heartoutside Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I won't bother telling my whole story, but basically a little over a week ago I called my ex to tell her that I couldn't take her constant text message'n and that she had to decide if she wanted me in her life or if she has moved on. She thought I had moved on already and that I stopped loving her so I poured my heart out to her (not my intent at all, it just happened). I return 4 days later from a trip and she had sent me an email saying she was really confused, thought we had an amazing relationship, and that we had gotten comfortable and didn't care, and now that we are apart "we care?" I replied to her email, telling her that we could have worked on what was wrong if I had known that were issues, that I never stopped loving her and some other things. I ended the email telling her that when ever she is ready or wants to talk we can talk. 2 days later she calls, I don't answer, so she texts me asking when I would like to talk. We agree to have dinner the following night. That day, she sends me a text saying that she has too much school work and was wondering if "we" could take a rain check. We do..... I haven't heard anything from her since about the dinner. She's asked me about the gas bill which was sent to her house, she asked me about work related things and she's asked me I'm mad at her (because I ddin't reply to the work related text). But nothing about dinner. It's been 3 days since she's made some kind of contact with me, and I'm almost going insane. I guess. And to top it off, a contract job that I made a bid on I didn't get (After I was told I would be the one). I'm just having a hard time right now finding my place, being comfortable in my own skin. Letting things be. I can't seem to relax at all. I went to the beach yesterday and that helped, but as soon as I get home, I start to settle right back into the unease. I'm sitting on the fence wait'n for this, but how do I learn to take things as they come? Be myself again, and roll with the punches? I have a hard time just sitting at home by myself......
Spinderella Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Because you are in limbo. I think in this situation it would be ok to ask her when she is free to do this dinner, then maybe tell her the dates that you are free and ask her to choose one. That way you look like you have value on your time. At least then you will get your answer. Or maybe say, ok it seems talking about resolving our differences is not very important to you, so I would like to heal from this now, and I dont want you to contact me.
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