talk about past relationships/flings/sex or no?

[popey]

curious how many people talk w/ SO about their romantic/sexual past. Is it healthy curiosity/exploration? or better left unsaid?

[amaysngrace]

Better left unsaid.

[madgun68]

I'd second that.

 

I think that, if you love someone, the past is best left where it belongs.. In the past. You're in the now and are hoping for a future. Why cloud it with talk about a time that doesn't include the both of you?

 

I think a good reason to stay away from the past is that some might start to wonder where they rate.

[Krytie TV]

I think it's important to identify people that may have been an important part of your past, but there is nothing good that comes from discussing them in an emotional aspect. I find it disrespectful and would never tell a SO how I felt romantically about someone else.

[spookie]

What about things like abortions? You know... emotionally damaging things from the past that are potential turn-offs but that may give your partner a better understanding of your current motivations? Is it essential, important, or unnecessary to share?

[Jilly10340]

Well....I would never tell my current boyfriend how I felt in certain relationships, that's kind of irrelevant considering I'm not with that person anymore, but...

 

I do tell them my sexual history. In my opinion, if they're sleeping with me, they have a right to know, and vice versa. Especially if you have a real future with someone, why wouldn't you tell them? Some say that the past is the past, but it does have a bearing on the present and leaving out someones history is closing off a part of who they are now and how they got to where they are today.

[sweetbutcheeky]

Better left unsaid. I only told them that I have been safe and tested since my last relationship, which is all they need to know. So they know they will be safe with me (and I want to know the same with them).