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So theres this senior i like in my English class and she looks at me from her seat at me during class sometimes.I think shes very beautiful and i want to be friends with her and stuff. So i havent had a chance to talk to her so i found out tday im put into a group with her and i think thats good i can talk to her and get to know her but something happened today. I saw my bros friend talking to her and i went to try to talk to him and he kept ignoring me because he was talking to her and it seemed like he didn't want to be bothered by me. So after 5 minutes i realized hes after her too. I know now tht im against him but the problem is hes pro because he recently broke up with his gf and now hes moving to someone new.

 

my only probelm is that this guy is an ******* because he hangs out with my bro and my bro is a big ******* too. and it seems unfair because its unfair tht this happens and i no its always gonna happen but ive already been hurt like 2 times now. and you know im tired of being hurt. so ill im asking is your advice because i dont want to feel like nice guys are the ones who always finish last

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So theres this senior i like in my English class and she looks at me from her seat at me during class sometimes.I think shes very beautiful and i want to be friends with her and stuff. So i havent had a chance to talk to her so i found out tday im put into a group with her and i think thats good i can talk to her and get to know her but something happened today. I saw my bros friend talking to her and i went to try to talk to him and he kept ignoring me because he was talking to her and it seemed like he didn't want to be bothered by me. So after 5 minutes i realized hes after her too. I know now tht im against him but the problem is hes pro because he recently broke up with his gf and now hes moving to someone new.

 

my only probelm is that this guy is an ******* because he hangs out with my bro and my bro is a big ******* too. and it seems unfair because its unfair tht this happens and i no its always gonna happen but ive already been hurt like 2 times now. and you know im tired of being hurt. so ill im asking is your advice because i dont want to feel like nice guys are the ones who always finish last

 

If this guy isn't your friend and he's not dating this girl yet, I don't see why you can't approach her. If you want anything to happen with this girl, you have to approach her (it's not like she can "sense" you like her...you must show her you're interested).

 

This group thing is the perfect way to chat it up with her. Don't let this guy intimidate you into shying away from her. Girls love it when a guy is confident enough to talk to them.

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This guy is a master ar picking up chicks though

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Fair enough, but not all chicks like to be 'picked up'. Does she know you at all, like your name for example? If not go up to her and say 'hey I'm John. I hear you're in my group' or something like that.

 

Keep eye contact and just see where things go from there.

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i already introduced myself to her

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i just feel like giving up cause i ask my friends for help and theywont help me its like when im drowning theyre not sticking out thier hand to help

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So things get tough you decide to give up? So what if your friends don't help you, maybe they like her too.

 

How long ago did you introduce yourself? Does she still remember who you are? Is there a seat next to her you can take?

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i tried today to tal to her like i forced myself and i tried to say hi but i either think i didnt say it loud enough shes shy, or shes ignoring me.

 

Im left to think thses things A. shes shy towards me B. she hates me C. Im really ugly D. i smelll bad and E. Shes weird

 

i left witht this but for god sakes if she doesnt like me why does she stare at me during class

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i tried today to tal to her like i forced myself and i tried to say hi but i either think i didnt say it loud enough shes shy, or shes ignoring me.

 

Im left to think thses things A. shes shy towards me B. she hates me C. Im really ugly D. i smelll bad and E. Shes weird

 

i left witht this but for god sakes if she doesnt like me why does she stare at me during class

 

If you smell, that may be the reason you have not had any success. Take a shower. Apply some deodorant. Finish it off with a nice body spray or cologne.

 

As for the ugly... Tis all relative. Gotta have some confidence. If you think you're ugly, everyone else around you is bound to agree. You need to fix what you can and accept what you can't.

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i still think tht she likes me because she looks at me during class

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i still think tht she likes me because she looks at me during class

 

So why not just ask her?

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ask her wht

 

When you have the chance (either during the group thing or in the halls or before class) just approach her!

 

I dunno...say something daring like, "so...are you as intrigued by me as I am by you?" Depends on the girl though (some may find this a little intense and creepy and tell you to buzz off...and then there are others who will giggle at your boldness and actually listen to what you have to say).

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ill just ask her why she looks at me during class

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ill just ask her why she looks at me during class

 

There you go!

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still have to look at the posibility of wht shell respond with

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still have to look at the posibility of wht shell respond with

 

Gaaaaaaaaaaah...

 

Seriously dude, just ask her. And then deal with whatever response you get. It's better than obsessing about it. Just do it.

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Ghawam15, are you deliberately trying to antagonise us?

 

Okay some advice.

 

Don't ask her why she's staring at you? That shows a complete lack of confidence. If/when you catch her staring at you, give her a smile and a small nod of the head. Then gauge her response. If her face stays neutral or worse and/or she looks away she ain't interested. If she smiles, plays with her hair etc she's most likely interested.

 

Then you can approach her either then or try and grab her after class. Say hello, maybe ask if she wants to join you for lunch.

 

And to your other question. For all you know, she might not have heard you. Or she didn't know you were talking to her. Was she actually looking near you when you said hello. I've had this happen at work before, the person didn't hear me. It's no biggie.

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yah but when i introduced meyself to her she didnt look at me directly she kept looking forward

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Were you standing right next to her? Is there a possibility she didn't hear you?

 

I've been in that situation before where I've said something and the person hasn't heard me. If it's urgent I'll repeat otherwise I usually don't bother.

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she said her name but didnt look at me directly like she was looking forward

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Sounds like she probably isn't interested then. Take my previous advice. when she looks at you next smile at her and give her a small nod. If you get a response that's good, if she just looks away then she ain't interested.

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