Should we end this affair

[ladybug63]

If you have read my previous post you know a little of my story.

Saw the MM two days straight. I finally asked him how can we be friends when we never were? If he wanted to try to establish a friendship.

He just said every time you call,do I not come?

He did inform me of some problems at home (do not concern me). I dare not ask because I didn't want to pry into his personal life.

I asked if he wanted to discontinue seeing me?

His reply was "I like you enough to risk my family and my career".

I am not sure if I should continue or move on.

[whichwayisup]

Ladybug, the ball is in your court.

 

If you love him and want him, end it now. Tell him when he is divorced and available, you two can be together..But, until then, don't settle to BE his OW...Or his friend. It isn't possible to be just friends with someone you've had an affair with. If you continue the A, nothing will happen. He'll stay married and you'll stay the OW. Nothing more, nothing less...

[OWoman]

I asked if he wanted to discontinue seeing me?

His reply was "I like you enough to risk my family and my career".

I am not sure if I should continue or move on.

 

ladybug - he likes you enough to RISK his family and career. But does he like you enough to LEAVE his family (or career) if that's what you want? There's a big difference between toying with a possibility, and making an active choice.

[ladybug63]

No that is not what I want not at all. I have never asked him to leave his w and I will never ask that of him.

[IpAncA]

Either you end it or when his W finds out, she'll end it for you. Why not find someone who's single and available. That way you can finally have a real relationship.

[TogetherForever]

No that is not what I want not at all. I have never asked him to leave his w and I will never ask that of him.

 

To answer the thread topic: Yes, you both should end the affair.

TF