mich_dog_lover Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 so H was real distant. Everyone said to back off and I did. 2 weekends ago we went out and had fun. I ended up staying at his house for the night. That sunday he called and asked if I wanted to have dinner. Yes.. he came over and we made dinner. Monday we had counseling and he told her that before he wasnt sure he wanted the marriage work but he feels differently, Monday night he came over after counseling. Tue he invited me out to dinner and back to his house to watch a movie and he invited me to spend the night (nothing happened) . I went home when he went to work. Wed we got together and he said he was enjoying the time we were spending. Thur he called me. Fri he came over to my house for dinner. Sat he invited me over and then came to my sons soccer game. He had invited me over sat night for dinner and a movie. Well at the soccer game he "uninvited" me.. OK sunday we went to church together. Later sun he told me that his daughter(12) told him if he spends time with me she isnt coming over to see him. Monday night he wanted to know if he could come over and do laundry. I said ok... He fell asleep on the couch and got up the next morning and went to work. Havent heard from him since. Anyone know why last week he wanted to spend time with me and this week he wants nothing to do with me.... Im so confused. We have counseling tomorrow. He said on Sun he was going.
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 GIVE HIM TIME... From what you said your on the right track dont manipulate, or squeeze him in, let him decide if he wants to come back! Stay positive.
Author mich_dog_lover Posted September 28, 2007 Author Posted September 28, 2007 he is back to no communication again.....what a roller coaster. he did go to counseling and she asked if he was coming back and he said yes. I dont know why he keeps going but Im not complaining. She did point out to him some stuff that maybe he was not handling correctly. He seemed to listen. Now she wants his daughter and I and my husband to attned counseling together and get some stuff out on the table. She told my husband that he had a wall up and was very defensive. we will see!
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 he is back to no communication again.....what a roller coaster. he did go to counseling and she asked if he was coming back and he said yes. I dont know why he keeps going but Im not complaining. She did point out to him some stuff that maybe he was not handling correctly. He seemed to listen. Now she wants his daughter and I and my husband to attned counseling together and get some stuff out on the table. She told my husband that he had a wall up and was very defensive. we will see! This is great news , keep your head up, if your husband said he's coming back that's a great sign. Just keep your eyes open and keep loving him. it isnt over, until it's over. The payoff is gonna be big for you, I feel it for both of you.
Author mich_dog_lover Posted September 29, 2007 Author Posted September 29, 2007 thanks for the encouragement, last night we had our talk. its an assignment our counselor gave us. 2 times a week we have to talk for 2 hour... one hour of serious talk and then one hour of fun activites or talking about something general. So he says that he doesnt care if the marriage works or not. That kinda hurt. BUT........ its better then saying yes he def. wants a divorce. He said he doesnt want to make the decision so I said well you want me too choose.. I choose marriage. We will see. I invited him to do something with the kids and I today but apparently friends from work are coming over. I also did ask him if we were celebrating our anniversary next week. He said sure and asked me what I wanted to do. so I will see how things go... again thanks
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