annabelle75 Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Because I got divorced. :crickets chirping:
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Lol! I read that post too Annabelle...brilliant! Irony lives! Love it :-)
OpenBook Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Because I got divorced. :crickets chirping: Annabelle, you are too much!! :D Let's see (to stay On Topic)... I'm not a BS because I'M JUST LUCKY, I guess!! In the A scenario, I would rather be the OW. At least I can walk away from the one who caused so much pain. The BS must deal with all the ties (that bind and gag!) she has to him - whether she chooses to stay in the M or leave. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
Curmudgeon Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Because I got divorced. :crickets chirping: Me too ::::flags waving::::. She left and filed for legal separation. I counter-filed for divorce.
Author annabelle75 Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 The "Why I am not an OW.." thread just made me roll my eyes. How transparent was it? Why would anyone chose to post a thread about how they are too good to be an OW in a forum full BS other than to get a collective pat on the back and e-validation. That just screams pathetic. Why wouldn't she post it here, in a forum full of OWs where here "you can say NO" message might do some good? Because we aren't blindly looking for some one to validate who we are and would see right through her little facade. That woman is an OW in an EA. Its so obvious I was apalled by how many of the BS lined up to pat her on the back. She may not have crossed the line into a PA yet, but she's getting closer by the minute. If she doesn't end the EA soon, she'll be hanging here with us in the near future. If she needs support and wants advice on how to not let it cross that line, we'd all be gald to help her out. Those of us that have seen the dark side of an A would probably help her out more than having a bunch of BS tell her she is a better person than those that admit to being OW.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 The "Why I am not an OW.." thread just made me roll my eyes. How transparent was it? Why would anyone chose to post a thread about how they are too good to be an OW in a forum full BS other than to get a collective pat on the back and e-validation. That just screams pathetic. Why wouldn't she post it here, in a forum full of OWs where here "you can say NO" message might do some good? Because we aren't blindly looking for some one to validate who we are and would see right through her little facade. That woman is an OW in an EA. Its so obvious I was apalled by how many of the BS lined up to pat her on the back. She may not have crossed the line into a PA yet, but she's getting closer by the minute. If she doesn't end the EA soon, she'll be hanging here with us in the near future. If she needs support and wants advice on how to not let it cross that line, we'd all be gald to help her out. Those of us that have seen the dark side of an A would probably help her out more than having a bunch of BS tell her she is a better person than those that admit to being OW. I wholeheartedly agree...and I either smell a rat or the poster is looking to justify an emotional affair with a forum of people dealing with infidelity. Shameful!
Tomcat33 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 The "Why I am not an OW.." thread just made me roll my eyes. How transparent was it? Why would anyone chose to post a thread about how they are too good to be an OW in a forum full BS other than to get a collective pat on the back and e-validation. That just screams pathetic. Why wouldn't she post it here, in a forum full of OWs where here "you can say NO" message might do some good? Because we aren't blindly looking for some one to validate who we are and would see right through her little facade. That woman is an OW in an EA. Its so obvious I was apalled by how many of the BS lined up to pat her on the back. She may not have crossed the line into a PA yet, but she's getting closer by the minute. If she doesn't end the EA soon, she'll be hanging here with us in the near future. If she needs support and wants advice on how to not let it cross that line, we'd all be gald to help her out. Those of us that have seen the dark side of an A would probably help her out more than having a bunch of BS tell her she is a better person than those that admit to being OW. Ha! Love it!!! thank you!!! I got bashed to death in that thread for stating the EXACT same thing you did, and some "regular you know whats" accused some of us of chansing the poster away Pleeeease, don't make me laugh! That was such an arrogant post and she was SO walking on thin ice, it is how a LOT of us got started but you couldn't hear the reality because as you said the "pats on the back" were so loud it camouflaged the truth.
Tomcat33 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Because if you're not an OW and you post here, you get ganged up on. and if you are an OW you get just as ganged up on if not more...heck you should know that you are VERY good at ganging up on OW. the only people that get instant brownie points with the BSs are the ones that throw out little comments that save the day.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Because if you're not an OW and you post here, you get ganged up on. No, luv, you dont get ganged up on. Certain posters come in and insult OW for the choices they make - without offering any constructive criticism - and members remind them of the rules. Thats hardly getting ganged up on...
