AngeloWolfe Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Well... this has really gotten out of hand with what to do. I've kind of put off planning for the future off for a few months, but it's decision time and wanted some opininos. My girlfirend and I have been together quite sometime, and I'll be turning 18 soon. I'm a senior in high school, and she is a junior. Well.. before we met we were both planning on attending the same college (go figure, right? lol) and such, and at first I was all excited how everything would work out. But I wonder... should I wait a year before attending the university, and start with her at the same time? I mean, it may be silly to base my plans all around her, but it seems like it would be a bit more logical. Any ideas?
Aintayankee Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I dunno, everyone told me to not delay, cause of how long it takes anyway. I just take one class at a time at a junior college. No tons of homework, plus schedule for work and other stuff is pretty loose. You could do attend part time, just one or two, year round, dunno just a suggestion. If she happens to dump you, then what? I dunno, but you I don't see the problem with go ahead and start, but just do what I do and take a light load, so you can stay focused on her as well. Good luck.
Duck n' Bunnies Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Oh hunny, NO! Don't wait to get your education. I've gone all through university and now I'm in Grad school. My boyfriend attends a different Grad school but we chose to go to different ones because we know our education is what is going to give us our fantastic lives down the road and we both knew that different grad schools are going to give us the RIGHT education we want... It's not like you are abandoning her... she can still attend the same college as you once she graduates! Listen, if you skip a year and not go to university or college right away, chances are, you will have twice as hard a time getting into a school once you've skipped a year (because you are not a "graduating" student... that is if you are going to graduate this year and take a year off) If that doesn't help you change your mind, think of it this way. The faster YOU get your education, the quicker you can have a career to be making money and begin living a life you can bring your girlfriend into. Relationships ARE precious and I understand how you feel but you have to think about YOURSELF first... you need to take care of yourself... I'm not saying that you WILL... but IF you ever did break up... you are one year behind yourself and will have wasted a year doing what? I don't know if you like what I have to say but that is the way I see it. I felt the SAME WAY you did before... but believe me... it's alot nicer to be able to treat your sweety to magnificent things once you've gotten yourself established. Hope you make the decision that is RIGHT for YOU, but this is just my take on things! Good luck!
wwjd Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 . But I wonder... should I wait a year before attending the university, and start with her at the same time? I mean, it may be silly to base my plans all around her, but it seems like it would be a bit more logical. Any ideas? if you decide to wait a year before attending college, make sure it's primarily for and because of you. if you want to take some time off to work, relax, and think about what direction you truly want to take, then delaying a year before enrolling can be a good idea. however, if you're doing it just for her, while you actually want to go fresh out of high school, then you shouldn't. if you enroll right away or not, it needs to be a decision that comes from and is based on you and your best interests, not hers because then you'd just be cheating yourself. if i were you, i'd go ahead and take a year off and do some other things. it's really not that big a deal, no matter how much many people say it is. it's only a year and if you really have the desire to go back, then you will. but then again, i think going to college is pretty overrated anyway, so take from that what you will.
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Go straight to college. Too many people who take the time off never go back because they like the income. Education is key to getting your foot in the door. Aptitude and hard work will get you where you want to go.
jerbear Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Goto college, do not go pass the 1st year. College changes people so go get an education. If you wait one year, you might enjoy the income yet not know what it would take to move up. Without being your own boss, a college education is required to do open doors.
Cobra_X30 Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 Well... this has really gotten out of hand with what to do. I've kind of put off planning for the future off for a few months, but it's decision time and wanted some opininos. My girlfirend and I have been together quite sometime, and I'll be turning 18 soon. I'm a senior in high school, and she is a junior. Well.. before we met we were both planning on attending the same college (go figure, right? lol) and such, and at first I was all excited how everything would work out. But I wonder... should I wait a year before attending the university, and start with her at the same time? I mean, it may be silly to base my plans all around her, but it seems like it would be a bit more logical. Any ideas? No, I'll tell you why! Experience. My best friend switched colleges to attend with his HS GF. Everything was great... then Christmas of thier sophmore year she dumps him... on the 23rd of December. He showed up on her doorstep with flowers. She opened the door and says she doesnt want them. Guess what... She met another guy in one of her classes. She married that guy 3 years later! No, don't wait around for her! You will regret it later. If your love is strong... you can take the seperation and temptation!
Author AngeloWolfe Posted September 28, 2007 Author Posted September 28, 2007 If your love is strong... you can take the seperation and temptation! I've got to say that's some of the best advice I've ever heard! Thanks a bunch, everyone. I realize, that I need to do what will make me happy in my heart. And.. I want to go to college right into it. If we are meant to be, then the time apart will help more than hurt.
groovewithjamie Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 i wouldn't make any life changing moves now but i would take her into consideration too
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