stillbits12 Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 Hi, I very recently started seeing someone. I met him over the weekend, and we hit it off great the night we met. We talked for 2 hours and had a really great time. He asked for my number and called me the next night. We had coffee together and again talked for 2 hours. He asked me on Friday to go to a concert with him the next Friday. I agreed. At the end of the night, we made out twice before he walked me to my apartment door. I thought things went really well. I didn't speak to him on Saturday, but I called him Sunday afternoon to see if he wanted to do something Sunday evening. He called me several hours later and said he was swamped with work and couldn't make it but thanked me for the invite and asked if we were still on for the concert on Friday (we are). I had half-expected him to say something like, "But maybe we can have dinner on Tuesday?" Or something like that, just a small date before the concert on Friday. But he didn't. He also didn't mention anything about dinner before the concert. He just said the concert is at 8pm. I haven't heard from him since. Is it normal for a guy not to suggest any activities for a week before the next date? I was hoping we could squeeze in a quick dinner or even lunch before Friday, but I don't think he has the same intentions. Then I thought maybe he just wanted to be friends, but then why did he kiss me? Is this normal early dating routine? Thanks in advance.
Trialbyfire Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 I would take it at face value of him being busy at work. You're still going to see him on Friday, so why not be patient and see how it goes?
xsupermanx22 Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 i wouldnt be alarmed about that at all.....ihave done that before where i go on the first date then talk maybe the day after or something and make plans in advance, then not talk to her for a couple days. because in doin that it makes her do 2 things 1) think about you 2) make you take initiative and call him. also i have always seen that it makes the girl put some more effort into the guy if he really wants something
Krytie TV Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 Is it normal for a guy not to suggest any activities for a week before the next date? I was hoping we could squeeze in a quick dinner or even lunch before Friday, but I don't think he has the same intentions. Then I thought maybe he just wanted to be friends, but then why did he kiss me? Is this normal early dating routine? Umm... but he did make plans... for Friday... the concert. If you wanted to go to dinner on Tuesday, I promise you his ESP will not be able to tell him that. It sounds like you guys are not "game players" so why not just ask him to dinner? This is another example where if he does too much he comes off as clingy and stalkerish. He made the plans for Friday, right? If you want to do something else ask him. If he asks you for other plans before the concert, hundreds of women flock to LS asking "Are these RED FLAGS!!! OMG" and "he is constantly asking me to do things, is he controlling?"
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