StaringContest Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 If that's the case then I apologize. But considering no one said anything about punishing the person (except me alluding to it), I assumed that one comment was directed at me. That's cool, man. I mentioned that stuff because blb said she felt the same way as you. In case that included wanting to punish her ex, I figured I'd offer her my opinion on that.
Darkzen Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 That's cool, man. I mentioned that stuff because blb said she felt the same way as you. In case that included wanting to punish her ex, I figured I'd offer her my opinion on that. No biggie, just a mis-communication.
Aintayankee Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 Dunno. Maybe he didn't want to keep you on an emotional leash while he was away. Maybe he is pursuing his goals, and doesn't want to keep you thinking about him. I suspect he might consider talkin to the girl at his university, cause she is closer to his life track. This is all up in the air though. I can't assert anything from your passage though.
DVNPRT6 Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 been in 4 REAL relationships...the woman ALWAYS as a Plan "B" especially if they are nsecure and has 'daddy issues'....but im a guy....meaning this might not help u out
Author blueladybird Posted September 30, 2007 Author Posted September 30, 2007 Thanks everyone for your advice. Really kept me going. when i wake up in the mornings, i feel soo depressed..but graudually feel better. This is hectic. Anyway some new news..lol. My ex boyfriend (some one completel different)whom i dated 3 years ago wants me back. Let me give you a brief summary of what happened. We were together for 2 years up till 2004. I then left for london and he went to russia so we split with time. We kept in touch sometimes etc, but recently after 3 years of not seeing eachother, wants to get back together...says he loves me and this time apart made him realise that out of all the girls he has been with, I am the one he wants to spend his life with etc. He wants me to visit in October and talk about things. I am so confused at the moment because I am still getting over my ex with whom i split about 1 and a half weeks ago. Now, my ex from 3 yrs ago....I was so much in love with him, he understood me and i understood him. He hurt me in the past, but never ever left me and always made me his number1. I dont know if i should go to visit him or not. I feel like its a rebounds, but its really not because I am not rushing anything. He wants to marry me, wants to get engagaged etc and wants us to talk about it. I am too young for marriage now..as i am 21 years, but there is not pressure for marriage now..just wants me to be his future wife. I dont want to travel to see him and then my most recent ex comes back. Still I dont want to wait for my recent ex, because I liked him alot but did not love him. Besides, my most recent ex does not know me half as much as my ex of 3 years, we havent been throught half as much, and with my most recent ex, he fled..simply cos he 'claimed' we argued too much and i went on and on about things. Wow. He was not willing to work on anything, has not even called me. He behaves so cold to me, i wonder if i know him at all. I just dont want a triangle. Do i let go totaly of my most recent ex as hard as it may seem and go back to my ex of 3 years who wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I feel so hurt about my most recent ex. Guys would you leave your girl because 'you argued and she went on about things sometimes'? Without wanting to work anything out. Doesnt make sense...we had a loving relationship. I cared so much for him and showed him. How can some just change overnight. To top things up, I start school tomorrow..law school. I need to focus but its so hard. Pls help!!!
StaringContest Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I was going to reply yesterday after I read your post, but I figured other people would come up with something more useful than I could. Since nobody has yet, I guess I'll give it a try. I think you should forget the recent ex, and give it a try with the previous ex. From your description, it sounds like you had a better relationship, and it was only circumstances that broke you two up. Just be honest with him about your recent break-up. Let him know you're willing to consider a relationship with him, but you need some time to get over the break-up. Visit each other, take things slowly, and see where it goes. Guys would you leave your girl because 'you argued and she went on about things sometimes'? Without wanting to work anything out.I'm not sure how long your relationship with the current ex lasted, but I believe in something a friend told me once. If a relationship takes too much work too soon, you're probably not right for each other. Maybe he felt it was too much work too soon.
Theorem Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 lots of men may break up to be FREE not always going into a new relationship. i think this slightly differs with men and women. NOT BY MUCH but i believe men don't always move into a new one...alot of times just to be able to do what they wish, INDEPENDENCE or ESCAPE, without a true plan of being with someone in particular, but still...the fact he is cold is a good enough sign in itself that theres nothing left to peruse from this. He has moved on emotionally
Author blueladybird Posted October 2, 2007 Author Posted October 2, 2007 Thanks A lot. Can i say something though? I actually want to see my previous ex. We did not even see to break up. It happened on the phone..A friend of mine stays in the same city that he does...so I was thinkn of actually calling him when i get there to see him..not for any purpose, other than to actually c him. I dont want to talk about anything with him, I just want to see this person as I am still in disbelief about what happened. It seemed like he woild die for me...could it be like he is trying to avoid seeing me..for certain reasons? such as not wanting to get drawn back etc. I know you can NEVER make anyone love you, nevertheless i just want him to see what he is missing...I am moving on with my life as well and i certainly am not trying to ahcieve reconciliaiton by my going to see him... Actually I am not going to visit him per say, just gonna see him whilst in his town. Meet up somewhere in public..like it was coincidental.. .Should I or should I not?
StaringContest Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Which ex are you talking about? You said "previous ex" which made me think it was the ex from a few years ago, but the rest sounded like you were talking about the most recent ex. Can we give them nicknames or something?
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