uniqueone Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 If all else fails....just install a keylogger and a hidden camera......
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2007 Author Posted September 28, 2007 The reason I was compelled to do it again is because I didn't really look throughly through the whole thing because I felt very guilty for hacking into it. He has a hotmail account and it doesn't tell you when you last logged in or anything so he would never know. I havnt done it again and I won't. Nothing was in there too interesting, like I said so I guess I don't have any real reason to go back and check. Actually writing about it and getting advice helped me. I don't think i'm going to tell him about it, I only did it once when I figured out his password. I don't really need to be snooping, I guess its just paranoia that he's going to turn into the scumbag that my ex-boyfriend did. I did however decide to talk to him about the whole "fear" thing. He said he knows I get a tad insecure at times, but he reassured me that he loves me and will always be there for me. Actually I had a real tough day yesterday (something that happened at work), and I was crying and really down and upset. He comforted me and told me everything was going to be okay. He was so wonderful and supportive, it just made me realize that I really don't have anything to worry about and that I have the best bf in the whole world. I know in my heart there isn't anything to be worried about, I guess there is just always going to be that feeling because of what happened with my ex bf.
whichwayisup Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 I did however decide to talk to him about the whole "fear" thing. He said he knows I get a tad insecure at times, but he reassured me that he loves me and will always be there for me. Actually I had a real tough day yesterday (something that happened at work), and I was crying and really down and upset. He comforted me and told me everything was going to be okay. He was so wonderful and supportive, it just made me realize that I really don't have anything to worry about and that I have the best bf in the whole world. I know in my heart there isn't anything to be worried about, I guess there is just always going to be that feeling because of what happened with my ex bf. Remember this the next time you have doubts and want to snoop again into his email account. You have to learn to trust the guy! If you can't fully trust him, let past fears and baggage get in the way of your relationship, then end it and move on. HE has done nothing wrong so you need to keep your thoughts on the straight and narrow, not worry so much he is going to turn into a jerk and cheat on you.
uniqueone Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I did however decide to talk to him about the whole "fear" thing. He said he knows I get a tad insecure at times, but he reassured me that he loves me and will always be there for me. Actually I had a real tough day yesterday (something that happened at work), and I was crying and really down and upset. He comforted me and told me everything was going to be okay. He was so wonderful and supportive, it just made me realize that I really don't have anything to worry about and that I have the best bf in the whole world. I know in my heart there isn't anything to be worried about, I guess there is just always going to be that feeling because of what happened with my ex bf. If I were you, I think I'd be working on this issue stemming from the ex BF, else it's likely to rear its ugly head again.
sfsassy Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 I don't think what you did was the end of the world. One time with an ex years ago, I was waiting in his car, and snooped in his passenger seat pouch. He laughed when he came and said "you can look in there as much as you please". However I understand that email is much. much more personal. Also not just for the trust factor, but sometimes you might complain about your partner to your friend, or just discuss issues that may or may not e ready for a talk with your partner. It is not a good idea in this case especially bbecause she admits it is about her own insecurities, and not anything he has done.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted October 2, 2007 Author Posted October 2, 2007 Thanks for everyone's replies. I went to my bf's hometown with him this past weekend for his nephew's 1st birthday party. I havn't checked his email at all, or even really thought about it. I guess the more time I spend with him, talk to him, and be wtih him it reassures me that he is the guy I know he is. He's not my ex, he's a lot better. My ex bf had a lot of issues and problems stemming from childhood that he never delt with and which I suppose I was the one who got caught in the crossfire. After spending the weekend with his family, I realize that he was raised well, and has a good, loving, and supportive family, hopefully one day that I will be apart of. Thank you for helping me everyone, it made me feel better about the whole thing. Overall, we are doing really well though.
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