HykoCepkinFn Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Okay. I've been friends with this girl for almost 4 years. She was like a best friend well not really but she was really cool i could share alot of things with her. This summer i went to vacation and came back and i started talking to her again. I started to like and i felt she was too. So i told her that i liked her she said she did too. So we started to go out and having fun. We couln't meet too often only on fridays and sometimes one of us would have something to do so we couldn't hang out but even so she seemed happy and i was happy too i would wait forever for her. So 2 days ago she told me she wanted to brake up because things warent working out and she wasnt ready for a relationship. I was shocked. She told me she would never break up and she loved me. I knew she did but she started acting weird for the past 2 weeks. We go to different schools and her house is kind of far. She's not so popular i'm not either. I dont know why she would break up i know that her excuse is bs. She said she still loves me but doesnt want a bf so we can still be friends. I was pissed off so i told yesterday that this wasnt a game and that she doesnt have the right to make me love her so much and say she would never brake up and brake up after a week!!!and that she really f'ed up my head. So i told her today if she still wanted to be friends because i figured it would be hard without her. This is exactly what she said."I cant believe you would say that after flipping out on me like a little girl last night". I told her i was really pissed and had a bad day but she said what was my excuse for a bad day?. We went on i told her blah blah and than she stoped messeging back i told her why isnt she and she said she was confused and wanted to talk later. I felt like ****. Like i was a waste of her time so i told her sister to tell her not to bother i dont know her anymore. So my question is, can it be that her friends are telling her what to do or her sister. I'm so confused theres just no reason to break up. She told me she would never and that she loves me so much and 1 week later she told me that she wants to break up...And today on myspace she put a pic wearing this shirt saying "two boyfriends are better than one" and her sister put a comment saying ahah the shirt "two boyfriends are better than one" tisk tisk???. I feel her sister is telling her what to do and if thats the case than she would regret breaking up. Could she like someone else? I really need help someone please i'm mentally screwed i feel like i wanna die. I want to work things out with her but it feels like she's hiding something and its really hurting me.
Curious139 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Oh dear that hurts. Just a point - break your post into paragraphs because a lot of people won't read a whole block of text. I'm sorry you are going through this heartbreak. I don't think she intended this to happen for you and I'm also sure she meant it when she said earlier that you wouldn't break up. Sadly we all change. It is awful but relationships are not guaranteed. People do fall out of love or decide they need to try something else. Keep your dignity. Don't be openly angry with her. You can certainly feel angry and take it out on a punching bag, whatever it takes. But stay cool with her. No contact is the best therapy if it is finished. Keep away from her, don't message, don't look at her online - make a complete break for you own sake. Best wishes.
Author HykoCepkinFn Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 thank you so much man i did the exact thing i stoped talking to her deleted from myspace deleted pictures her number everything the thing is i cant get her off my head i dont know if she feels the same but i'm scared shes gonna come running back because i dont know if she still likes me she does probobly and if she does I KNOW shes gonna come back crawling shes gonna find out what she's missing on but when that happens shes gonna be hurt bad because i'm not gonna go back with her even though i want to so bad. If that happens should i give her another chance?
Author HykoCepkinFn Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 you know what its sooo weird i dont know if i like this or if i dont but You know that love you have against her and that feeling inside, At this point that feeling of myne just faded away. I'm not kidding if she comes to my face and says wants me back i'm gonna say no i just dont have the felings anymore i know its weird but i dont know how this is happening. She changed so much its like i dont know her shes someone else. I told her many times be yourself your so beautifull that way inside and out but she changed somehow and i know shes gonna come back running but i swear i just dont feel it for her anymore all of a sudden it's GONE i dont know if i will ever again weird but true. Thanks anyways for anyone reading and posting.
ncpd25 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 I just went through the exact same thing you did. My g/f was sending me emails and telling me she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me, spoke about children etc... She went on a trip home to N.J. and called me the next day telling me she had a long talk with her girlfriend and she now has mixed emotions. She said, she doesn't want to be in a relationship and she doesn't think she loves me. I personally think, her g/f planted a seed in her head and my ex ran back to her ex boyfriend. My feelings for my ex have changed considerably. I don't think I would ever go out with her again as I don't feel I could trust her. I never thought those words would be coming out of my mouth. I think your girl may be trying to throw some blame onto you. She's saying you acted a certain way and that troubled her. Now she has soemthing to "hang her hat on" and shift some of the blame onto you. This way she can move some of her guilt away. Do yourself a favor. Do not conatct her in any way, shape or form. The main reason for this is so you can begin the healing process but at the same, it may make her think about why you are not around anymore (not contacting her). If you do contact her, you'll push her away. Let her think what you are up to. Remember, the main reason for NC is for you to heal not to play headgames. I'll keep an eye on your post to see how you are making out. I wish the best. Keep you're head up and stay strong!!
Author HykoCepkinFn Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 ncpd25, thank you so much i think your totaly right. Her sister or one of her friends planted the seed in her head. She acts different i know this isnt her she would never act this way. It's so bad even though i hate her i still care about her and i dont want her to get hurt after finding her mistakes. Or she just doesn't like me anymore. Well whatever i dont care any more i'll do all of that i'll stop contacting her and see how it goes. If anything new happens I'll post it up. Again thank you SO much.
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