what now?

[scaredoflosing06]

well we are getting a divorice she said she loves me but is not in love with me..blah blah blah huh? what do i do now? im so scared i love her to death i dont know if i can go on without her how do i get over her? how long will it take? everytime i see her when i go to but up our son i just crumble. someone please help me i need someone to talk to and help me through this.

[learn2live]

I have been seperated from my wife for almost two months now and know exactley how you feel. Every time I see her or get reminded of her my world crumbles. It is a slow process and will take time be strong and give her space. My wife asked for it right away and I was not very respectfull of it and now realized that I was trying to push her toward me. I only succeded in pushing her further away from me. But as every one says on here things do get better with time..So be strong maybe join a few groups that deal separation or see a therapist like I did. It can only help.

[marsbars]

I am in the same boat myself. I can sympathize with you. Every time I see her or interact with our daughter I fall to pieces. She went straight to filing with in days of letting me know and walking out. We have been to court once in a custody/visitation hearing. She walked away with our daughter thinking I would just turn the cheek. Boy was she wrong. But I have expressed to her every time that I don't want a divorce and am not going to just walk away from my daughter. I have told her how I feel after almost 3 months and we are headed to counseling next week. She is seeing a therapist her self and I am soon to start myself. Just don't give up on yourself. You will survive. It will hurt for a long time. I didn't eat anything for 7 days after she left. And I drank a lot. Don't fall into that pit of despair. I have lost 30 lb. in all of this. Not that I didn't need to lose a few but I didn't want to lose it this way. Just find something to keep you occupied.