genaro12x Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 i have been couple times out with this girl during summer. we know each other from school and we considered each other as friend. but during the summer we got to know each other and i started liking her but i keeped the thing secret because i did not want to take it too fast because she is not that type of girl and never had a boyfriend. but after the summer we started going to school. she acted strange and barely talked to me. than after some time she told me that she heard the our classmates were spreading rumors that we already went steady. she said she does not want to talk for some time. the strangest thing is that she still talked to her friends (who probably spread the rumors) but not me. i asked her why does not she talk to me and she told me that she does not know and she tries but somehow she cannot. but after a week i asked her i she still does not want to talk she said that we can talk. i said that we could go out sometime but she said that i should not go too fast on her. i do not understand this because we went out couple times already and now she wants me to slow down? in school she talks to me when i talk to her but i can't stop thinking that she is avoding me. it is a third week now. pls help what is with this girl.... is she shy to show interest or has no interest in me?
kymberann Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I think she has explained to you exactly the way she wants it. Just work on the friendship!
Green Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 u should forget trying to be her bf and start talking to other girls, she'll make it clear if she wants to start things up again. Girls arnt usualy that clear when they end things but u obviously relise its over
Author genaro12x Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 i have been couple times out with this girl during summer. we know each other from school and we considered each other as friend. but during the summer we got to know each other and i started liking her but i keeped the thing secret because i did not want to take it too fast because she is not that type of girl and never had a boyfriend. but after the summer we started going to school. she acted strange and barely talked to me. than after some time she told me that she heard the our classmates were spreading rumors that we already went steady. she said she does not want to talk for some time. the strangest thing is that she still talked to her friends (who probably spread the rumors) but not me. i asked her why does not she talk to me and she told me that she does not know and she tries but somehow she cannot. but after a week i asked her i she still does not want to talk she said that we can talk. i said that we could go out sometime but she said that i should not go too fast on her. i do not understand this because we went out couple times already and now she wants me to slow down? in school she talks to me when i talk to her but i can't stop thinking that she is avoding me. it is a third week now. pls help what is with this girl.... is she shy to show interest or has no interest in me? oh how many things happened since my last post. this girl went completely crazy. i talked to her for couple times and after some time she said that i am annoying and i should not talk to her again. the thing is that i barely talked to her. so we stopped talking again and i am probably not going to start with it for another time. it is for 5 weeks now. this is mainly for girls: how would you explain this behavior? i am just wondering if it is normal to act friendly and than all of a sudden start doing this. the most crazy thing is that one of my classmates is much more annoying (everybody says it) but she does not stop talking to him or tell him anything (she rejected him earlier so she cannot like him and that is why she is doing this)! i really do not know what to think about it.... thanks for advice....
Author genaro12x Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 nobody has no idea? i know it is hard but i really would like to know the answer...
KenzieAbsolutely Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 nobody has no idea? i know it is hard but i really would like to know the answer... well, we're not her so we don't know what the answer is, only she does. i think it sounds like she was pretty up front with you. she wants to be friends, she doesn't want you to go fast. that's all you can know. the fact that she is not seeming very interested in you is a big thing. i think she is trying to phase you out because she does not want a relationship with you. if she did, it wouldn't bother her that her friends thought you were together through the summer. find someone else. if this girl liked you, you would know it.
Trezza Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Dude - one minute you were her friend! You were a guy who she could confide in etc etc. you were one of her 'girlfriends' in other words - just a friend. Then, although you said it wasn't you, she finds out that you like her more than a friend! She is shocked, she feels that you have been manipulative in a way because she thought she had a friend, and you thought that you were working your way up to a romantic relationship! She looses trust for you Best advice - as KenzieAbsolutely said, move on and find another girl! This 'relationship' is done.
Author genaro12x Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 thanks trezza and kenzie. you gave me very good answers and it helped me to understand the situation somehow(esp. trezza). there are still some things i do not understand but i it does not matter. as i wrote i am done with this girl i only wanted to know what changed her behavior so much. moving on...
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