincerely enjoy each other, it should be enough fun just spending time together, without planning out every detail of a "date". Couch potato?
peace_pipe Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Couch potato? No, not a couch potato. I more in one day than most people do in a week. I am, however, not a professional date coordinator. A bit too tacky for me. If you can't be happy just chilling out with an evening at home every once in a while then you are HIGH MAINTENANCE. Enjoy!
uniqueone Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I agree....it shouldn't have to be an event every time. My view is that it shouldn't have to be staged. Just do whatever you feel like doing at the time....don't overthink it. With one person, you might spend a lot of dates at home. With another person you might spend a lot of dates at music clubs. With another, you might spend a lot of dates doing sport activities. It just varies. There's not a set generic "program" for dates. Sometimes when people need an exciting activity to have a good time, it means that they don't have that strong of a connection. With someone you really feel comfortable with, you're ok with doing ANYTHING with them.....even going to a laundramat! I've noticed that with the guys I wasn't all that interested in, I needed to go out and do something really fun each time.
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 No, not a couch potato. I more in one day than most people do in a week. I am, however, not a professional date coordinator. A bit too tacky for me. If you can't be happy just chilling out with an evening at home every once in a while then you are HIGH MAINTENANCE. Enjoy! Couch potato...
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 27, 2007 Author Posted September 27, 2007 We enjoy a movie night at his place but sometimes we want to get out and have a fun night/day doing something out. I can sit and watch TV on my own. Nothing to do with trying to make each date perfect, just looking for some ideas on what to do. Vs "What do you want to do, have any ideas? I dunno I can't think of anything, what do you want to do?" LOL Chicken and sex? Sex is always good, but not sure I wanna know where the chicken comes in! LOL Ah yes nuit blanche! I forgot about that! I have it bookmarked on my computer. Comedy clubs is a good idea too. A lot of the outdoor ideas sound great too, though it's getting cooler here in Toronto so won't be able to do those things for too much longer. (Though I am still in denial that summer is ending)
peace_pipe Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 We enjoy a movie night at his place but sometimes we want to get out and have a fun night/day doing something out. I can sit and watch TV on my own. Nothing to do with trying to make each date perfect, just looking for some ideas on what to do. Vs "What do you want to do, have any ideas? I dunno I can't think of anything, what do you want to do?" LOL Chicken and sex? Sex is always good, but not sure I wanna know where the chicken comes in! LOL Ah yes nuit blanche! I forgot about that! I have it bookmarked on my computer. Comedy clubs is a good idea too. A lot of the outdoor ideas sound great too, though it's getting cooler here in Toronto so won't be able to do those things for too much longer. (Though I am still in denial that summer is ending) Halo 3 just came out. Why don't you have a Halo 3 party with some drinks and a blunt? You asked for my ideas and so far all i could come up with is: chicken and sex halo 3 and sex LOL!!
peace_pipe Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I agree....it shouldn't have to be an event every time. My view is that it shouldn't have to be staged. Just do whatever you feel like doing at the time....don't overthink it. With one person, you might spend a lot of dates at home. With another person you might spend a lot of dates at music clubs. With another, you might spend a lot of dates doing sport activities. It just varies. There's not a set generic "program" for dates. Sometimes when people need an exciting activity to have a good time, it means that they don't have that strong of a connection. With someone you really feel comfortable with, you're ok with doing ANYTHING with them.....even going to a laundramat! I've noticed that with the guys I wasn't all that interested in, I needed to go out and do something really fun each time. This post is right on the money! I couldn't agree more with this: I've noticed that with the guys I wasn't all that interested in, I needed to go out and do something really fun each time.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 27, 2007 Author Posted September 27, 2007 If a girl can't sit at home with me and watch TV and be cool with that, then I would consider her high maintenance and out she goes. I have other things going on in my life other than planning out every detail of an upcoming date. If two people sincerely enjoy each other, it should be enough fun just spending time together, without planning out every detail of a "date". I am, however, not a professional date coordinator. A bit too tacky for me. If you can't be happy just chilling out with an evening at home every once in a while then you are HIGH MAINTENANCE. I agree....it shouldn't have to be an event every time. My view is that it shouldn't have to be staged. Just do whatever you feel like doing at the time....don't overthink it. There's not a set generic "program" for dates. Since when is not wanting to stay home on the couch for every date High Maintenance? And who said anything about planning every detail or it being an event? We see each other 2-3 times a week and once we have a movie night at his place but like to go out and do something for the other nights/days. They don't have to have a itinerary or schedule, just an idea of something to do then play it by ear. As my signature says "You can learn more about a man in an hour of play than in conversation. ~ Plato"
