mylovegrowsdeeper Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Hello Everyone, If anyone reads this and it strikes a cord of familiarity with them, PLEASE feel free to share it with me. So here's the deal, I've got about 3 months wait until we are in the same place for good. Not that big of deal right? The guy is great and I never have worries or insecurities about him cheating or finding another woman nor do I entertain such notions in thought.So where is the problem you ask? Maybe this is just a phase I'm going through, I'm new at this so I'm not familiar with all the motions just yet..He's been working a lot lately, and I mean a lot. Which I recognize with my logic as a good thing, but I'm so used to him showering me with attention.He runs his own business and really put me first for a long time so I became accustomed. I want him to do what he needs to do, I just hate this feelings of frustration and feeling like some neglected girlfriend. I think to myself, these thoughts are ridiculous!! Nonetheless I have them. I want to know how to shake them but that lovey dovey stage is like a damn tornado, you get sucked in and it turns your world around and it's nuts, I work a ton as well as run my own company too, so it isn't a matter of "you're just bored"..I considered that option too. I think it would be a foolish pity to end this when we're so close to being together for good, I dont want to quit or give up, I just want to know how to survive the distance without it eating me alive. This LDR stuff is tough....your wisdom is appreciated!!
Cobra_X30 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Do you need someone in your life to make you happy? Are you secure enough in yourself to weather a decrease in affection?
Author mylovegrowsdeeper Posted September 25, 2007 Author Posted September 25, 2007 Well, I think so..I was single and miss independent for a very long time, loved my indepedence etc etc. So yeah, I don't know if this is just a phase because LDR is new to me or what, today though after I vented my feelings it seemed like I did so much better with everything. Maybe that's all I needed?
Cobra_X30 Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 Well, I would say that as long as you have a firm foundation... and good communication... you cant go wrong! If your strong enough to handle the times apart... and it seems like you are, then you will more than likely end up bieng very happy. Sometimes you just need to vent! Do you feel that once you move closer that the time and affection will return? How strong is the communication?
Author mylovegrowsdeeper Posted September 25, 2007 Author Posted September 25, 2007 Retrospectively, I may have just needed to vent. I'm much more comfortable and okay with the whole thing now. We speak every day but sometimes he's so tired it's like his not all there, but I do realize I appreciate he at least makes the effort. I would say our communication is very good. As I said, I'm adjusting now and seem fine and okay with the whole thing now. Thanks for the correspondance!
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