guide me with Nc?

[Omma]

Hi there,

 

ive been readling all the posts.

my problem is the following ive been seeing this guyfor over 2 years, on anf offs, im tired of his mistakes, in 1 year hes done quite a few bad stuffs, that include seeing a friend of mine without telling me, being rude, etc etc, always comes back "sorry i love you ill never do it again", the thing is i alwasy beleive he will change, and not make mistakes again, maybe im to fast in forgiving?. anyways we get along very well but it does stress me that he seems to makes mistakes, gets me back, and makes them again, i mean if you forgvie someone, they should thanku for that and do some acting, not only using the word sorry is enough.

So ive decided just stop talking to him, becaus eno matter how much i say, write or do seems to change anything.

So i told him " i thing you are too selfish, u realize u make a mistake, ask sorry and continue making more and more, i told him taht i wanted to clean my closet, and to do that i had to get rid of clothes that are no longer usefull, because i am tired of his crap, " i love u, im sorry, i love u ima sorry", but no actions or changes made.

The thing is i just stopped talking o him, he said " qhy are u being so exagerated",rang me up the next day 7 am and i havent awnserd or called him since,(monday) but hasnt called anymore, and maybe he just doesnt realize because ive always forgiven so fast, all of his mistakes, maybe its too late, but im willing to give it a try.

 

what do u guys think, should i call and explain him that i am breaking up because im fed up and explian him all the **** hes done?, or is it obvouis he already knows?, and just keep on with my NC and see if he really does value me now that ime not there.?

weve never stopped tallking for over 1 day, becasue i always take him back really fast, and thats the thing hes just taken me for granted.

the only problem is, i think he doesnt understand why im pullinbg away.

anyway hope someone can guide me here.

thankssssssssssssssssssssssss

[alwayshurt]

I have a similar situation. This girl I was seing for about 4 months acted pretty much the same. She always tells she loves me, how great and honest person I am, that I was perfect for her and then disappears. She calls me back asking she wants to see me and she starts all over again. I had enough and decided the NC. Last time she called I cut the conv short and it has been now 4 days of absolute silence.

Back to you....I would not call me him or answered his call again. He's definetely confused and honestly I don't think he loves you as much as he says. It's easy to say I love you to somebody but acting as being in love is much different and you have to be in love to show the other person what she/he wants to see. Facts are more important than words. If he's been doing this to you that means he does not love you or took you for granted because you're always there and he can eat the cake whenever he wants. Why bothers? sometime people realize how important things are when they loose them. Have him loose yo. if he is smart enough, truly loves and it was ment to be he'll come back. otherwise you have lost nothing but just avoided you further pains. Good luck.

[Omma]

im sorry to hear youre going through the same as me, it really actually sucks.

He called me today, and just said the same stuff he always does, "i love u", i dont want to loose you, bla bla bla, and i really just dont know what to day, i told him i was fed up, and that i hadnt called because im really tired of his crap.

I think im taking ure advice, im just going to dissapear, although its really scary to think, he will call once, and than just give up.

anyway tell me how ure stuff is going

thanks

[Theorem]

my ex broke up with me because i did that to her, it just got worse. even though i thought i could act differently....it was only temporary. it just depends if that behavior is WHO he is, he wont act otherwise. you cant change for anyone but yourself. She wasnt happy being with me and getting her feelings hurt.

 

if your not happy...make that choice to pursue that happiness elsewhere. Goodluck

[Omma]

ok you guys i just reacived a gift from him, he went to the beach wrote in the sand " i love you " and sent it to me., quite nice.but its not enough.

 

so i wrote him this.

 

i have been on Nc with my bf who i kind of dumped cause ive been fed up with his crap,mistakes-sorry-forgive-mistakes-and again and again, but love him, he sent me a present today(really beautiflu one) and i emailed him this, please tell me if i was wrong, ive been Nc for 5 days (been together 2 years know eachother for 5, talk every day)

 

[sIZE=2]You know i love you with all my heart and i just hope you will change and become the guy i once met, full of happiness, i think maybe all the things has been happening all the deceptions in ure life have made you into this changed soiltary persona,you always excuse ureself by saying "i am like that",But No,thats the most common phrase used by humans, just to not do anything,when everything is possible if you want it to be.

I you dont do it for me please do it for the people who will come after.

Everything ive said and or wrote, if your fed up or not, t ake it or leave it,i dont think there are more than 2 persons in your life who have repetead to u these things, and believe me we do it becasue we love you, i want u to know that ive alwasy been there for u,handled the unhandled, i just hope you will react soon...im not coming back to tell u anything, i think ive done enough.

Please remember , family will never get tired and will always be there by ure side, but we who are not same blood type hae the option to leave.

 

thanks once again for your present.

 

 

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[alwayshurt]

well done. You showed maturity and dignity. You deserve any kind of love and affection a man can give.