uniqueone Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 We enjoy a movie night at his place but sometimes we want to get out and have a fun night/day doing something out. I can sit and watch TV on my own. Nothing to do with trying to make each date perfect, just looking for some ideas on what to do. Vs "What do you want to do, have any ideas? I dunno I can't think of anything, what do you want to do?" LOL Chicken and sex? Sex is always good, but not sure I wanna know where the chicken comes in! LOL Ah yes nuit blanche! I forgot about that! I have it bookmarked on my computer. Comedy clubs is a good idea too. A lot of the outdoor ideas sound great too, though it's getting cooler here in Toronto so won't be able to do those things for too much longer. (Though I am still in denial that summer is ending) To me it would depend on two things.....who you're with and what their interests are (and yours) and where you live. For instance you've already named things that aren't even an option for me. I dated a guy where we considered things such as wall climbing and paintball, but it's not like you can do those types of things with just anyone. How about a walk on a nature trail watching the Fall colors? A zoo. Some antique shops. Art exhibits. Pumpkin picking. Wine tasting. Going to see some live music playing outdoors. Bicycling. Going to an Improv club (if you have one). A restaurant tour. A casino. ........
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 27, 2007 Author Posted September 27, 2007 I've noticed that with the guys I wasn't all that interested in, I needed to go out and do something really fun each time. Well that could just be you because that honestly doesn't make sense. Because it's also fun to get out and share doing something with the guy your dating, learn about each other, create a memory and something to talk about. Things that you can't learn home on the couch.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 27, 2007 Author Posted September 27, 2007 How about a walk on a nature trail watching the Fall colors? A zoo. Art exhibits. Pumpkin picking. Wine tasting. Bicycling. Going to an Improv club (if you have one) All good ideas. Going to see some live music playing outdoors - we did that on our second date and had a great time. He brought chairs, water and snacks! hee hee
Saxis Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Sometimes just doing your regular chores/tasks together is fun, like: grocery shopping, making dinner, cleaning up, laundry. You get to know them and you get stuff done. Works better for later dates though. I wouldn't ask a first date to help me with my laundry... You can always go out for ice cream or a walk afterwards. XW and I used to do stuff like this all the time for "date night". Go grocery shopping, grab some take out and head home to watch a movie. Make dinner, clean up, head out for ice cream/coffee for a couple hours.
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Love theatre sports. It's unbelievable how fast and funny these men/women can be.
tanbark813 Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Well that could just be you because that honestly doesn't make sense. I think it makes perfect sense. Girls I've dated who have been genuinely interesting I could sit on a patio with some wine and just chat with them for hours and be thoroughly entertained. Girls who have nothing going on upstairs I definitely would need to be out at karaoke, a movie, whatever.. so as not to become so bored I want to stab myself--and possibly them--in the brain.
shadowplay Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 poetry slam, film festival, outdoor market, apple picking...
Star Gazer Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I think it makes perfect sense. Girls I've dated who have been genuinely interesting I could sit on a patio with some wine and just chat with them for hours and be thoroughly entertained. Girls who have nothing going on upstairs I definitely would need to be out at karaoke, a movie, whatever.. so as not to become so bored I want to stab myself--and possibly them--in the brain. Totally agree. The best dates are those that are (almost) all titillating conversation...
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 27, 2007 Author Posted September 27, 2007 I think it makes perfect sense. Girls I've dated who have been genuinely interesting I could sit on a patio with some wine and just chat with them for hours and be thoroughly entertained. Girls who have nothing going on upstairs I definitely would need to be out at karaoke, a movie, whatever.. so as not to become so bored I want to stab myself--and possibly them--in the brain. Oh brother! Actually sitting on a patio with some wine is a date activity by the way ... No one ever said anything about doing an activity where you didn't have to talk to the other person. I was asking for some ideas of some things to do on the days where we feel like getting out of the house. VS the nights where we relax, chat and watch a movie.
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