trh Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 I have know this girl for a couple of months. She is 23. I really like her alot and I am sure she feels the same way but I think she has some severe intimacy issues. I have know her for about a month now. During that time she has reveled to me at various times the following. 1. Parents divorced at a early age. She then lived with her drunken father. 2. Social Services took her out of there and she lived the next couple of years in a couple of different foster homes. 3. She moved out on her own at age 14. Lived with friends or by herself sence then. 4. She really has no parents at all. 5. Said to me "I am a loner, I do a lot of things by myself" in a very quite voice. 6. The last guy she dated was about five months ago. They has just started dating when she finds out he is cheating on her with her roommate who was one of her best friends. Im thinking she has some severe issues, what do you all think? trh
Sleek Geek Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 well she sure has a past filled with harsh experiences, but what matters most is how she's learned to deal with her issues - not the issues per se. It's a lot more about her attitude towards life then what her life was actually like. How does she handle conflict, solve problems, show she cares?
Author trh Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 She sends me alot of mixed signals. This is my original post on her. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t130518/ She seems to handle things on her own quite well. She is a very strong person on the outside. Seems to deal wiht all non romantic issues just fine. Its just the romantic issues she seems to have a problem with trh70
birdie Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 hi trh, I've read your other thread too. it could be a lots of things and could be that it takes her a while to trust someone. one of the posters said that she could be intimidated by the fact that you work as a bartender as you meet a lot of women. when I dated someone that worked in a bar that sort of played on my mind too so maybe that's not helping. she seems to have told you a few things about her so just be patient, if you don't feel it's hurting you then maybe invest a little bit more time and effort. maybe she just needs more time to feel confident with you. if she has serious communication/intimacy issues though, you may need to give up at some point. beware of that.
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