sarg81 Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 i need help ya ive been married for 3yrs now and have a wonderfull little girl 3yrs of age i love my wife very much maybe too much i know i have a problem with jealousy and obsestion due to her kissing another man an event that i saw with my own eyes. i forgave her but i dont know if i dont know how to deal with it im in iraq right now and its been a long and hard road in the beginning she wanted a divorce and i was going to give it to her and when i came home to get everything situated she had changed her mind she said she needed to know how she would be around me from being aways for 3 months we got back together and it was great for a while then she started to fight with me everytime i would ask questions about finance and her personnel life she said it would sound like i was interagating her to it didint sound like but i backed off then she wanted to have a BQQ at our apartment and bring her male friends from her old job and the only problem i had was that when i was home she would never bring any of her friends around now that im gone theyre coming over i dont know what to do im thinking of limiting how much i call her what should i do ???????????
amaysngrace Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I hate to say this but the same thing happened with a couple I know. When he was in Iraq she realized she didn't need him around as much as she thought she did. It gave her a chance to see what life was like without him in it. She divorced him and is raising their girls without him. But he use to beat her so really not the same thing at all. I don't know but maybe she's getting use to life without you too. Is there any way that you can limit the amount of money that's sent home to her so that you can put something aside for yourself? Or are you already doing that? PS It would make it easier to read your post if it wasn't one gigantic paragraph.
Author sarg81 Posted September 27, 2007 Author Posted September 27, 2007 well i would never think to beat her and i know she still has alot to realize she is very youngim 26 and shes 21. it was like that at first; about not wanting me she said i needed to come home so that she would no exactly how she would feel about me and once i came home and we spent some time together alone. she rethought her plan and wanted to stay with me and about the money ive tryed but every time i try to do it she gets really and i mean really mad i hate to say it to myself but im a sucker. i do have a seperate bank account she dosnt have a password to, but she gets really upset when i talk about transfering some money for me to get some things i dont know if this is a relationship on the way to a crash site but something is telling me to atleast try
cld24 Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I read your other post and it really sounds to me as if she has gotten used to you not being around and is ready to live her life and go out with her friends. I can kind of understand her side since she was very young when she married and got pregnant but she also knew this while it was happening. All I can suggest is that you need to put money away for yourself incase she leaves you. I hope this doesn't happen but why does she get really mad if you put money in another account for your personal needs? Thats strange. Make sure you keep track of what she is doing with the money because she may be planning ahead and taking money out of your joint account and putting into another with plans to leave. I really hope that everythong will turn out for the best and maybe she is just stressed with the baby and missing you a lot right now and thats why you are going through a tough time. Good luck.
boredmommy Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 im in iraq right now First things first: Thank you for service and for defending me and my family it was great for a while then she started to fight with me everytime i would ask questions about finance and her personnel life unless youre being a real over bearing husband, i think as her H you are entitled to ask questions, i mean you are like 6000 miles away
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