Author annabelle75 Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 Because if you're not an OW and you post here, you get ganged up on. Well ... that is kind fo the point. I believe she is an OW. Just because she hasn't broken down and slept with the man yet, doesn't mean she hasn't formed an innapropriate bond with him. I feel as though she started that thread inorder to justify her EA but getting people to pat her on the back for not sleeping with him yet. She is on a very slippery slope that most OWs recoginze because they were there at one point too.
Cobra_X30 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Well ... that is kind fo the point. I believe she is an OW. Just because she hasn't broken down and slept with the man yet, doesn't mean she hasn't formed an innapropriate bond with him. I feel as though she started that thread inorder to justify her EA but getting people to pat her on the back for not sleeping with him yet. She is on a very slippery slope that most OWs recoginze because they were there at one point too. Yup, let me distill the point to something a little more simple. Something along the lines of... "I'm better than all those 'other women' over there". Maybe with a little bit of "Someone please validate me!!"
Tomcat33 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Yup, let me distill the point to something a little more simple. Something along the lines of... "I'm better than all those 'other women' over there". Maybe with a little bit of "Someone please validate me!!" Yeah exactly! with a bit more of "and I have no desire to end my relationtionship/"friendship because I won't become and OW" with this man because I just don't turn my back on men in need. PLUS if he were single I would be all over that because he is totally hot. I think he is trying to do the right thing. Whenever it feels that we are getting closer (we talk more, really connect), he pulls away. I will hear from him maybe a few times a week, we'll have great conversations, and then he disappears. When he reappears, it's usually back to normal (without all the sex talk). I think he is struggling to not make a mistake and luckily for him I won't go down that road. No doesn't sounds like someone who is treading on thin ice "not at all"
Art_Critic Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 What is the topic ?.. Divorce, BS or crickets ? If it's crickets I have a cricket joke fer ya : Why don't grasshoppers like football games? Because they prefer cricket I think I hear more :crickets chirping:
Author annabelle75 Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 What is the topic ?.. Divorce, BS or crickets ? If it's crickets I have a cricket joke fer ya : Why don't grasshoppers like football games? Because they prefer cricket I think I hear more :crickets chirping: Hee hee ....
bish Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Because if you're not an OW and you post here, you get ganged up on. Now...don't get worked up here. The why I'm not an OW thread was pretty much designed to ruffle feathers...as was this one. thats why I didn't even bother with the other one.
Woggle Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 You say that as if OW and BS are the only two choices.
Tomcat33 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 What is the topic ?.. Divorce, BS or crickets ? If it's crickets I have a cricket joke fer ya : Why don't grasshoppers like football games? Because they prefer cricket I think I hear more :crickets chirping: Awww that's a cute joke AC!!
Impudent Oyster Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 The only women who are immune to being BS'S are single women. Everyone else is just taking their chances. And those who marry their MM? Those chances are pretty good...
underpants Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 I am not a BS or an OW. I am a single person who has no desire to come between anyones' marriage. I had a similiar problem to that poster in the other thread. I guess I was lucky to have posted it in the general relationship forum. She seemed to have come to the conclusion that distancing herself from her 20 year friend was the wise thing to do. That was what I did with my friend. I don't understand what all the fuss is about really? That being said my experience led that person to take a look at his marriage and I think (hope) he fixed it, or is working on it. I did advise him a bit and gave him some hard nose truths. This respected advise did come from someone who has known him for 20 years and truely has his best interests at heart. Then we did not speak for months. Then he did thank me and we are more distant friends now. They are still together, no one is cheating and I hope they can get through their patch a stronger union. I like both of them. Sometimes there are no ulterior motives.
Cobra_X30 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 The only women who are immune to being BS'S are single women. Everyone else is just taking their chances. And those who marry their MM? Those chances are pretty good... Don't forget the Widows! Or the soon to be widows!
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