1EvilGenius Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I met this woman at a company I worked for, we started off as really good friends but both of us were in other relationships. After a while we decided to drop the other relationships and start dating each other. We got engaged and are supposed to get married next year. When we are together we fight every once and a while, but what couple doesn't? I am in the Army and am currently in Texas for some training. It seems like every day we fight about something different. It is becoming apparent to me that being a military wife would not be the ideal spot for her. This is a six month training and she is going in to some kind of depression. I could not imagine what a deployment would do to her. She wants me out, but I cant do that. Anyway, with all the fighting that has been going on lately it has affected my attitude and I find myself going into bad guy mode with even the closest of friends and family. I guess the root of the problem is the girl that is my class. She is going through a divorce so she has been there for me and I have been there for her when she needs it so we have become pretty close. She is pretty much the polar opposite of my the girl I am with now. I have more fun with here than I ever have with the girl back home. We have more in common and have the same ideas about relationships. The other day at my friends house things kinda came to a head and we ended up kissing in the hallway before her and some of my other friends went off to the club. It has been pretty crazy and I am not entirely sure what to do. I cant deal with the girl back home and worry about keeping my buddy alive at the same time. I have thought about being single for a little while, maybe till I hit 30. I am only 23.
Darkzen Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I met this woman at a company I worked for, we started off as really good friends but both of us were in other relationships. After a while we decided to drop the other relationships and start dating each other. We got engaged and are supposed to get married next year. When we are together we fight every once and a while, but what couple doesn't? I am in the Army and am currently in Texas for some training. It seems like every day we fight about something different. It is becoming apparent to me that being a military wife would not be the ideal spot for her. This is a six month training and she is going in to some kind of depression. I could not imagine what a deployment would do to her. She wants me out, but I cant do that. Anyway, with all the fighting that has been going on lately it has affected my attitude and I find myself going into bad guy mode with even the closest of friends and family. I guess the root of the problem is the girl that is my class. She is going through a divorce so she has been there for me and I have been there for her when she needs it so we have become pretty close. She is pretty much the polar opposite of my the girl I am with now. I have more fun with here than I ever have with the girl back home. We have more in common and have the same ideas about relationships. The other day at my friends house things kinda came to a head and we ended up kissing in the hallway before her and some of my other friends went off to the club. It has been pretty crazy and I am not entirely sure what to do. I cant deal with the girl back home and worry about keeping my buddy alive at the same time. I have thought about being single for a little while, maybe till I hit 30. I am only 23. From personal experience, don't get into a LTR while in the military. The divorce rate at Fort Hood while I was stationed there was over 50%. Plus out of my company, maybe 20% of the guys had any type of success in LTR. It takes a special kind of person to be able to handle that. The fact that you both left other people to be together also doesn't bode well for the relationship IMHO. The long distance thing (hometown sweethearts) is much worse also, from my experiences. I assume you're National guard or reserve component, which is worse than being active duty for relationships. Date girls and such, but I'd stay away from any type of LTR. Wait until you ETS or look for a very loyal and understanding partner. Good luck.
Author 1EvilGenius Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 Actually I am active, Ft. Bliss. Here re-classing for ADA. Thanks for the advice.
Darkzen Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Actually I am active, Ft. Bliss. Here re-classing for ADA. Thanks for the advice. I was infantry myself. No problem, I try and look out for fellow soldiers, plus advice is free Stay safe brother.
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