I thought about going on practice dates but I realized that won't work because

[DateAnalyzer]

I'm not shy/nervous/shaky/sweaty around a girl i'm not physically attracted to, only girls who I'm attracted to. So I don't know what to do because I can't practice with some I think is cute because I would want to do well. Maybe I do need therapy because I realy don't know what to do

[Green]

Maybe read a book on dating and picking up women might help. You have a seriouse break down in the game you play. First off be yourself you dont need to be one way with one woman and a different way with some one else. Second if you go out with an atractive woman that you wanted and fail look at that as the practice you seem to say is imposible to get, there will be more women to go out with and get it right. Therapy probably wont help you unless you think you have some chemical imbalance need for drugs. Heed my advice keep going out on dates with women you find attractive, Be a man when your out on these dates be cool confident and controled. when you kiss her, do it like you mean it

[sb129]

Is there any reason why you can't just enjoy being single for now Dateanalyzer?

 

Do you have anything else you do in your spare time? Perhaps a hobby or interest that could be developed? who knows, you might meet people there.

 

If you take some pressure off yourself, who knows what might happen?

[shadowplay]

Let this thread die, people.

[sb129]

I know I know, I took the bait.

 

DA's desperation is taking its toll. I just wish he could see there is more to life than dating.

 

If he just chilled the **** out, he might actually enjoy life.

 

And even meet a girl somewhere along the way

[DateAnalyzer]

Is there any reason why you can't just enjoy being single for now Dateanalyzer?

 

Do you have anything else you do in your spare time? Perhaps a hobby or interest that could be developed? who knows, you might meet people there.

 

If you take some pressure off yourself, who knows what might happen?

 

 

I don't have outdoor hobbies, only indoor. I will try to work on that between now and the end of the year.

[DateAnalyzer]

I know I know, I took the bait.

 

DA's desperation is taking its toll. I just wish he could see there is more to life than dating.

 

If he just chilled the **** out, he might actually enjoy life.

 

And even meet a girl somewhere along the way

 

 

I'm cool when I'm home, don't really think about being single, it's ntot until I go outside and on my to work when I get depressed because I walk past 15-20 women I'm attracted to before I get to work. at home it's nothing reminding me i'm single, only when I'm in public

[SoHotZanzibar]

i think the therapy option you mentioned sounds good.

let us know how it goes

[Mustang Sally]

Sounds to me like there is an anxiety component at work here, too, DA.

 

Have you talked to your doctor about this, by any chance?

[Green]

I would love to walk past 20 attractive women every day on my way to work. First off I love bird watching, Secondly whats stoping you from looking then when one looks back you smile and engage in conversation, open her up with that vest has nice colour or what ever and then put the moves

[DateAnalyzer]

Sounds to me like there is an anxiety component at work here, too, DA.

 

Have you talked to your doctor about this, by any chance?

 

 

Doctor?? I'm not sure I know what u mean

[Mustang Sally]

Just wondering if you have excessive anxiety issues, is all.

 

If not, then please disregard.

[DateAnalyzer]

I would love to walk past 20 attractive women every day on my way to work. First off I love bird watching, Secondly whats stoping you from looking then when one looks back you smile and engage in conversation, open her up with that vest has nice colour or what ever and then put the moves

 

 

Well I'm talking about in passing, i can't stop a woman who I'm walking past on the street.

[Green]

yeah you can, just look them right in the eyes and dont look away if they look at you. You might get a smile or something, then just say something like excuse me and something witty. Its easer if your walking the same direction or if they are alread stoped some where like at a bus stop, or infront of a newstand or what ever.

[DateAnalyzer]

yeah you can, just look them right in the eyes and dont look away if they look at you. You might get a smile or something, then just say something like excuse me and something witty. Its easer if your walking the same direction or if they are alread stoped some where like at a bus stop, or infront of a newstand or what ever.

 

 

Well that's the point I was trying to make, she would have to be standing still somewhere, not in motion

[MystifiedByMen]

Have a glass of wine while you're getting ready for your date and listen to some fun music. The music will bring your mood up and the wine will chill you out. A few drinks are ok but don't ever get drunk on a date though. That's tacky.

[Green]

first off yes just relax, either dont drink any alcahol or drink very little, lastly of course they are moving or doing something or talking with people. Your never going to find a pretty girl just standing there by herself doing nothing.... so hit on the girls walking, or talking, or with a group of people...