ijustwannago Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 it seems to me that after a couple days of being angry, i crash emotionally. i'm exhausted crying off and on and back in bed. bargaining in my mind.... i'd like to find a way to stop the dreams. did this happen to anyone else? i feel like i'm drowning.
Bosiell Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Dreaming of the relationship, of being back together is horrible, no two ways about it. I past relationship led me to dream of the girl and being back togther many many times, id wake up in disbelief and numbness each time. A more recent break up, one far more heartbreaking and one I am still trying desparately to comes to terms with, as yet I have not had any dreams from it, I am dreading they will ever happen, praying they wont. I try and clear my head as much as possible before trying to get to sleep, easier said then done of course. I can relate to the drowning, sooo many emotions, its as much as I can manage just to breathe at times.
hopeforlove243 Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 You are not the only one, I am in a similar boat here. You can post details of your story, and people here can give you some inputs to help you out. Their posts helps me a lot.
Author ijustwannago Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 Bosiell and hope thanks for your response. I'm so slad that i found this great shack.do you think we are dreaming because we are trying to come to terms or what is the deal i feel like sleep is not my friend and tthen i get caught in that insomina place and not hungry...ect. i really should be exercising. but i'm so afraid to lose it in public that i've been staying home. just a couple days ago i was so glad to be out of my room now i can't even open the door...ha.
hopeforlove243 Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I totally understand your feeling, I don't want to go out, or even call my friends this weekend, I just wanted to be alone. I feel good too about finding this website, knowing that there are people out there that you don't even know, willing to give you suggestions, help you out when you needed. I can't even tell my friends and family what really happened, but I can tell people on this site. I don't know your story, for me, I couldn't sleep or wake up at the the middle of night, all because I am having a hard time to let the man I love to go. The first thing comes to my mind is him when I wake up, sad, isn't it?
Author ijustwannago Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 i think your are honest. wow..i wish that it could be as easy to fall out of love with him as it was to fall for him. so sorry bout you and the ex.
tinke Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 i still have a long way to go...but, i had come quite the distance. i happened to stumble upon this site accidently...what a blessing!!! i cannot begin to tell how helpful it has been just to have a forum to share my feelings and receive insight from others. just keep posting, there are many fabulous people here offering support. yes, i had those awful dreams early in the break-up. i awakened in a panic (heart racing) when i dreamed he had left. reality kicked in quickly..that it was not just a dream! i can tell you early on, he occupied my mind constantly, and i felt deep pain. through time, the intensity has lessened, and i am able to see him without the rose colored glasses. it still hurts, but not that early physical pain! so, although it seems impossible, trust that it will get easier. so many have said the same here..just keep on! keep posting!
Trialbyfire Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Here is the post of the day from No Foolin'. Common sense at it's purest level. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t130651/
Author ijustwannago Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 thank you so much for responding all of you. now i feel welcome here! I'm glad that i can read peoples progress in different stages. it give me hope.
Curious139 Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 What you are experiencing feels very familiar. I can remember waking one morning almost crying out from a nightmare that I'd lost her - only to realise within a couple of seconds that it was true. If I could have died at that moment I would have....... It took me a month to move back from such intensity, another month to cope with everyday life and I'm in month 3 at the moment. Many ups and downs, lots of sad days and nights. The main thing is that it does eventually get better. At the moment just take it hour by hour, no-one expects you to bounce back from suh a loss immediately. Allow yourself to grieve, it is normal and necessary. Best wishes.
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