Heartache11 Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 Well, I feel as if the whole break-up is sort of just there now. I wouldn't say I'm over it, but I am indifferent to everything. I know he doesn't hate me, which is all I wanted to know, and that he does think I'm a great girl. Or so he says. We have talked shortly maybe 3 times in 2 weeks. He then called me Friday night saying we can't talk, he needs space. I got upset, of couse, but told him that he is the one calling me. He said we shouldn't talk for a month, that we can't be right now and that he might be throwing away the best thing he had. I'm not sure if he was drunk when this happened. We have talked after that, by my contact and he said he'd call in the next few days. I know he is confused but I think I am even more confused now. I don't think I am riding on false hope, because I know it is better and I'm pretty sure he's not coming back. I don't even think I would take him back. So is this indifferent feeling a step in getting over it? Or will I really be devistated if we never talk again?
Spinderella Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 Take it a day at a time. Dont think about what you will be feeling, but I think indifference is progress. With me I usually go through cycles of different feelings, each one shorter and less intense, or indifference followed by more cycles. Do you mind him calling you? I think if you want to be friends then thats fine but really its best to get over the relationship first. I dont think you need to think NC forever, but NC till I can be friends. Everyones different, but I dont think many people can go straight into a friendship.
Author Heartache11 Posted September 26, 2007 Author Posted September 26, 2007 I guess I go through cycles too. I've been so busy to even contemplate it lately. The calls have died down. I try to talk online every once in a while and he is just cold. I know deep down I am a better person and I think he knows I am a good person. But overall, it just seems like it's not even there anymore. I'm not making sense haha
lazer1743 Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 No, your making perfect sense! I went through the same thing, i think the "being cold" is part of the whole re-establishment process (being friends again). I thought about it and figured that most of the cold treatment is not ment to be bad but just a way us guys deal with what to say and not to say. we have to re-draw all the boundries..... and it will NEVER be the same as it was before.
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