honeycat Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Hi everyone, As you can probably tell by what follows, I am desperate for answers. First of all, I'm not a saint, nor a kid. I've been married to the same guy for man years, who is a control freak, but that's not the worst. I work in an industry dominated by men (racing). When I started with the first team I was as naive as they come. I was immediately swept off my feet by the glamour of it all. I started to have to travel with the team ocasionally and my husband just about had a stroke, so I could only go to events where he could go with me. I don't do well with demands and I pushed back. My boss, who I truly thought was my best friend started giving me "advice". Next thing I know I'm separated, sort of, because my husband wouldn't move out, but we were "free" to do as we please. I started seeing the other guy and to make a long story short, after telling me he wanted me to leave my husband and marry him, I find out he's been cheating all along. Over the years and it's been quite a few, he has sent the occasional text message of left a message on my phone at work, telling me how sorry he is and how he's found out what a bad person he is, but guess what he now realizes he loves me and he always has (by the way he has since married the girl he cheated on me with). My husband has never gotten over this. He used to put things in my drinks to have my pass out and have his way with me. He even make a movie of the event. I found out 2 1/2 years ago that one of his friends thought I was someone else and made the comment to him that he would really like to do me. My husband never set him straight on who I was. Every time we're in the act, he brings up the fact that it would be great to sit back and either have a 3 way or watch me go at it with this other guy. Who by the way has the tape, although there's no headshots. The the boss comes back on the scene, he's in marriage counseling, but is planning on leaving his wife and realizes I'm the love of his life. My life is suffering in every aspect. I don't know what to do. Can someone please give me some advice?
Aintayankee Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Take up philosophy, get out of your current relationships would be most advantageous. Isn't healthy or necessary to stay. Take up a new career? Philosophy is hardcore junk. It is helpful to somepoeple in terms of life difficulties. Trust me on that.
Spinderella Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 What on earth is holding you to these awful men? Why can't you get rid of both of them? Why are you still sleeping with someone who drugged you to have sex with you and taped the event?? Is this all you think your life can be?
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