spookie Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 I met a guy last weekend, he called on Tuesday, asked me out for Friday. We spent most of Friday together, as well as a chunk of Saturday. When we parted, he gave me a hug and said that he had fun and would call me later. I know it's a little early to wonder, but by what day does a guy usually call if he is interested in a second date?
Author spookie Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 Any ideas, guys? When's he gonna call?
melodymatters Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Wish I could help !!! Is this the "against type" guy ? usually guys I date, say things like " when can I see you again" or "ill call you tomorrow", and they do, but they are " not my type" so I blow them off and wait for the next a**hole ! Lots of help, huh ?
Author spookie Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 Nope, he's just my type. I was fairly certain he was interested in me because he we spent Friday and Saturday hanging out with various friends of his, which I took as a good sign, and because he was interested in my relationship past and shared some of his, as well as what he was looking for (serious relationship with "right" person). On the other hand, I felt so comfortable with him that I spent the night at his apartment totally naked and took a shower with him the next morning, which felt right at the time but I'm thinking now was a tad too fast for date 1.5.
melodymatters Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 All I DO know for sure, is that I am not psychic and have NO idea WHY other people do things. I therefore try not to overthink and drive myself nuts. I guess I go with the "whatever will be, will be" theory. If he's right for you, I hope he calls, if he doesn't, chalk it up to being better off, he's probably gay/ a player/ a serial killer !
curiousnycgirl Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Agreed that is a tad too fast - having said that, the ball is now in his court. He really should call either today or tomorrow to make plans for this upcoming weekend. According to "The Rules" if he calls wednesday or later you are supposed to tell him you've already made plans, but would love to see him another time. Again this puts the ball back in his court. If he respects you (and unfortunately many men won't after moving too fast) he will figure it out and call sooner for the following weekend. Please do not think I am casting aspersions at you for moving fast, sometimes these things happen. In fact my BF (of 3+ years) and I were intimate the day we met, I may have beat myself up over it for a few days - but he did not lose respect for me and it all worked out.
Author spookie Posted September 25, 2007 Author Posted September 25, 2007 I was busy all day and just got home and checked my voicemails and he called:). Twice . I'm all euphoric and the butterflies in my stomach are making me kinda hungry.:love: I love the starts of these things. :D:D:D
Green Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 does hungry mean horny? r u hott.... Ur in second date timeline now on track
marley_86 Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 Good for you Spookie! that's such a great feeling.
Author spookie Posted September 25, 2007 Author Posted September 25, 2007 I called him back a couple of hours ago. Voicemail =(. I left one, saying I was just calling him back, wondering what he was up to, and to call me later. I know it's a little obsessive but now I'm afraid I sounded pissed because I am so freaking tiirreed. And that the "wondering" what he was up to translates somehow to my wnating him on a leash. I know it's insane that I think in these patterns but my dysfuncitonal 3-year relationship, in which I could do NOTHING right except when I stayed completely away, really scarred me. Also, I got no sleep last night and ran around all day, class -> job -> 2 job interviews -> career fair -> gym and I sounded it in the message. He hasn't called back yet. He'll call me back tomorrow right? What if he doesn't?
Author spookie Posted September 25, 2007 Author Posted September 25, 2007 And.... it's looking up! He texted: Hey just got your message, my phone died and I've been in lab since 8, i work too hard =). call me if you're still up. So I called. We had a nice brief convo. He said he was busy this week but that he might have some time to hang out Wednesday. Unfortunately, I have a test Thursday so that wasn't going to work. So we made plans for Thursday night instead. OhMyGod I can actually see relationship potential with this guy! I cannot BELIEVE that I am even CAPABLE of feeling this way again! After my breakup I really didn't think it would happen, especially not so soon! Ahh haahh haahh hhahh haahhh. And everyone always says you can't meet guys in bars, get naked that same night, and expect it to be about more than just sex! I think it's possible! Aahhhahahahaha. I'm so happy y'all. He's so smart. And cute. And funny. And fun. And amazing in bed. :love:
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