mejson Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Ok, I'm 22 and so if my fiance, I've been with her for 7 years and about two weeks ago she told to leave and not to talk to her anymore. Before this we had been arguing back and forth about older arguments... arguing about arguing and being sick of it basically. So, I decided that I should leave and maybe wait a day or two and try to talk to her about things then. I waited and she's been pushing me away more and more since and now telling me she doesn't want to be with me anymore and when I ask about the future she says she can't tell me what she'll want in the future. For the time I've been away from her she's been going out with a guy friend from her work. She has never let me meet this guy until last night when I stopped by to say hello and how's it going and she had him and two of his friends over drinking. She tells me she has no feelings for him or anybody else and that it's just that now that I'm not there she can hang out with her guy friends from work. Today, she came to my place to get a few of her things and gave me back our engagement ring because, I said the night before, if we aren't going to be together I would like the ring back (it was my mother and fathers engagement ring that I was given for when it was time.) and after saying this I told her, if we are going to be together still then I want her to keep it. She's been pushing me away and I've been telling her I'm trying very hard for us and for myself (I don't have a job at the moment and have been fixing my car so I can get one.) I know she tells me she needs her space and I've been giving her her space I've seen her three times in the past two weeks. She wont answer or return my calls and has been avoiding talking to me. I have been calling a lot and that's not a good thing I know but, I can't just stop telling her how much I love her and how badly I want to work things out and I need to lay off that calls... Now, my concerns. I fear that she does have feelings for this other guy and that she may be interested in having a relationship with him, I can't help but think that. Should I start trying to move on and get the pain over with or should I wait and get my job and show her I'm working and just hope things work themselves out. Does it sound as if she's already moved on? I'm just really confused and I don't know what to do anymore... I've tried to get her to go see a counselour but, she tells me "right now, I don't want to work on us. I just want to be alone". is that her saying she's moved on or that right now she just wants to have time? I'm so confused and hurt right now, I don't know what to do.
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